Girls convincing themselves that a date is strictly platonic

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okay sorry it appears you are reading into between the lines too much. I did not say anything anywhere near what you have extrapolated from my words. my fault though.

Well the rules in dating are never what one "expects" them to be. Also, I'm still a bit confused since you message contradicts itself.

Anyway I apologize but I don't think dating and relationships are that black and white especially when you first meet someone.

Yes there are females out there who are into one night stands just as there are guys. But this isn't all true with dating. People handle dating in their own ways depending on how the relationship starts off and where they want to go from there.

This is why I don't treat it as a written rule. I dated one guy who thought I wasn't interested in him because I didn't want to go there. I hardly knew him and felt uncomfortable. So I have a hard time seeing guys the same way you paint females in the same light is all I'm saying.

not at all. I don't generalize about girls. When I say girls, I mean the women in my school, my community, the ones I've seen, heard about, or met and so on. My class goes out to a bar after a big test and I know that many of my female classmates end up hooking up with random guys. I also hear about a few girls who sleep with guys on the first date. Women around me seem to be like that. And I hear from classmates (not Internet) that hooking up is the norm. Our school news paper just had a student article about how so many women are choosing hook ups because they do not want to get attached to a guy. That's all folks. You are reading too much between the lines though.

I just assume that all interactions with women are "platonic" until they say otherwise, since they're obviously the ones who get to dictate what love and dating means...

and as an aspies we can't know that a girl likes us unless they spell it out for us.

Men aim for the attractive women no?

I mean why go out with a chick if she ain't that attractive also I gave my account earlier. The guy I was with split with me so I don't think women necessarily do get the ultimate power in the relationship.

Anyway, I can't really pick and choose either. I've also been attacked for having some criteria in this love and dating forum.

I just put my thoughts out there to be misinterpreted as they may. I'm a willing target for attacks.

Exactly how have I attacked you?

you have not my friend. as an aspie I have no clue when I am being attacked.

Well I apologize, I'm not always good at communicating what I mean to say.

you are fine