Does Being Single for a Long Time Worsen Judgment?

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I dont know about others, but i`ve been
alone for a long time now and my judgement
is the same as it was before. That i feel lonely
and would like to meet someone has little or
no effect on my judgement about people,
that would make my view hard to trust
for me. So no, it doesn`t get worse for
me, theres no reason for it to. For example
i wouldn`t date someone now that i wouldn`t
have dated 4 years ago, i`m alone but i`m
never a desperate man, thats not me. I
would love to meet someone special but
i`m not about to grab the first thing that
walks my way, no matter how lonely i am.
And i will still feel the same if i`m alone
5 years from now. My loneliness and my
judgement are two different things and
i dont mix them.

It happens with anyone man or woman if they are feeling desperate, aka horny, they tend to suddenly lose all judgement. Be careful with that gal that feels risky. It could be your better judgement or intuition screaming at you to put the brakes on. There's a lot of loco people out there and some are plain dangerous. Be careful.

If you really want to impress a girl seize the opportunity of the season and offer to shovel snow for any gals you see in need. Or consider helping the stranger girl whose car is stuck in the snow. Course if you live in the warmer regions this won't help you. I just had two neighbor guys help shovel my car out of the snow this afternoon. Was nice. They didn't seem to mind at all I think God didn't give shoveling muscles to girls as I can barely walk thanks to my low back killing me now but those guys are still running around outside hours later. What I'm trying to say is seize your opportunities guys as deep snow gives you an excuse to talk to people you normally wouldn't.

Maybe we can observe others and therefore retain good judgment.

yeah it really does.
been single for a few months now.
Have found people will judge if u have been single for more than 7 months.
xxxxxxx

I was faced with something like this for a week over the summer. A woman and I felt mutual attraction, except that she told me that she smoked and allowed others to smoke in her house. To me, no amount of affection is worth being around smoke, so I let her go. I didn't meet anyone else who connected so well with me, but I don't regret my decision. My preferred-partner-criteria list came in handy and for that, I'm grateful that I'm an aspie.

So think of it that way. You weren't actually desperate enough to throw your caution away.