Conflicting options with women

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To your question, that's all up to the individual. From my personal stance, I'd not do that; when I was younger, I had the opportunity, and although I wasn't for or against it one way or the other, I listened to my deeper feelings and intuition, and never did actually do it. I waited for my first guy friend, with whom I'm still good friends, which meant more in the long run. I now have another boyfriend, but I feel good about the way I played it out. Hopefully, he and I will be monogamous for life, now.

Also, that's really awesome news! I hope it pans out, and I'm glad you didn't go for contestant number two. Number two is a bit harsh, maybe. I'll call her "fun sex girl".

Word, Orbyss, word.

There are more clues than just that, of course, especially how our relationship through the past many years has been. I don't want to make it seem like talking about vulgar things means you want to jump someone's bones.

Considering how vulgar I am (off this board -- really, I'm not quite like I am on here ), if that alone could qualify someone to be slu*ty I'd be the talk of the town!

Now all you have to do is use that phone number, and don't wait too long, kiddo.

Good luck.

Ah, but this brings another quandary - WHEN to use the phone number. I'm likely to see her at school on Tuesday, and I'm almost thinking to wait and see how she acts then, and if everything is normal, call her that night or the next....

But I'm also tempted to call her tomorrow night (sunday) just to simply chat. I assume there's no true right or wrong here, as I'm basically rolling the dice on how she'll perceive the time at which I choose to call. An early call shows either eagerness (possibly good or bad) or desperation, while a later call gives her more time to brood and think of me or could be thought of as a dick move.

If only I knew when she wanted me to call her.

Hey, if it's a cell phone number you could send her a text message... but 1 -2 days at least. If you leave it too long she will think you're not interested.

Word, cept my cell phone is off, and I need erm $180 to reactivate it? >_<

Oh god, please don't overthink this. Call her when you're ready whether it be now or later. When you do, make the purpose of the call to set up a date. Just think of something you want to do, & ask her if she'd like to join you (you make the plans, women like that). This "wait a few days & play it cool" is a load of crap & will most likely look like a dick move like you said.

BTW, calling before there's an actual relationship "just to chat" looks real needy & desperate. You can make small talk, but don't call without a plan of something to do first.

it's usually a good idea to wait a day or two because it makes you look needy to a lot of people if you call the next day. but i agree that all these games people play are BS and annoying.


i agree, i'd get something going before you call "just to chat". go on a couple of dates first, until then use the phone as a tool to make plans (although asking her out in person is preferred by some people), and chat in person.

It seems like if she wanted you to call her in a week, she would have given you her number a week from now. Since she gave it to you at the present time, call her soon. I'd wait 2 days as not to sound needy. And yes, don't just call to chat. It could get awkward fast if the conversation isn't going anywhere. It's best to make the first call brief, and the best way to do that is to make a little small talk, and then ask her if she's available this weekend for whatever activity you have in common. A set objective will keep the call simple. Gook luck!

Seems to me you are thinking far too much. Sit quietly for a while ... then do what you feel is right.