Disasterous Internet Relationships

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It's the internet, it goes everywhere! Just find a group that's relevant to your local area and pick someone off from there. No hefty travel costs - I've come across people online that live in the same street - once the same building - as myself. Look closer to home, get results

As I've said before: There are absolutely NO-ONE who uses these crappy websites for actual dating. They use it for finding porn and for a laugh.

Especially for Aspie males, choosing social isolation and staying as far away from other people as possible is a question of life or death.

If you're talking about sex personals sites, lonermutant, I'd disagree. I use them when I've got the urge, and often pick off around three guys a week when I'm single. None of them satisfy so none are invited back. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. Mind you, the gender ratio is about 11:1 male to female on most larger sites.
Other personals sites mainly yield men who are looking for sex but don't know how to say it politely.
Bugger the personals sites, find something social where the focus isn't finding a partner, like wrongplanet.net. How many people have approached me with offers of coffee, backgammon, chess and other silly fun things to do together, whilst adding coy things to the conversation?
Mojo. Develop your mojo!

Point of curiosity: why does the forum software not allow you to say damn without censoring it, but you can say bugger? They rest equally on my ladder of swearing badness.

Probably because it's an American website, and "bugger" generally only has meaning to Americans who've read Ender's Game .

drongo, slacker, loser and tool should be fine then too, right?

Apparently so...they all came through unscathed .

The problem is that I live in a small town where most single women are single because of the way they look and the women who use "sex-only" dating sites here in Norway are either teen boys looking for free porn posing as bi women or prostitutes.
When you're a total outsider like me in a tiny town you can't use a dating website, it equals suicide.

Ah, I am lucky to live in a city of more than a million people then, in a nice sunny part of the world.

Anyway, I'm to suspicious of people to even try this and I'm also too immature to try it.
I've noticed that it's mainly women who are interested in the sex and romance topics here -- wich shows that most men with Asperger's have to big social problems to date or to ever imagine how to get sex.

No, it shows that women talk about it more, nothing more

I've always thought that women was cynical about sex and that they cultivated an asexual anti-male sex drive ideal.
There are 8 times more men than women with Asperger's and 99% of men with Asperger's are voluntarily or involuntarily celibate.
This I've taken from my website, http://home.online.no/~ojmalm/aspergers.htm:
"When I finally got the diagnose at age 30, after wondering about what was wrong with me all my life, all the complexes I had suffered from because I didn't have friends or couldn't find a girlfriend disappeared.
The day I got my Asperger's diagnosis I stopped looking at myself as a virgin or a bachelor and started to see myself as an Autistic person.
What I mean by saying this, is that instead of struggling with sexual frustrations I try to get rid of them. I've got no problem about being open about this.
Sadly I've received comments on this from some kids. Oddly enough it's only they who care about it.
The Asperger's diagnosis made me understand why I'm the way I am, and why living asexually is the right thing for me."

Warning! Lonermutant, you're projecting again!

I'm still searching for safe methods to chemically castrate myself. I tried cipralex but I couldn't sleep for 3 days so I had to stop taking it. It actually lowered my sex drive after a few days but my anxiety just became so extreme that I had to stop it. I'm still looking for something that can lower or take away my sex drive.

I run a message board for Aspies myself. None of the male members, age 18 to 42 have ever been married and I doubt any have had or been interested in having a boyfriend either.
The female members are also asocial like the men or they have or have had shorter relationships that have ended because they can't stand being around their boyfriends all the time, they just get so little time for themselves that they get shutdowns.

Hmm.

I know of a girl online, who is autistic, was having an online relationship with someone from Canada. Now, she has already moved from England to Canada to be with him and has been happy ever since.

So, I guess they can work.

As for me, I've only been in one once and never looked back. :p

How exactly does an online relationship work?