Uggghh! I wish I could find a guy!

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*snorts with laughter*

A picture of you posted as your avatar might help (bring on the drool squad).

I do have a digital camera, but I would have to have someone snap the picture for me.

But until then, I can at least describe myself.
I have almost medium length light brown hair, with blue eyes, and I am not overweight. I look very much like Anakin Skywalker (I am not making this up either) except my face is more feminine and I wear glasses. I am also short.

Hi! You might not have seen me here too much as I usually don't post on this particular part of the forum, but I come here to WrongPlanet once every couple of days.

it is like a magnet lamenting that it is not in the vicinity of iron filings.

Are you closer to pittsburgh or philly?

It's 8:07 AM, Pacific Standard Time! How ya' doin?

Merle

Philly.

Use the 10- or 15-second timer function, set the camera on a ledge, and stand back.

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Sci-fi conventions are a good place to meet people. And big cities like Philadelphia should have a lot of community organizations (like the YMCA or YWCA, churches, adult ed classes). Volunteering at charities like a soup kitchen or food bank is also a good way to socialize.

So, umm, how close are you to the NJ border?

Sticking together....

My sister seems to have the same problem as you. Same kind of deal, more or less -- pretty, tall (maybe part of the issue, she's 5'9"), well educated, funny, on top of things, good job, yet apparently hasn't had a boyfriend in at least five or six years now (she's like 30 or 31 now). I suspect it's been even longer. Not sure what the deal is there -- sure, she's picky (she wants tall, athletic blond guys), but she should still be able to find that. I suspect she's somewhat of an Aspie as well, and that she's not giving off the vibes guys pick up on when she's interested. She's probably coming off a bit masculine, and just not doing things that reassure guys that they won't get rejected, like making a lot of eye contact (though not excessive eye contact, only whores, crazy women, and transgender do that), and other things that let a guy know there is interest there.

Just like the posters above recommend, there are lots of places to meet guys with your same interests -- just go out there and meet people. I don't know how you look, and it really doesn't matter -- girls can get a guy 100% of the time if they aren't too picky and make some effort.

Come to think of it, there's a woman at my workplace like this as well - likely either depressed or an Aspie, or both.

The moment I saw her my first day at work, I developed a huge crush on her. However, I'm married, so I can only admire from afar, as it should be. She doesn't like me that way anyways, from what I can tell, so no worries there

She's exactly what I like -- Chinese-American, certain look to her, very pale skin, a certain kind of face, intelligent, well-read -- while some people think she's pretty, she's not at the top of anyone's list by far. She's also 35 and apparently not in a relationship, though she may have had one in the past with a guy whose pic and facebook responses seem to peg him as an Aspie (they apparently are not together). She does some Aspie things (like twisting), and comes off as cold, disinterested, or sour.

I think it's a shame -- to me, she's gorgeous, and she does have a great smile and some good humor when you get it out of her. I think she is probably overly picky, but also probably one who is hard to live with or around -- for instance, she lives with her sister right now after moving out here from another state, but she and her sister are not on great terms (there's an age gulf as well).

From what I can tell on her facebook page, she doesn't have a BF, doesn't seem to spend a lot of time with guys, just female friends, but isn't gay (her friends are homely but not lesbian or masculine). I do wish she was happy, and I still lust after her a bit too much (in my mind) when I'm around her, because she physically reminds me of several ex girlfriends and crushes.

maybe you folks could take the whole thing over to aspie affection and continue it there?

This is relevant -- it's about love and dating, I'm mentioning other people, including my sister, who have the same problem as the OP. Read the whole thread, and don't get so bothered by everything -- it's just a forum.