I think I'm the only one on here who actually has a BF/GF

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I have a fiancee.

Probably incorrect in your assumption about nobody else having a BF/GF. However, congrats on your significant other.

I had a GF once. She was an Aspie. Trust me, dating on the spectrum is not all that its made out to be. Its hard enough when one person has the inevitable problems with social skills and the stubborness that will so often lead to many break ups - try two. Needless to say, when she had an opportinity, which I will say was not near as good as just finding a job where we were both living at the time, she became intent on pursuing it, and it at least temporarily ruined both our lives, and destroyed the relationship.

This is a lesson to be learned about why it is dangerous to just date someone with AS because you have AS. Mechanically speaking, people with AS don't make good relationships together.

Also, I don't care much at all about the title, just please tone it down a bit next time because you got some nasty responses and I don't like people getting those.

Sorry I didn't realize I hurt people's feelings with the title. I didn't mean too. I don't really know how to edit it though...

Unfortunately, you can't. Just let other people read through, and hopefully realize that you meant no harm. I do suggest thinking through your next posts a little more, though. And try not to take offense to those that are offended - they didn't understand your intentions, that's all.

I for one wasn't offended at all, in fact I thought nothing of it and I've been single all my 24 years of life. Try not to let negative posts hurt your feelings.

Although other's may not take it so well, as you've probably noticed. I don't think you meant any harm. Not to poke fun of you or anything but you're still new to the site. As you post, you'll learn even more about how aspies think and what may or may not press buttons. Hang in there and congratulations! Hope you and your boyfriend have good times and I hope you continue posting.

I always do this on every forum I go on. I say something really dumb and make the entire site hate me.

no one hates you because of that ...but your thread was just like that ....incorrect.

Don't worry about it.

skywatcher- I suspect both myself and my boyfriend of having AS(myself even moreso). It works out for us. We each know what to do to get the other out of a meltdown(he needs a hug and reassurance[maybe watch something funny on Youtube], I need at least three feet of space and to figure out a logical solution to the problem at hand). I guess that's the thing about it being a spectrum: you never know what to expect.
There are some things I'm worried about concerning an AS relationship, such as genetics, should we ever marry and have children. But, one step at a time. First, we need to figure out how to get a place together.

I have been in a relationship with both an NT and an Aspie. While each type has its pitfalls, there are also advantages.

I levitate more toward other Aspies because my first girlfriend, who was an NT, cheated on me.

I think the reason people are upset with this thread is because they are interpreting it as a rub in their faces, which I am assuming is not the case.

I do understand why the OP chose the title, however - reading through these forums, one would think that no Aspie in the history of the world has ever been able to find a significant other! (Which, logically, can't fit with the other prevailing topic title - that AS is some form of evolution - as in order for a mutation to be prosurvival, there must be offspring to inherit it...)

No feelings hurt here. Congratulations. I think the title is right on. Sometimes the negativity on this site is louder than the positivity but if you read enough you will find some good positive comments that may help you with your current relationship as well as life down the road.

Go to your OP post and click the edit button and it will take you back to your post and you can change the title. But you only have 7 days to make the edit and then after that, it won't let you.

in fact, your title was a success ...I usually make such silly shocking titles to attract readers.

man i was expecting this thread to be trolling...ie the OP post to be

"Y00 IZ ALL LOSERS! XD"

but thankfully it wasn't, i haven't gotta hit that report button now...XD

She's 14, I hope she goes and f***s herself.