Will anybody ever like me?

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31 May 2008, 9:44 pm

I know....sigh. Dateless wonder = Lab Pet
I really wish there was a way to facilitate interaction between Autie/Aspies and others, but how? I am so lost.
I could be a cloistered nun except I'm not Catholic.

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31 May 2008, 10:04 pm

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wow.
Labpet (if that is your REAL name!)

Don't give up.
try to be YOU.

I, like prob. about 80% of the people here, am fighting depression on top of everything else. I force myself to get out of bed every day.

I have to constantly remind myself that I am a sexy beast!!

Someday, somehow I highly suspect that I will not die alone.

I will find a funny, deep, spirited [female]soul that can challenge and put up with me, my cats, and my books.

Until that day, all I can do is look in the mirror and say, "Damn what a sexy BEAST!"

hang in there, please. and do not cloister yourself, it would be a waste!

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31 May 2008, 11:06 pm

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just feel like nobody will take the time to get to know me

Tell me about it. Look at my thread. You're not alone.

Tim, you either.

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No, I just prefer people closer to my age.

Same. I seem to get along with people twice my age, though.

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I like you plenty

Me too. I like almost everyone.

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Most of us are in the same situation. Young, old, intelligent, dumb, socially aware or not, we dont get many chances. Find your opportunity and make it work, best you can do in these days.

That pretty much sums it up. Problem is some of us don't even know where to start looking for it.

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I know....sigh. Dateless wonder = Lab Pet

Nah, = Lab Pet & Whatever Dude

I've been alone most my life. No close friend even. Why? Couldn't tell you. I can't make that plunge from friend to close friend. Probably an aspie thing. In fact, no probably.

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31 May 2008, 11:32 pm

MADDuck wrote:

ebec11 wrote:

I just feel like nobody will take the time to get to know me...I'm a really good person, honest, serious, sweet...I know I'm insecure, and not many people like Autism...but I'm really nice
I just want a boyfriend that's loyal and likes me...is that so much to ask?

Unfortunately it is too much to ask.

guys like that already have boyfriends.

umm, don't you mean "girlfriends"? Unless you were talking about gay men, of course...

Well, for the sake of argument, i'll assume you meant "girlfriend", so here goes... I've never had a girlfriend. I have the same problem the OP has: wanting to find someone who would be loyal and likes me, and I can't find any women that fit both... I've known women that are good loyal friends, but not necessarily liking me (including one i actually developed a deep attraction towards, only to permanently screw my chances with her...), and women that were attracted to me (or at least faked it well), but deep down were your garden-variety NT backstabber...

I've been told that I'm extremely loyal and accepting of people (except towards people that don't accept me). The OP sounds like the kind of person i would normally want to date. If you weren't in canada and were at least 2 years older than you are now, i would probably be sending you a PM. (unfortunately, here in the States, a 20 year old going out with someone who is under 18 is considered a creep... part of why tim said he was too old...)

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31 May 2008, 11:51 pm

Even college-age students (18-22) consider anyone older than 22 creepy (they may make exceptions if the guy is gainfully employed)

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01 Jun 2008, 12:39 am

Toadofsteel:
Actually I meant boyfriends. As in men that are that attentive, etc, MUST be gay.
It's a joke, admitted, not a very funny one.

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01 Jun 2008, 1:45 am

MADDuck wrote:

Toadofsteel:
Actually I meant boyfriends. As in men that are that attentive, etc, MUST be gay.
It's a joke, admitted, not a very funny one.

Are you calling my father "gay"? :lol:

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01 Jun 2008, 2:08 am

no, I'm calling his huband gay!! !!

LOL

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01 Jun 2008, 3:04 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

MADDuck wrote:

ebec11 wrote:

Unfortunately it is too much to ask.

guys like that already have boyfriends.

I can relate, I'm loyal and have only ever had one gf. In my case, some women do like me, but only ever as a friend; in the past few years, there's only been one girl that *might* have liked me in a relationship kind of way, and maybe a couple of girls that were attracted to me (but knew nothing about me). Evidently, loyalty is not, in practice, attractive to most - I guess it's out of fashion.

To the OP: From what I've seen, the girls that do go for loyal men do very well for the most part, unless they act as someone they're not. So you have good reason to be optimistic. You sound very nice, if I were your age and in your area I would have PMed you to suggest a meet to get to know each other.

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01 Jun 2008, 6:50 pm

in other words, to answer your original question.

Yes, you will be liked by someone worthy of you liking.

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01 Jun 2008, 8:12 pm

ebec11 wrote:

for us aspies'

it seems so
sadly

I am in the same boat
and have become bitter and angry nowadays

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01 Jun 2008, 8:39 pm

is it that bad in the collective??

I thought your hive life was comforting.

Resistance is NOT futile, it's fun actually!

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01 Jun 2008, 8:39 pm

And I would date an Aspie, but you guys are old! :cry: (to my 16 year old self)
And all the Aspies I know are girls

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01 Jun 2008, 8:40 pm

MADDuck wrote:

is it that bad in the collective??

I thought your hive life was comforting.

Resistance is NOT futile, it's fun actually!

ya ya ya
i am not a mindless drone
quite the opposite

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01 Jun 2008, 8:42 pm

ebec11 wrote:

And I would date an Aspie, but you guys are old! :cry:

(to my 16 year old self)
And all the Aspies I know are girls

age-ism!
I hate it.
in a perfect world we'd be intellectually compatible.

oh well.

We love you ebec11!

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01 Jun 2008, 8:43 pm

MADDuck wrote:

ebec11 wrote:

And I would date an Aspie, but you guys are old! :cry:

(to my 16 year old self)
And all the Aspies I know are girls

age-ism!
I hate it.
in a perfect world we'd be intellectually compatible.

oh well.

We love you ebec11!

I know! I would probably date Social if he wasn't taken and much older then I am :lol:

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