Whats up with guys fighting over girls or vice-versa?

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From the start of a relationship they date 1 person and act like their already married.

^ Quoted for Truth.

1. What's the problem with dating one person?
2. What do you mean by 'act like they're married'?

The way it used to be was that you dated as many people as you wanted and got rid of them over the years until you foud a husband or wife, now you date 1 person at a time, they act like their already married.

^ What the heck you're blabbering about? What's wrong with some loyalty? Anyways , I thought that it is being the opposite nowadays.

Seeing as you say your a feminist, i'm not suprised you'd think that way, but I'ts not about loyalty, im talking about how people date 1 person from the get go. i think its one of the reasons divorice rates are so high in this country.

You're not answering either of my questions other than 'the way it used to be.' The way it used to be, we'd burn gays at the stake as well, doesn't mean it was right, though.

Dating used to be one man one woman. Who would eventually marry. Now because of western society and the increase of resources human are becoming more like other mammal; One stud for many females, which lead to a breakdown of marriage. This will also lead to males becoming more aggressive and competitive as they compete with woman instead of working together for the survival of the group like the Inuits need to in their harsh environment.

What are you talking about, we have plenty of resources and plenty of space.

How are two people going to marry if they can't stay with one person?
I mean the whole point of dating is going out with someone and getting to know them and you talk to them about their life and stuff and what they are into to see if they are right for you. Sometimes after one date you decide that person isn't right for you because you don't like their ideas or how they live their life or what kind of person he or she is, etc. That's what dates are supposed to be about but there are people out there that will take that person out just so they can have sex. Then I'm sure they feel their whole date was a waste and their money because they didn't get what he or she wanted. One time a guy followed my mother into her house and tried to have sex with her and what did my mother do, she took out her checkbook, wrote him a check and told him to get out. She was paying him back for the food he paid for when they ate out. It was very generous of her though. She paid for her part only though. The guy never went out with her again.

When two people date and things click, they go out again and they keep seeing each other, then they might move in together and might not get married because they might feel it's too soon and would rather wait a few years. My parents waited three years to get married after meeting each other. They lived together before they were married. My mom was with other men before she met my dad and she did live with them and then would move out when she break up with them. She was actually engaged to one of them and then decided to break off her engagement because the guy was too overprotective and didn't want her doing new things and stuff and being with her friends, he wanted her to be a shy little girl because that's what she was when he met her and then she changed as she got older and he didn't like it.

To this day some people still think its wrong for a man and woman to live together when they aren't married so that's why some couples live in their own place until they are married (if that ever happens). Back then it used to be unacceptable for a man and woman to live together. I don't know if it was ever illegal, my mom said it used to be. In some countries it is.

But you're only 15, how do you know what it was like back then Jacob?

Reading I suppose and being told those things by older grown ups who grew up in those times like my mother. She was born in the 50's so she told me what things were like and then in the 1960's it all changed when it became acceptable to have sex outside of marriage and all that. She even told me people didn't divorce then. People still did in the 60's and I think that's when it started to become common also. Before, it was just rare.

I typically say unless it is for marriage, I do not have interest in that type of a relationship. some cases, they are okay with that and respect that and leave it alone... a few others push it even more like it is some sort of competition to try even harder to get between me and then, my wife... or prior before I was married, like I had another girlfriend and they were competing against their own perception of the situation as it appeared tothem...

I am far from asexual... I do enjoy it like the next person but it has its time and purpose but to dwell on it and make it more than waht it really is, devaluatesd it and looses its meaning and such... might be old fashioned to many, but that is me being true to myself and others, from my frame of reference...

I once was approached by a co-worker back in 1998 who wanted me to come over to her place and have sex with her while her husband watched... i told her i was married and was not interested... she then became more assrtive in her advances.... as far as wearing a skirt with no undies and flashing me her cooter.... i am able to throttle these types of erotic arousal emotions in which when i believe it is inappropiate, I can turn them off (thank God for being an Autie) and control them rather than them controlling me... it was not cool what she was doing...

Some gals that are interested in me but clearly know where I am that I am not interesterd in that sort of thing with them seem not to know what a no is...

some leave me alone, others are sort of in limbo and others seem to become more competitive.

Don't address to MissC ...she's mine .... **ROAR** (dancing the fighting ritual)


Prepare yourself for a deadly horns' battle.

I think your problem is those women probably think you are playing hard to get. That drives them nuts, and it makes them want you more. So, turning them down, or ignoring them has the opposite effect than what you are hoping for. Kinda ironic, eh?

Like you said, women usually complain about this, not the other way around. They only want to be friends with certain guys, even though they may know the guy likes them, yet they still want to keep them around as "just friends". You know how the rest goes...