Ok, consider my case- my gal fell for ME, to begin with- this was back in July of last year. At the time, I had no idea she was falling for me. I couldn't tell to save my life- everyone at work said she was flirting with me, but she also told me she had a boyfriend( one whom she hated, but that's for another day)- so for me, I thought signals were VERY conflicting.
And as I've never been able to really pick up on those signals- and most people always teased me about those sorts of things- I can flat out tell you....to paraphrase Billy Joel "tell HIM about it!". If you feel a certain way about an Aspie guy, let him know. Be warned- at first, he may not even believe you, as he may've been teased like that his whole life.
Show him signs that you really do want him. What got ME to figure it out was:
1. My girlfriend invited me to the wedding that was GOING to be, between her and her( now) loser ex. I was about to call them, and get a confirmed answer about when it was going to be...and I find that I have a text message, and a voicemail telling me to call her ASAP. She also had apparently called me like 6 times. I started thinking "ok, seriously- who honestly calls a guy SIX TIMES to tell him that her wedding is off...unless what everyone has been telling me this whole time is TRUE, and she really DOES want me?! !! !! !!"
2. We finally set a day to spend time together, and she couldn't STOP hinting to me that she wanted me. Then, my room-mate said "I see chemistry between the two of you". Now let me tell ya- my room-mate is a great guy, but is usually so naive, and can't pick up on social signals to save his life. If HE can pick up on it, I figured "he's probably on to something"
So, the following week, the program she was in ordered her to stay home( the day of her would-have-been wedding), due to the fact that, well, that's when she would've been married. That day, I was at work, and was so concerned about her you wouldn't even believe.
the next day....
I'm awoken by the sound of the doorbell. She SURPRISED ME AT THE DOOR with a Valentine's Day present, with a note asking "will you be my valentine", to which I jumped to "YEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !"
She came in, and we talked for about an hour and a half- and right there, flat out, I told her how I felt about her. She and I were on the same page, and we decided we were in the beginning stages of what appeared to be a developing relationship.
A few weeks later, we kissed for the first time, and that sealed it- we've been together ever since.
Sorry I went off on a tangent there...I just get so excited whenever I talk about how my babe and I got together