How should I act?

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What is more natural than two friends spending an afternoon or evening together.

You don't have to make with the whole 'I really really like you' bit.

First objective is to get some time with him alone. Then you can see how it goes.

Are you able to sit next to him in class?
If you can then you can work together and have little chats during practicals.
It would then be so natural for you to walk with him after class.

If you go for next week you will have a chance for a bit of preparation and research.
i.e. find out what he likes doing if you don't already know.

You don't want anyone to snap him up as their valentine though.

You could ask if he would like to go see a movie sometime.
Then negotiate a movie you both like. (Or more likely both don't dislike )
Then fix a time.

I agree with BigK on this one, what is more natural than spending time with a friend?
I doubt he will ask you a whole lot of questions if you simply ask if he would like to do something sometime.

So, I have a wee update.
Nothing big, (unfortunately) but I have noticed that he is acting more awkward than usual lately. For instance, he's talking with someone else and then, when I come up and join in the conversation, he always makes these really lame, stupid jokes. They always fall flat, but it's oddly endearing.
I usually walk out of computer class with him and we talk on our way to our next classes, but we always talk about silly stuff, like video games we played when we were little kids or stupid inside jokes.

We don't usually meet up outside of school either, as we are both pretty serious students (and enrolled in a difficult College prep school) and thus, have boatloads of smelly homework every night. Plus, he's in band, and how can you have a social life when you are in band and a serious student? It's kind of tough.
My point is that, if I did meet up with him outside of school, especially by ourselves, then it would have to be a big deal because we are both so dang busy.

Side Note: This thread is making me come across as completely boy crazy, which I'm really not. I'm pretty level-headed for the most part (especially for a teenage girl) and I don't usually talk about stuff like this on a regular basis (on forums or in real life). I just don't want people getting a false impression of me. Thanks for listening to me yammer. (:
Anyway...

Aaaaand... I'm sad. ):
I was wandering around online and I stumbled across my friend's (meaning the girl) online journal. I was curious to see what was in it (and a bit nosy), so of course, I read it.
According to her journal thing, she does like him as more than a friend and after that dance she went to with him last weekend, apparently she kissed him on the cheek. She left before she could see his whole reaction, but she said he seemed somewhat shocked and nervous.

I still know nothing about how he feels about her, because the last time I talked with him, he said that he and she are just friends. He seemed uneasy around her last week, and now I know why, but I don't know whether he is nevous because he likes her or because he doesn't and she was too forward.
Whatever the case, I'm thinking it would be best for me to abandon hope of having him as anything but a friend. Also, she is always hanging out with the band kids after school, since her sister stays late for Drama and is her ride home, so she can be with him more than I can anyway.
Well, whatever. I'm upset, but I'll be Ok.
He's still my friend and is still mucho fun to talk with. No harm done, right?

I wouldn't give up just yet... just because there's some other girl trying to win his attention doesn't mean he likes her... I've been in plenty of situations where girls have hit on me even when I'm not attracted to them... and I'm sitting there trying to not hurt their feelings, so I go along with it...

The main issue with many men is that they often have the same (if not more) trepidation that women have... especially if there are genuine feelings involved (there are the types that hit on every woman they see, but their level of feelings often don't run past physical)...

The core part of this issue comes from the fact that many men don't want to be rejected, especially on such a highly emotional level... Aside from the bruised ego, men are often socially trained to bury their feelings, and such a rejection is extremely hard to bury (I know this from firsthand experience); it often leads down the path to severe depression...

Conversely, that same social training prevents most women from approaching the man directly. (I hate the way society is set up, but that is the case, especially in the States). If you were to ask him out, he may be completely put off by something that unexpected, that he might reject even if he genuinely desires to go out with you anyway.

The best middle ground is to tell him directly that you love him/have feelings for him (which ever it happens to be), and let him make the move knowing that you would accept (which would increase his chances of actually making a move)...

Hope this helps...