weather1man wrote:
Talking is not the f***ing issue. Anyone can talk, they aren't some god, they are just people like you and me. Girls tell me I just need to open up, but other than that I'm fine. Well that doesn't help me much. I can tell you one thing though, from my limited and ret*d social knowledge. Don't f***ing talk AT someone. If you don't have anything to say, don't say it. For God's sake don't talk at her for an hour about your interests. I mean most girls know I'm a goof ball, but some girl will like that one day. Make small talk, get her to talk about herself. Then at least try, and ask her out. I mean I've been homeschooled for 12 years, I've not really had much experience. Although I haven't gotten a date with the job, I have learned some social skills. It's pretty easy for me to make friends with other guys, if they aren't really cliquey, or just jerks. I just kinda follow along and that works well for me. I always have had a feeling, that I'm going to meet my first girlfriend in college through a set up date. (as a lot do, including my grandparents).
Yes; listening is a great idea. Active listening, that involves relevant input, is even better.
Perhaps such a violent approach to language as the one above is best avoided until/unless it's clear that the other person/people are comfortable with it. .
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03 May 2008, 11:46 am
