Older Man/Younger Woman Relationship Issues.

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Unfortunately, I'm sure that in some cases it is true. Aspergers doesn't preclude people from being sexual predators or the like.

I made a post earlier about dating younger woman,
might have sounded a little like i ment all men
doing this was creapy when i look at it now, but
thats not what i ment. The post was my personal
feeling towards this, its just "something" thats there.
If a couple with a big age difference are happy
together, great, i`m all for happiness so i dont mean
to step on that. Maybe i just have some sort of issue
when it comes to younger woman, its just one of
those "feelings", something feels "off" for me and
they are often at another level in life then i am in
a way, poorly explained - anyway, carry on, i`ll
just stop now before i end up with both feet jammed
tightly in my mouth ...not a pretty sight and
very messy

Sometimes the genders are reversed.
For example, an older woman dating a younger guy is creepy enough,
but an older man with a younger woman? ICK!


To the OP: Stay together. Your happiness is the connection that will bind you.

I don't really know what I would do in your situation considering my first ex-boyfriend was only 1 yr. younger than me and my second ex-boyfriend was only 3 yrs. older than me. I can however give a similar experience to your situation, having parents who are 21 years apart in age. My father was my mother's college professor and are now happily married with three children! I don't know what else to say, but I hope you are able to work out your situation and be happy with whatever decision you make!

Well unfortunately he is part of the equation and if he pulls away and doesn't believe this is good for him, it doesn't matter much about what society thinks.

It sounds like he has made up his mind even tho it will be hard for him to actually break away. But do you (to the OP) want to hang onto him if he is not feeling you are the "one"? If i were in your situation I would likely break it off and give him time to think, give him space, and see if he in fact realizes that losing me is in fact a mistake. If you don't give him space and push him to stay, he might end up feeling resentment even if he loves you. He needs to come to the decision that you are his future without pressure from you, otherwise, resentment might build.

There are likely going to be issues with a 16 year age gap, however, all relationships have trials and tribulations but if he feels this is a problem, it will be a problem no matter what we think or what society thinks...unfortunately.

To ImTheGuyThatDidThat:

If that's your view on relationships, I fear imminently that you and I aren't going to get along well together. It is best if we avoid each other unless you can withstand the desire to verbally bash someone for their views on life.
By the way, is there something about your childhood you'd like to tell us, or just me? Specifically concerning your family? What is the current relationship between your parents? What kind of a person is your father? What was your relationship with him like?



Anyway, this is a common mistake. The mistake of letting someone go for a reason as stupid as that. If you find someone you like and the age difference is insignificant, then good for you. It has its merits. But if the age different is significant, and this, too, varies. What is significant to you? Even if the age difference is significant. This, too, has its merits. Everything on earth is relative. Surely you already knew that.


Some people, out of sheer ignorance, are categorically against significant age-gap differences. Idiocy. They'd rather pair up with someone who's mentally unstable in various ways than to pair up with someone who's older but superior as a person.
Not sure if this is the result of brainwashing, conspiracy or whatnot. The point is rather simple - it is lunacy (for a lack of a better word).

There are people on this planet who think that at least a gap of 1 year is a sin!
Now think about that for a second, similarly, there are people on this planet who think that god exists. Granted, they live a happy life. ...Or at least that's what they think a happy life is, while in reality it's no better than like living inside an incubator.

Again, similarly, there are people who set themselves the most redundant rules in life and follow them blindly, only to regret it at a later stage. For instance, take a worker who has a cute tendency to be late for work. However, his skills in the field far suppress those of even the experts. In spite of this, the boss lets go of the worker simply because of his policy of never-be-late-for-work. After two years he finds out the the one whom he let go is now a most famous individual in his field of work. 'T is like that.
Later on in life you will regret letting go of the person you loved because either you adopted this redundant view on life that there shouldn't be a significant age difference or it is the result of doctrine that you have it. Whatever.

You're a 29 year old woman who is now stuck with a 30 year old man who abuses you daily.

Or you're 37 year old man who lived an excessively boring life with a woman of the age of 36. Eventually you got bored of her because there's no action in your life, because there is no love in your life! - and decide to cheat on her. Eventually you fly with your mistress to Costa Rica and enjoy a wonderful adrenaline-full period of 2 weeks before returning home to find that a divorce request was filed by your wife. Enjoy.

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Get an ironclad prenuptial agreement and 10% of his yearly salary up front ... in cash, of course!

I am also enamored with a 22 year old woman .The attraction is more than physical.I think she is an Aspie .It's natural to be physically attracted to young people in their 20's but if that is the only basis for the attraction it may not be worth pursuing.

Below 25 seems just too immature in their interests, personal development, conversational style, viewpoints, etc. Can't imagine being able to relate to, say, a 23 year old on that level at all. That's just for me though, technically 23 is an adult and whatever two other adults choose is none of business.

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