Why single women are drawn to men who are spoken for

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According to parkers.co.uk you can get one starting from £770 used. They sell them for around £900 from the dealer up the road from me.

Anyone intersted in 'stealing' me away from my ex ?

I my case, women who are spoken for seem drawn to me. It's a blessing and a curse.

I couldn't attract a single woman to save my life.

Its a generalization that happens to have A LOT of TRUTH too it! That does not mean that 100% of women are this way but it does imply that this kind of attitude and behavior among women is not uncommon; ESPECIALLY when they are young(age 18-26).
Ive been told by a few women that when they were young they felt this way but as they progressed through their 20s and started to realize what they actually want from a man they start to grow out of it. I firmly believe that most young NT women often dont really know what they want and so they act on their emotional impulses and take a lot of time and a lot of men to figure it out.

I think you're both right. A man who is taken seems to women like he has something desirable whereas a man who isnt is thought to be single for a Reason. But I think cassandra IS correct that many young women, especially those who are attractive, have big ego's and tempting a man who is already taken gives them an ego boost which helps them cope with their natural female insecurities.

Yes there ARE men out there like this(what they call playboys or "womanizers")who like to steal girls away from guys but like or lump it most men prefer a girl who is single because most of us DONT like competition with other men.

There is another way to look at this: perhaps it isn't the fact that the guy is attached that makes him attractive - maybe it's the fact that he is attractive that makes him attached? If a woman only starts to show interest in a man she's already known when she finds out he has a girlfriend, that's different. But sometimes it's a simple fact that women are attracted to men who are attractive (and I don't just mean physically, guys!) - and these guys are more likely to be attached. I have often been interested in a guy - only to find out later that he had a girlfriend. And trust me - that DIDN'T help the interest!

I think you're right. Attached guys are more attractive because they're happier. Single guys are usually sizing up women as potential mates as soon as they meet (and vice versa), whereas if a guy is already spoken for, you can just be yourself and therefore will enjoy their company more.
It has NOTHING to do with being more physically attractive, or competition. At least not for me. And most of the guys I'm attracted are in relationships, some even have kids.

Brilliant tautology, greenlandgem. I mean, like, DUH!
On a more serious not, zee's comments illustrate that being un-single makes a man MORE attractive than if he were single!

Many girls want a boyfriend who will make other women jealous. If he's single then other women must not want him, he's got major problems, etc.

It's true though. Lots of guys get married and as soon as they have a ring on women start flirting.

People oftentimes want what they can't have more than they want what's available.

Sometimes one can use tautology to make a point!

I know it's obvious - but this thread just seemed to be bent towards making women out to be conniving home-wreckers, when there is another way to look at it. From my experience, anyway, what is far more common is the fact that many of the men who I find attractive, intelligent, funny, etc already have girlfriends because they are such great guys. It isn't the fact that they are already in a relationship that got my attention - actually, most of them actively HIDE that little bit of information from me.

That being said, there are women out there who find the fact that a guy is taken to be inherently attractive - whether this is because they see "stealing" him as being some kind of challenge or ego boost I can't say, because I find that totally bizarre.

taken guys possibly exude confidence whereas women can smell the desperation on single guys so they probably won't pick em lol x

True

Which makes me wonder if single guys who use online dating should lie about their relationship status and fabricate a gf in order to elicit more responses from women.

Urm no. That is a bad idea. Apart from this whole thread being a a wrong generalization, even if there is any truth to it, it is a small minority of women.

Dating sites, i am guessing are for people who are very serious about finding a partner. Saying you already are in a relationship sort of defeats the purpose.

Hal, the fabrication is a bad idea in my opinion.

People have a tendency to covet, to desire that which another has or that which is purported to be unobtainable. It doesn't apply on a gender basis in my experience; have watched as many men act openly towards married women to fathom how one would find it a female trait. That another person wants/wanted them often acts as an indicator - a turn signal, if you will - that there are desirable characteristics in that person, but not whether it is a good potential match. When in a relationship, there are also periods of great happiness/contentment, which can one appear more attractive to others. Since my previous relationship ended and my current one began, I've been happy -and- I've been getting in better shape. While I don't know about others being attracted to me per se, I do know that I have been asked out more since then than I was before. Such is life.


M.

social proof

The simple fact that a guy is taken instantly broadcasts to other women that he's worth taking. He's seen as having many desirable traits before he even has to say or do anything.