Why do girls get to just sit around and get guys?

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14 Sep 2008, 11:55 am

The problem I have with these threads is that it just assumes that women will just go out with the first guy who shows them any sort of attention.

This doesn't take into account that the guys they attract may have motives that are not good.

Do women have it easier than men? Some might, but it varies by person. And I do not think that being female in and of itself makes it easier to attract potential dates.

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14 Sep 2008, 11:55 am

got to love people who just pick figures out of thin air, their creativity is insurmountable

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14 Sep 2008, 12:01 pm

Girls could be coming on to you and you are missing the cues. I've had 2 girls in my life come on to me. The first one was scary. The second time I learnt from it.

PMSL @ John :lol:

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14 Sep 2008, 12:10 pm

Keith wrote:

Girls could be coming on to you and you are missing the cues. I've had 2 girls in my life come on to me. The first one was scary. The second time I learnt from it.

PMSL @ John :lol:

I've been there. But I know how to deal with those cues now.

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14 Sep 2008, 12:14 pm

Biology!

get use to it :wink:

but that's about sex (FREE sex). Dating is more than that. Guys thinks it's easier for girls cause they can easily have what the guys want. Unfortunately for the girls, that's not what they're looking for... what they're looking for is as hard to get for them as sex for us. One can't crave what they can have. It goes both ways, different needs, different POV...

just a little grey (as in 'not black and white') comment: there ARE womens for whom it's hard too....

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14 Sep 2008, 12:16 pm

coyote wrote:

Biology!

get use to it :wink:

but that's about sex (FREE sex). Dating is more than that. Guys thinks it's easier for girls cause they can easily have what the guys want. Unfortunately for the girls, that's not what they're looking for... what they're looking for is as hard to get for them as sex for us. One can't crave what they can have. It goes both ways, different needs, different POV...

just a little grey (as in 'not black and white') comment: there ARE womens for whom it's hard too....

That's exactly what I just said.

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14 Sep 2008, 12:21 pm

Not all women, though. I've seen girls complaining about the same thing you've complaining about (how guys won't give them the time of day.) Some women are just as unlucky at love as some guys.

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14 Sep 2008, 12:24 pm

coyote wrote:

Guys thinks it's easier for girls cause they can easily have what the guys want. Unfortunately for the girls, that's not what they're looking for... what they're looking for is as hard to get for them as sex for us.

But there are guys (like me) that are looking for something other than sex (it would be nice, but not necessary)... And yet I get rejected pretty much any time I bring something up. It wouldn't even be so bad if it was a straight up rejection, but the rejections I've gotten (except for the first) were all pocket vetoes, where they say things like "oh well I'm kinda busy right now", or "We'll figure something out" followed by nothing else... I didn't want sex from any of them, I just wanted to not be alone anymore...

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14 Sep 2008, 12:24 pm

Have you ever seen a human abandoned an advantage in hand?

Not-initiating is one of the female's advantages in the dating world which make them the pickers , they won't given it up with nothing in return just because you said so.

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14 Sep 2008, 1:01 pm

JohnHopkins wrote:

ProtossX wrote:

guys can't just sit around in a bar or wherever an get tons of girls askin them to go out or dance

its laways guys who have to what is up with this crap

im sick of how easy girls have it in the dating world aspie guys its hell for us and its so pathetic im starting to not consider aspie girls have aspergers on the same scale as us guys cuz of this issue alone

its just way too easy for them to still get things going on without doing anything while if a guy does nothing we get nothing lfie aint fair at all i wish i was a girl sometimes would be so much easier to date period.

Wanna dance, big boy?

When you use your sexual orientation to oppress, you become as bad as the oppressive known troll you're trying to oppress, and then this reflects badly on all people of your orientation (kind of like how black people must set exemplary behavior, or else their whole race is sullied).

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14 Sep 2008, 1:07 pm

NeantHumain wrote:

JohnHopkins wrote:

ProtossX wrote:

Wanna dance, big boy?

Wow - that isn't how I perceived that at all. Sensed no inkling of oppressiveness, only a snarky (and amusing) shot back across the bow regarding the OP's "complaint"... that's all. John, I like your sense of humor. PX, all I can say is that I hope one day you open your eyes, and see your role in things instead of projecting it on to others.

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14 Sep 2008, 1:27 pm

makuranososhi wrote:

NeantHumain wrote:

JohnHopkins wrote:

Wanna dance, big boy?

Wow - that isn't how I perceived that at all. Sensed no inkling of oppressiveness, only a snarky (and amusing) shot back across the bow regarding the OP's "complaint"... that's all.

Indeed.

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14 Sep 2008, 1:29 pm

I took it as John just being a smart arse, trying to play on ProtossX's alleged homophobia.

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14 Sep 2008, 1:37 pm

So wait, you hate "aggressive," unfeminine girls, but you want the girls you like to get up the nerve and go against the feminine norm to talk to you first?

Having your cake and eating it too just doesn't work, I'm sorry.

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14 Sep 2008, 1:40 pm

no you dont get it

I want attractive girls to come up to me an be like so would you like maybe go out on a date like in a shy quiet tone

thats completely different then someone you dont like coming up to u an like basically beggin for a massage an being moody an rude

im saying why dont girls i like show a really shyness an take the first move u dont have to be aggressive that i dont like but just be like hey whatsup u know somethin like that an win me over with a move like that a shy quiet move

u see what im gettin at now? i got this whole philosophy tons of stuff is going on in my mind an just wow im so glad i can get out here on WRONG planet

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14 Sep 2008, 1:43 pm

You obviously don't understand shyness.

But yes it is good to get these things out in the open.

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