What does having a girlfriend feel like?

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Yea Its Great Having someone that cares and the ones who read this topic... dont feel down love is Hard to get ahold of.

Whisperer is right in that coming out of a relationship you are a different person. It's painful but at least you know what you need to do and move on, hopefully .

I have to agree also with the people who wonder what they're doing wrong when a woman suddenly goes off them after a date. I've had this happen to me a few times now and it is a tad disconcerting. One minute they're all keen and great, the next time they're rather cool and hands-off, but they refuse to say why exactly, so you're left to wonder.... and we all know that wondering is a dangerous thing.

Perhaps it's all too easy to see a girl and imagine how life would be with them every day. Sometimes that thought can get in the way of getting into the position in the first place.

Wow... I can relate to you there. Not quite exactly the same thing, but still, I continue:

My story is of someone I met from a friend who knew her. She, like me, was a Formula 1 fan so we connected really quickly, and it wasn't long until there was feelings for each other. We only ever met once in person (as she lived quite far away), and it was one of the best days of my life (then again, saying that now, I think 2 days after was better - when Jenson Button got his first and so far only win, but I'm going off-topic there). The holding hands thing, head on my shoulder etc. just felt like... wow. I couldn't actually believe someone really cared for me like that.

Of course, like your story, it came to a sad end when I discovered that actually she wanted someone else, and had even been going to the cinema alone with them before I even met her in person, so you can imagine how I felt.

Now, unlike you, I have had a gf. The feeling is incredible and they have been my happiest moments in my life, although neither of my gf's actually wanted to be with me (I was a fallback for problems in their last relationships) so my first only lasted 2 and a half days, my second 8. I've yet to really have a proper gf, which to be fair is really bad as I'm literally the only one in my family who is single (my cousin who is almost 2 years younger than me has had a bf for almost 2 years now).

I do understand having somebody isn't everything in life, especially at my age, being only 18, but it would be nice to actually have someone, because when I look around, very few of my friends are single too (Wow... if my life was made into a movie, it would be heavily influenced by the Needs Theory of Maslow).

It has been said that Darth Vader had Borderline Personality Disorder. It kind of sounds like you went out with a member of the Sith.

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"You are never completely worthless; you can always go down as a really bad example."

While it's still quite early, I'm inclined to say that I can only partially agree here--primarily on who you find. I've recently been in a quasi-relationship with someone (it's not been defined clearly, but has many of the makings of a relationship) and so far it seems great--despite all the "uncool" things.

It's been quite odd for me, in fact down right unsettling in a number of instances, how much she seems to actually enjoy my quirks. She states it's because she find herself strange and stated, "most every man is the same, dull and boring, but you you're unique and I think that's what attracts me to you. I find you very interesting."

Here's why I'm inclined to think this may be different than times before. In the past, it seems that most women just take the position that my oddities won't or don't bother them. However, with her it seems that she actually enjoys my oddities--which is actually a first. What has made this easier is that she was quite open about a myriad of things, some rather intimate, and it made it easier for me to be open about myself (I'm generally a closed book and only gradually feel comfortable truly being myself), so it's not as if she's under any delusion as to who I am. Additionally, every time I start thinking that this will be the time she draws the line, I am proven wrong.

At this point, it seems now that the biggest problem really rests within my own mind.

And who knows, it may work and it may not--for any number of reasons. Ultimately though, I'm enjoying this as much as possible and figure I ought just let the dominoes fall these days.

While I don't want to give false hope, I hope this helps a bit or at leasts provides some sense of positivity as I tend to think that negative thinking is what destroys peoples dreams the most.

As far as the original question goes, I agree with the second post:



Though I'm starting to believe that the right person may help reduce the stress--or at least eventually.

The original quote is:



OP is a boy. He meant he's never had a girl ask him out.

she makes me feel loved and appreciated .
she's like my other half, she makes me feel complete.
when i hear her voice, her laugh, when i see her smile, it makes me the happiest and most content i've ever been, like everything's going to be alright.
it is amazing; quite wonderful and i feel truly blessed.
not to say it's not pretty stressful sometimes though.
everything has it's ups & downs.

It is such an amazing feeling, especially this girlfriend that I have now, it is literally so special that this is the best relationship I would have ever had in a million years.

The ones I had before, Ive never really had a feeling as strong as this one.

I'm so loved.

Who grave dug this thread's corpse up?

Anyway, it feels amazing when things are going well and makes you depressed when they aren't.

While you're in the relationship and things are going well, you will be convinced that it's the best one ever... Just like the one before that.

When it ends and you get over it, you'll repeat the same thing with someone else until that fails too.

If you're lucky, though, you'll eventually find someone who you don't break up with. It won't make you always feel amazing after a few years, but it will still be a special connection which will hopefully last.

It's nice although at times you can miss them when they aren't with you, or if you've been single of a long while you'll find it a little hard from time to time as they do need to have you to pay attention to them and be nice to them....

However I like to get the same kind of thing from my Gf (abet in a more feminine way where she just makes me feel nice by telling me how, nice and sexy I am towards her) so fair's fair...

My gf can be at times come across as a little 'needy' from time to time but then that's only because she loves me so much.

After all I can't see myself being any different if I were a girl so I don't ever put her down for it.

(Even though you do get 'needy' guys they aren't as common as 'needy' girls for some odd reason)

But on the whole it's a good thing to have a loyal girlfriend as you'll know that they'll always be there for you!! !!

Goodbye Till Next Time

I can answer from the flip side about what having a boyfriend feels like...

I would mostly concur with what other people have said here, like that it's nice to have someone that can make you feel good and who accepts you for who you are (even those parts about yourself that you don't really accept).

The relationship that I am in right now is my first romantic relationship and I think it's his second and it's been official for about eight months and unofficial for close to a year. I guess it's nice because while it's a romantic relationship, we do a lot of stuff that's not necessarily romantic in nature.

A naggin pain in the arse

Save yourself the trouble