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I guess I can flirt, but only if the girl gives me some sort of sign that she likes me. And even then, it's in a terribly shy way

I find it safer not to comment at all.

Of course, then I get told off for never commenting.

In particular, my poor wife would like some nice comments but I'm so well trained not to comment that I dont.

I used to flirt a lot but then get taken seriously and end up going out on a date I didnt want .

I would always flirt with women who at the time i felt were "out of my leauge" which makes it easy to flirt, no emotional investment

but SURPRISE!

Ive never been any good at flirting. Whenever I have tried to initiate it it goes NOWHERE FAST.But TrueDave, its not that uncommon for women to have the experience that you have. There is a girl who gives me these weird, sardonic expressions like pursing her lips and twisting her mouth to the side of her face. I kinda suspect thats her indirect attempt to flirt.

I used to think that I'd never have the skills or experience to flirt, but lately after a few dates I'm starting to get the hang of it. There's this girl I'm talking to online. I don't think it'll ever develop into a relationship because she's too far away and... well its complicated. But anyways, sometimes when I'm bored I end up chatting with her and some of the things coming out of my mouth even amazes me. She really digs it (then again, she makes my life easier by putting in sentences that leave a lot open to interpretation...).

Now I just have to translate my online flirting to real life and I'll be set.

Actually, I sometimes flirt with people I actually know and at least go along with it when people I know try to flirt with me. But what I was Really saying in the starter post is that I dont flirt with strangers and when a stranger tries to flirt with me I often brush her off cuz I assume she's not serious and so therefore Im not going to get anything from her.

I just don't know how to flirt - and I've never really done it, even though I have had a gf. Neither do I know how to react when others flirt with me, though that is extremely rare I must give off pretty powerful 'weirdo' vibes.
If I knew how to do physical contact...

The more I know a woman, the easier it is for me to flirt with her...

90% of the time it seems to me, flirting isn't for real. If a girl is EXTEMELY obvious and up front about it, then she usually just wants to flirt or tease you. Its a self-esteem boost if you flirt back, so don't fall for the game, brush them off. This actually gives you a chance they might try and flirt with you moreso, because they really want that little boost of self-esteem now. I could see Asperger's guys as being real victims of women of low character, so watch out.

Another thing I've noticed is that some girls flirt simply to make their boyfriends jealous. There was this one girl who flirted with me in college, even after telling me she had a boyfriend. Then, later I saw her making out with another guy. Even later, I found her boyfriend was in prison. Hoo boy... So seriously, my misogynism does have a source.

Flirtation's always left me incredibly confused. To the best of my knowlege I don't do it and couldn't recognise it at all. Yet people keep telling me I am flirting with them, or others, and I actually seemed to be quite well know for it for a while...

Last week, the girl working at the pizza shop near campus flirted with me. I don't think she was being serious though. She asked me how much jalapeños I wanted, and I said "a lot" and she said "Oooooh! My kind of guy." and I just gave a quick chuckle. I don't really flirt much. I failed so horribly at it in the past, that my mind has trained itself not to.

Aspies are incapable of flirting. Or maybe it's just I'm incapable .

Im tempted to fold my arms and roll my eyes next time a stranger tries to flirt with me in a very obvious way.

I absolutely do not flirt.

Nor can I ever even realize when someone flirts with me.

I don't flirt. Probably cuz I couldn't even if I wanted to. On top of that, I find it annoying. I also find it a waste of time. I prefer to be completely open about my feelings, not beat around the bush.

-Mist