DOES ALL MALE WITH ASPERGER'S DESIRE SEX?

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oh btw ...just FYI , I am in fact a straight male.

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oh btw ...just FYI , I am in fact a straight male.

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Ooops sorry for that, but I was certain that You are girl... I always mistake people here, even though I could just look into their profile and check... So sory for that.

[Damn, grrl, why don't You ever cheak the descripitons? Mine fault. Mine fault. Mine fault. ]

I agree with you, I don't desire sex, and as a teenager with all the hormones that's saying something!

Dont lie! Lol justing kidding, but honestly you must be delayed just wait.....lol

I not necessarily agree with the first part of your statement, and I am a straight male. I have lived without sex for a long while now and I don't feel like I miss something other than romance. The OP pretty well covered what love should be about: being each others harbour in the tempest. If my relationship would include sex or not and at what stage, I would pretty much let her decide about that. I can enjoy sex with a loved one (no casual stuff) but I can do without just as well.

Yes, yes... That's interesting And I relly admire You for that. But write back to me when You turn 16 - I bet You will change Your mind by then...

Guys need sex like they need food. Most human beings (men and women) need it, it's a biological fact of life. I think you're too young to really grasp the issue: Many aspies go for long periods of time without sex, so when they are around girls of course they are going to try to get some. Think about it for a moment: Imagine you had to go 10 years without sex, then think of how starved you'd be and ask yourself if some attractive person was available would you want to have sex with them?

You should know the answer.

Unless the aging process has eventually reduced your sex drive so that isn't much of an issue anymore. But what a sad waste of all those years, all the same.

""Guys need sex like they need food. Most human beings (men and women) need it, it's a biological fact of life. I think you're too young to really grasp the issue: Many aspies go for long periods of time without sex, so when they are around girls of course they are going to try to get some. Think about it for a moment: Imagine you had to go 10 years without sex, then think of how starved you'd be and ask yourself if some attractive person was available would you want to have sex with them?
You should know the answer.""


I`m a guy, I`m older then you, i have grasped the issue
and i disagree. I know whats meant by biological clock, we dont
get around that, but i refuse to be labled "needs sex, will take
pretty much any opportunity" just because i`m a guy, thats not
me. There`s alot of things more important to me then sex no
matter how long its been without. I dont go around looking for
sex at all, that is something that might happen after you get to
know someone - but i dont just look for sex and thats it, never
have - i could go for x number of years without, and still would
not just throw myself at a opportunity, i wouldn`t get anything from
it other then a very uncomfortable feeling afterwards. I dont
"need" sex like omg i just have to get me some, now!! i have
some control over myself thank god. I need just a hug or someone
to talk with or sleep next to or laugh with, lay on the couch and
watch tv with, make dinner with, all that i feel i "need", omg how i
need that when i think about it... Sex is like the desert after a great
big dinner, the dinner here being everything you do with someone
except sex - i love desert, but i got to have that dinner first to make
the desert taste good

LPP can't decide what gender he is...

You're still very young. I didn't really feel I wanted a girlfriend until a little bit later.

No, I've met some who don't.

I think a few things need to be noted in this post.

1) "I am not ready YET"
2) you clearly have had bad luck with the men you have been close with
3) this has lead to hesitation for sexual acts


Now this is fine, but the YET is not unimportant. You may open up for it once you meet that right guy that really treats you with respect and that you really love. And if not, well then there is nothing wrong with that, sex is not at all that important and if you dont want to have it then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I know several people who abstain voluntarely and still have a fulfilled life and such, just take things as they come or even if they dont come at all, and ignore the peer pressure of a society that makes it seem abnormal when not desiring or having sex at your age. It is really not abnormal at all, and absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Just take things as they come. Either the interest will come and hesitation will fade when you meet the right person, or either you may just prefer not to have sex and seek your joys in a different way. Take it as it comes, and ignore every peer pressure about having sex.

PS I have erotophobia myself so I myself would love to have a girlfriend without any desire for sex involved. I hope to either meet the right girl who either wishes to abstain herself, or that the love would be strong enough to conquer the phobia. But sex against my own will when I feel not ready is also not on my menu.




Generalisation again. I have been without sex for a long time now, without a date for a long time. It is that romance I miss, not the sex. If I would get a girlfriend I would be really happy, and sex would be the bottom of the list when it comes to priorities. I am not saying it is wrong to desire sex, but dont portray it as if all of us men are the same and a ticking hormonal timebomb.

MOST guys do *need* sex, but some guys actually dont. But what makes you think most gals dont need or want sex?
ReGiFroFoLa is somewhat unusual even among girls I daresay. Most girls DO want sex, especially when they hit their late teens/early 20s. I actualy HAVE met women who want sex as much as man men do and are not ashamed to admit it.

Sorry Zak, but sex doesn't fall under one of the necessities of life - one is perfectly capable of existence without sexual contact. What it IS, however, is a desire. A strong one, an instinctive one, something that for many becomes obsessive. *shakes head* One can be crazed with desire without it being a need.


M.

Unfortunately you've misunderstood the intent of my message, like everyone who's replied and 'disagreed'. My point was that some people definitely need sex, this doesn't mean their needs for don't fluctuate and change with age, etc. My point is, it's extremely powerful force in peoples lives and anyone that denies it, is definitely delusional. Much sexual assault and crime is a result of sexual frustration, of course most people here have no interest or background in such things. Sex is a necessity of life for most, many intimate relationships between men and women die without sex, saying it isn't a necessity is a bit loony since without the desire to procreate no life would exist. So yes we can definitely say for many sex is a necessity, anyone who denies it, is merely ignoring the evidence.

NASA and other researchers are very concerned about sex in outer space for this very reason, the psychological costs it has on the crew and the survival of the species as a whole.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/14002908/

Many here are very naive and lack insight into most of humanity.

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