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It sounds like it's definitely a case of "the pot comes first". If you're in for a fun friendship or easy-going relationship that's one thing, but if you want anything more serious, I'd tread carefully. Someone who blows off plans for a weekend of stoning with roomies is not usually someone you'd want to get really involved with - for one thing, it's really boring!! !

If you do bring up the fact that you sometimes feel a bit blown off by him, for god's sake don't mention the pot - that'd be a sure-fire way to get him defensive and angry. Keeping it non-specific, by saying how disappointed you are how often your plans to get together fall through, lets him know that you've noticed him getting distracted and bunking off, but simultaneously gives him a bit of a compliment by letting him know that you'd really like to see him more.

But geez, I'd still be careful if he's fobbing off to get stoned all weekend!

This is exactly what you'd have to put up with. You already don't like it so don't get more involved. Just stay friends at work and if he wants to see you, have him come to you. If he asks you out just tell him the truth, that you'd like to say yes but your afraid he'll stand you up again.