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15 Oct 2005, 8:58 am

EGMaria2004 wrote:

When i'm in a situation like that that's so close to my cut off margin it drives me nuts.

I have a steering wheel in my pants, that's what drives me nuts.

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15 Oct 2005, 4:29 pm

Lol, I have often felt frustrated by lack of understanding. I figure that the whole situation could be easily avoided if more people would get ports in their head that can take a wire that will plug them in to another person, enabling an instantaneous sharing or information... much like graphics calculators!

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16 Oct 2005, 5:24 am

The only reason I would get a port in my head is if it would fire missiles or something.

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16 Oct 2005, 8:22 pm

Women are sphinxes without riddles.

*HINT HINT HINT*

Okay, but if you want to know what she thinks of you, never ask her "What do you think of me?" as that question reeks of insecurity, which is a major turn-off. Instead, assumes she likes you anyway, and act as if.

As for flirting? Make fun of her. Engage her in a topic of conversation that is emotional in nature and not intellectual (and not controversial) and make fun of her answer.

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16 Oct 2005, 8:40 pm

She already made it clear to me that she's not interested in a romantic relationship.

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16 Oct 2005, 8:42 pm

Thagomizer wrote:

As for flirting? Make fun of her. Engage her in a topic of conversation that is emotional in nature and not intellectual (and not controversial) and make fun of her answer.

What's an "Emotional Topic"? That advice seems tricky.

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16 Oct 2005, 8:45 pm

Perhaps I should put my new romantic dillema in here? Different person, but really entertaining story.

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19 Oct 2005, 9:09 pm

Sarcastic_Name wrote:

Thagomizer wrote:

As for flirting? Make fun of her. Engage her in a topic of conversation that is emotional in nature and not intellectual (and not controversial) and make fun of her answer.

What's an "Emotional Topic"? That advice seems tricky.

Well, it's actually easy to come up with an intellectual topic of conversation to engage another aspie in, because we're all intellectuals. These conversation openers will be about things involving politics, religion, philosophy, history, science, literature, and all the good stuff. These things can be interesting, but they do not actually generate attraction in women. In fact, they kind of turn them off sometimes.

An example of starters which would engage someone's emotions immediately would be, "Hey, did you know that the average woman in America is only 5'4", 140, and wears a size 34?" "Hey, excuse me, we could could use a woman's perspective on this question . . ." and "Why is it that women say they like 'nice guys' but end up dating shallow jerks instead?"

And then tease her on whatever answer she gives. Then you're flirting. And to them, you mat be more interesting, at least, as potential date material.

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19 Oct 2005, 9:34 pm

But that makes no sense at all! :?: :?: :?:

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19 Oct 2005, 9:35 pm

Sarcastic_Name wrote:

But that makes no sense at all! :?:

Welcome to the world.

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19 Oct 2005, 9:48 pm

ghotistix wrote:

Sarcastic_Name wrote:

But that makes no sense at all! :?:

Welcome to the world.

I offically unwelcome myself, and vouch we create our own where things make sense.

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20 Oct 2005, 7:19 am

Thagomizer wrote:

An example of starters which would engage someone's emotions immediately would be, "Hey, did you know that the average woman in America is only 5'4", 140, and wears a size 34?" "Hey, excuse me, we could could use a woman's perspective on this question . . ." and "Why is it that women say they like 'nice guys' but end up dating shallow jerks instead?"

And then tease her on whatever answer she gives. Then you're flirting. And to them, you mat be more interesting, at least, as potential date material.

I hate getting that question, because it generally translates (correctly, may I add) to the fact that I am acting as the straight male friend who happens to be in a female body- the "great guy" that guys can talk to about their women troubles. As a result of the repressed frustratin this has forstered, here are some potential suggetes responses for other women who get this quetsin a lot (god, don't let me be the only one):

-Because all of the nice guys are taken.
-Because of the nice guys are taken, usually by other guys.
-How would I know? I'm actually a very pretty man.
-Because "nice guys" can be so damn catty...
-Because shallow jerks are just more attractive, period.
-We do it for the sole purpose of confusing the weak-minded.

Anyone else have any replies to "Why is it that women say they like 'nice guys' but end up dating shallow jerks instead?" ((That wouldn't get this sent to the mature forum?))

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20 Oct 2005, 7:59 pm

Serissa wrote:

Anyone else have any replies to "Why is it that women say they like 'nice guys' but end up dating shallow jerks instead?" ((That wouldn't get this sent to the mature forum?))

Because men who fit the "Nice Guy" stereotype (yes, stereotypes do exist for a reason) usually exhibit no evidence of a spine and haven't a clue as how to interact with women, without subsuming themselves into the other person's identity.

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20 Oct 2005, 8:02 pm

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I asked what she thought of...but I forgot how much of a open question that is and she got confused. I did this all online by the way. She was confused by the question and asked what I meant by it. I'll just post the converstaion.

...sorry, chap, but she sounds like an illiterate bubblehead. Don't date beneath you.

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20 Oct 2005, 8:35 pm

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Sarcastic_Name wrote:

...sorry, chap, but she sounds like an illiterate bubblehead. Don't date beneath you.

Oh, but she's so much fun to be around! :roll:

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