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28 Dec 2011, 10:29 pm

AdrianB wrote:
This might be very weird, but I couldn't help but reread this post. I even forgot I wrote it. A bit over two weeks ago, the 13th of December, the relationship I started moments before I wrote this, ended. I'm trying to get over it by facing all the beautiful and horrid memories.

It's a bit shy of four years later. I've changed over the years. She did too. Everyone and everything did.
But I'm not afraid of that anymore because in a few years, I'll look back upon this moment and see myself the way I look at the OP.

One thing still remains: The beauty of it all. The pain, the love, the sorrow, the joy.. They're all emotions so deep and beautiful.. Sure, it hurts really bad right now: it bites, it tears apart. But it once filled me with warmth, made me jump out of joy.

As soon as I read this, I knew I'd do it all over again. Every single bit was worth it in the end.

If you're doubting whether love is worth the, sometimes inevitable, pain: YES IT IS.

And it might seem ironic to revisit a post, where I proudly proclaim "I did it!" with a story of a break-up, but it's not. I f***ing did it. I had a relationship for four years.

i am happy that you had the experience and were able to come through the other end of it a changed person. you must be strong to be able to revisit the memories like this, and i am glad you resurrected your story to share your successes with us. it didn't turn out to be forever, but it did turn out to be life-changing and important. it sounds like it was worth it.


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28 Dec 2011, 10:29 pm

No regrets. Beautiful.



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29 Dec 2011, 6:51 am

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I think four years is a fairly long time to be with one person. Congratulations.

Does it get easier to meet women once you have experience on the matter?


Yes. I can fairly say I don't have a lot of qualms anymore about talking to a completely unknown girl. I don't know why, I don't know how, but I can say it does.

Talking to a women, after being together with, or around, a women for a long time, doesn't really phase you anymore.



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29 Dec 2011, 7:02 am

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maybe european girls are easier to get than americans. :lol:


Euro girls are absolute sluts! :P This is a generalisation, but a fair enough one.



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29 Dec 2011, 12:09 pm

Spazzergasm wrote:
weather1man wrote:
maybe european girls are easier to get than americans. :lol:


Euro girls are absolute sluts! :P This is a generalisation, but a fair enough one.


Euro girl in itself is a huge generalization.. It's like saying American chicks are all the same: A women form NY will be different from a girl in rural Kentucky.



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29 Dec 2011, 6:54 pm

Magnus_Rex wrote:
I think four years is a fairly long time to be with one person. Congratulations.

Considering 3 years is the usual breaking point, he did very well. :D



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29 Dec 2011, 8:43 pm

AdrianB wrote:
Spazzergasm wrote:
weather1man wrote:
maybe european girls are easier to get than americans. :lol:


Euro girls are absolute sluts! :P This is a generalisation, but a fair enough one.


Euro girl in itself is a huge generalization.. It's like saying American chicks are all the same: A women form NY will be different from a girl in rural Kentucky.
"A woman from NY is like this and that" is still a huge generalization... :roll:


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31 Dec 2011, 1:37 am

Congratulations of going through an almost 4 year relationship!