Why are women so prude about guys touching them?

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28 Aug 2008, 1:55 pm

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Thank you, didnt want to say anything,
but porn on the screen/magazines really
doesn`t do all that much for some guys,
and i had a girlfriend once who was much
more into porn then me, so it swings both
ways

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28 Aug 2008, 2:01 pm

Unwanted touching is an invasion and an assault, plain and simple, regardless of the respective genders of the assailant and the victim.

NO TOUCH!

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28 Aug 2008, 2:39 pm

A lot of women are encouraged to act "prudish" out of fear of being called "slu*ty." Plus, they generally don't get turned on as easily as guys. I don't know why that is, it's just how they are. And they are not going to change, so you might as well accept it.

I have been sexually harassed by girls before, and I didn't like it. However, they were not really attracted to me... they were just bullying.

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28 Aug 2008, 5:33 pm

ProtossX wrote:

I mean whats the big deal if a guy rubs up against you is that offensive or something?

How is touch so awful? OMG I TOUCHED U whats so bad about that? its not like i killed you or i cut out your eye or something

First of all, people have personal space that you should respect. It's not prudish, it's common courtesy.

Second of all, it's not necessarily them being a prude, it might be that it's you touching them, rather than them being touched. I've hit that brick wall before :-|

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28 Aug 2008, 5:55 pm

I'm a guy and I don't particularly like being touched in any intimate way unless it's invited. I think it's mostly because of the autism and the fact that I'm not used to being fondled. One thing I really fear is hugs, I pretty much just stand there and tolerate it until it's over, if it goes over 3 seconds I get very uncomfortable.

This girl had her hand all the way down my pants once in a bar and when I protested she couldn't understand why a guy wouldn't want a girl's hand down his pants. It's not that I don't like a girl's hand in my pants, I didn't like HER hand in my pants because she was rude and uncouth.

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28 Aug 2008, 6:37 pm

ProtossX wrote:

girls need to be more relaxed and accept that ppl touch you and there is nothing wrong with touch its not offensive and its perfectly human nature for others to touch you.

im sick of the prudish women lately epsecially in the USA right now where i live who throw a big fit if u accidentall even bump into them and ur hand touches them

listen touch isn't the end of the world u weren't psychologically scarred if a man touches u in some way get a life plz and stop being so prude in the wrold u really ruin guys life by makin all this crap offensive

wow. what an as*hole.

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28 Aug 2008, 6:48 pm

KingChaosNinja wrote:

lelia wrote:

Why are men and women so different?
Women read romance
Men read porn

I don't know why. It's just the way it is.

I think that's a gross mis-generalization of genders. I like to consider myself a very romantic person. I like to do things with flair and make the little nuances that make things just that much more special. One of the things I hate most on television and movies is when there is a love interest that never fully pans out before someone gets killed off or some such. Not because I wanted them to hook-up, but because I wanted them to be happy. Plus I don't really by that people are as different as they make themselves out to be, they just try to make things more complicated than they need to be.

Why would they want to overcomplicate things?
Women read Erotica
Men look at Porn

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28 Aug 2008, 7:53 pm

Haliphron wrote:

KingChaosNinja wrote:

lelia wrote:

Why are men and women so different?
Women read romance
Men read porn

I don't know why. It's just the way it is.

Why would they want to overcomplicate things?
Women read Erotica
Men look at Porn

While I understand you're joking, I whole heartedly disagree. Case and point; for those who have seen Firefly, nothing was a bigger disappointment to me than the fact that through the whole series that Simon and Kaylee never got on the same page though they clearly liked each other. Not because of how much I was hoping the guy was going to get lucky, but because I want to believe more than anything else that two people can find each other in extraordinary circumstances and make it work. Thankfully the movie took care of that, I want to believe and I act accordingly.

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28 Aug 2008, 9:05 pm

I was Not joking at all. Furthermore I have never seen Firefly so I have no idea really what you are talking about.

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28 Aug 2008, 9:08 pm

Haliphron wrote:

I was Not joking at all. Furthermore I have never seen Firefly so I have no idea really what you are talking about.

Fine then, from now on we're all wearing goggles. Because I have AS and I wear goggles. It will be sign of solidarity.

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28 Aug 2008, 10:24 pm

KingChaosNinja wrote:

I have seen Serenity, and I did NOT believe that relationship. In fact, I remember being a little disappointed that those two characters didn't get cannibalized.

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29 Aug 2008, 1:09 am

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I'm a guy and I sometimes get touched out of nowhere as well. Idk how many times some one (girl or boy) pinched my butt without me even knowing who it was. I don't really care and I don't make a scene out of it. But I can understand that others would. Violating some one's body without their permission is just rude.

Next to that many girls are being taught to be a person instead of an object. Letting themselves being touched just like that makes them look like an object. And if it starts with touching, who knows where it will go.

And then there is one more thing. Most men are stronger then most woman. When a man gets touched by a woman who he can clearly push off then it's not a threat. But when a woman gets touched by a man twice as strong as her, what can she do? She can try to push him away, but that's probably not going to have any effect. The only thing that does have real effect here is making a scene.

@Protossx I agree that sometimes girls overreact. But that's to get attention. But it's fairly easy for others to see when a girl is serieus or when she is just trying to get attention and when some one does this to you the easiest thing to do is just ignore her and walk away.

Good post.

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KingChaosNinja wrote:

lelia wrote:

Why are men and women so different?
Women read romance
Men read porn

I don't know why. It's just the way it is.

Why would they want to overcomplicate things?
Women read Erotica
Men look at Porn

I'm female, and I do both those things. Also, I hate reading romances, I'd rather pull my own toenails out.

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29 Aug 2008, 1:18 am

This thread reminds me a lot of something I saw the other day at Fred Meyer's. I was walking out and looked over just in time to see some incredibly skanky old guy "accidentally" run crotch-first into some young college girl's butt, pretended to apologize, and, once she had turned away, gave the thumbs up to his son. Oddly enough, his son looked a lot like the OP of this thread.

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29 Aug 2008, 1:21 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

I'm female, and I do both those things. Also, I hate reading romances, I'd rather pull my own toenails out.

Well yeah, I kind of ignored the reading part. I like reading, but not romance novels. I just like when romance gets appropriately mixed in with other things I do enjoy like SciFi and Anime or a good movie. It's kinda like peanut-butter you can put it on or in just about anything. Well unless you're allergic to nuts.

I'd also be lying if I tried to say that I don't have my fair share of both too, but I was trying to make the argument that I enjoy romance and that not all men are giant horndogs. It's an unfair generalization.

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29 Aug 2008, 1:22 am

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LOLOLOL.

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29 Aug 2008, 7:04 am

The women's reaction is an evolutionary response. Women are biologically programmed to seek out alpha males (who are often very charming and good-looking, but act like jerks), who, at least according to the evolutionary theory, have the best genes. When a non-alpha-male (the stereotypical nice guy) touches a woman, she starts protecting herself from bad genes. So she react in an angry manner, so that the non-alpha-male (i.e. the one with bad genes) would go away. As unfair as it may seem, I don't blame the women. You can't fight what nature has decided on, only go around it. So if an alpha-male touched a woman, she might not react as angrily, although she might have some reaction due to social conditioning.

Please note that good genes != good person, and bad genes != bad person. These terms are evolutionary, not social/humanistic. You agree or disagree, but this is my story, and I'm sticking to it.

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