07 Jan 2009, 6:35 am
08 Jan 2009, 1:28 pm
Rain_Bird wrote:
I text my boyfriend in the morning, mostly to wake him up so he'll get on AIM (unless he wakes up first, then he sends the first text), and when I'm at work if one of us aren't at the computer (yeah... I have nothing to do at work most days, so I waste time talking to him by texting or on AIM, and browsing WP!). I don't text him good night, since I'm usually at his house until late anyway, unless the roads are bad and he tells me to text when I get home so he knows I'm still alive. If I have access to the computer, I'd rather just use AIM since I don't have free texting. (I also don't like talking on the phone for very long, and we see each other everyday anyway, so we just use AIM mostly.)
That's interesting. I never tried texting him in the morning (I suppose because I'm only used to getting 'goodnights' from my family), but I can imagine it would be a nice thing to do. (Fnord, if this is what your were trying to say too, then apologies for the misunderstanding.
I don't usually stay late at his house except at weekends sometimes (have to be up early for work).
I'd rather chat on AIM too, but even then there's 5 minute pauses before every answer and I'm often sitting there for 15minutes before I give up and say goodnight. I'm not talking about hour-long marathons either, just brief chats that would take 5 minutes by phone.
Rain_Bird wrote:
If you can't see each other almost everyday face to face, you should at least communicate in some form everyday.
That's what I felt too.
Gremmie wrote:
I know this might seem like a bit of a weird question, but do either of you pay for texts? .
No, it's not a weird question. I don't think either of us have free texts, so I guess each text might seem a bit like throwing money down the drain; but in that case, there's always AIM or just plain calling.
Gremmie wrote:
My bf gets free texts and he's always texting me, but I have to pay for mine so often I don't send him a reply if it's not necessary. If I was only texting one or two words, and if it was only a goodnight I probably wouldn't bother. .
Hmm... maybe that's his thinking too. It would bother me if I was in your bf's shoes though (not saying that it bothers him)
Gremmie wrote:
Also there's the possibility if he didnt get the text for a while after you'd sent it he might have assumed you'd already gone to sleep, and there doesn't seem much point to me in sending a goodnight if it won't arrive until the morning. I might be being a bit too practical though.
He's pretty practical too though, so it's good to hear from your perspective. The thing is, if your bf told you it bothered him, would you tell him your rational and come to a compromise? All I get is empty promises that he'll 'try'
It's academic now anyway; we broke up. It wasn't just about the texts, there was a lot of stuff; we're both so busy these days that it's like a long-distance relationship without the relationship. But for next time, it's interesting to read the advice here, thanks guys.
