Great personality, but....

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If I can't feel the slightest physical thing for the girl, I don't even bother attempting to know her better. It'll be a waste of time and in the end it won't work.

Except that I'm on a mission to abolish the friend zone as a means of exclusion from a relationship, so utilizing it would make me look like a hypocrite...

"It's okay, baby ... I made sure that the webcam is turned off..."

What's really funny is that I posted this in the wrong thread...

Judging from the comment I would say you made it in the right thread, even if it wasn't the thread you intended it to go...

Not true. And I'll give an example. In one of my college classes, there was this girl who was drop dead gorgeous in looks (think Jessica Simpson.) But she had a very ugly personality, and I found myself avoiding her after a while, even though I was very interested in getting to know her initially.

On the other hand, there was another girl who I wasn't attracted to at first, but I found myself very attracted to her after I got to know her, and that's because she was very intelligent and had a great personality. If she hadn't already had a boyfriend, I would have asked her out.

I have found that extreme beauty, like extreme wealth, will wreck a person's personality. It's probably not universally true, anymore than the idea that all people with disablilties are nice people.

I guess whoever said that struggling to survive builds character was right...

Heh.

Well, I'm the sort to be good friends with someone in this situation. Most of my friends are female. But I do wish appearance wasn't so important to me. Liking someone's personality doesn't make them more physically attractive to me.

quite simply, you don't date them. If you find someone physically unattrative, then you have the RIGHT to not date them or pursue any other romantic course. To lie and try to date them is being untrue to yourself, and in the end, you'll end up hurting the one who likes you.
Be humane and don't play mind games.

Good advice.

If it's not there then it's just not there. Pity dating only hurts both people in the long run. I've found that while a good personality doesn't make someone look better or worse, a person whose personality flaws I notice start to become uglier to me.

My thanks, better classed, although I may be bitterly dissapointed about love/romance, I know what is polite and honorable in romance. Just because we are lonely and introverted doesn't mean we have the right to act rudely