What's Your Attachment Style?

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Attachment-Related Anxiety
Your Score: 2.28

Attachment-Related Avoidance
Your Score: 1.11

Secure : people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

I was only thinking about my current partner, though, when answering these questions. I think the combination of people has to be a harmonious one for a relationship to work, so if you have never experienced that kind of harmony you might think you'll always be fearful. If I were thinking about my friends, I'd probably have scored a lot higher; my husband is aware of all of my neuroses and fears and is the one person I can talk about these things with who knows how to react to my feelings without making me feel either stupid or crazy. I do feel completely secure in our relationship, and that's great, but it took us five years to reach this point. My other friendships are what fill me with the most anxiety (does she secretly hate me? does he think everything I say is stupd? are they talking about me when I'm not around?) It's terribly narcissistic and I try to tell myself I'm being ridiculous but it feels like a chemical reaction that I have very little control over. Still, I am making slow headway by being mindful of it.

I came out as 'secure' as well. I suppose I would do, I've been happily married for nine years. How well that reflects on my non-romantic relationships in general though i don't know, my answers would have been very different.