i am 26 and never had a date.

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I'm 14, and I already know I'm going to die single and a virgin.

I have never been on a date, had a girlfriend, and I freeze up around girls.

Just shoot me and put me out of my misery now.

Yeah I can definitely feel what you're going through... I still want to date but I don't want to go beyond the social circles I'm already in to find one, and yes I do feel old even though I'm 20...

with an attitude like that you will.

I hadn't been on a date until my first year of university (a real date, where i asked the girl out). when i was your age i was pretty much the same way. i know it really sucks now but if you work at it i'm sure you'll get somewhere.

Good advice

Me too only mine is with guys.

double posted the same thing...

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Indeed. Remember that your relational status is not the only indicator of success in life (although in high school it will seem that way). I personally see myself as largely successful... I was able to get into college, and I spend a lot of time at my church doing work that other people actually appreciate my presence for. I just completely suck at getting women is all...

That's what you gotta tell yourself. You're not a total loser, you just can't get a girlfriend... and all of a sudden you realize that life isn't so bad after all...

Don't give up so easily. My high school sweetheart was 17 when we met, kissed, and started dating. It was his first kiss and I was his first girlfriend. You may yet acquire a girlfriend in the future.

I'm not 26 yet, but I imagine if I ever have a date it will be after I'm 26.

I don't know if this is good advice. First of all, if you ask a girl on a date who you are friends with and will see again, and she says no, I don't know if you will be able to talk to her again ever, for reasons of embarrassment. Second of all, if you make a mistake while asking a girl out that makes you seem too aggressive, she might call the police for sexual harassment.

And oh yeah, I'm 23, and I could count the number of dates I've had on one hand.

This is exactly the kind of delusional fear you have to get rid of. Things never turn out that bad, and you lose nothing by being rejected. The only way to truly discover that is to put yourself out there & see for yourself.

I agree. No matter how bad the rejection may feel, I still feel it's better than the regret I hold at not taking any action.

Don't worry about it man. Find a girl that has a personaility you like, try to talk to her at least as much as you can even if it's just small talk. After a few weeks/maybe a month just ask her to dinner, maybe as a friend. It might not be a date, but hey at least it will give you experience. If you guys have a good time she may be open to going on a real date with you and if she says no to that, then just accept it and move on. It hurt's for a while but you'll get over it, I know I did.

21 and never had a date. Not too worried about it because I want to get a PhD more than anything.

I'm socially awkward and very intense when it comes to my work. I also have a tendency to hold on to old things even when I get something new (although my mom made me sell my old car that was just sitting in a garage while I drove my new one). I'm going to need a mansion just to hold all the stuff I'll wind up accumulating before I die.

Do you really think any woman is going to want to put up with that, let alone my 2AM psychoanalysis sessions I tend to do? Probably not.

I'm just going to get myself a few animals for company I think. Maybe a few more cars once I'm out of my mom's place...always good to have a backup.

I'm 18 years old and have never been on anything resembling a date myself. However! I do have a date for my senior prom, so I guess that'll change in a bit over a month.

Whenever I try to ask someone, I get this irrational fear like nothing else I have ever felt. I can't even say what I'm afraid of, I know it's not rejection, since I've taken rejection twice before and hardly blinked. True they were rather soft rejections (i.e. not of the "who do you think your kidding?" type), but still. And sure enough just a week ago I got my first "yes".

Basically the way I go about it is this. I find someone I trust, be it a friend or family member. I tell them what my plans are, and they will then give me the needed push to ask someone you like.

Oh, and Hyzera, you'll probably get over it eventually. If there's a girl you really like you'll find a way (my method could end up being yours as well).

I guess it depends on circumstances, I couldn't think of 10 girls I know that I would want to date at all. In fact, it has been literally years since I met a girl I was both interested in and was not taken for the long haul.

Hyzera, I hadn't kissed or dated until I was 17, when I got into a serious relationship that lasted almost six years.