Would you date a single mom?

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No. I hate kids. They are noisy and cost money, if they are not mine i'm not caring or paying for them. I find nothing "cute" about a baby excreting saliver from its mouth going "ooogely-googeli".

Sure, i could have a loose sexual relationship with a woman that have kids, but a relationship - NO!

I don't know if I could do it.

All the riff raffs between the ex and the person I was with and then the child.

Not that I hate children but they can be a little annoying....

Absolutely not. I'm very young so I do not have the maturity to be a father figure. I would be a terrible one at that. I do understand there are several single mothers my age which is sad. However, not only is that extra baggage but when there is a child, there is always a problem that goes along with it. I do not like children to begin with so for me, regardless of my age, I would never even consider being with a single mother. Maybe if I push 40 years old, things would change but for now, no chance.

No , because I am not ready for this yet or ever. Anyone recalls the ladder thread made by sunshower? Raising kids is even beyond the marriage step of the ladder and I still way below.

if i had no contact with her kids or her ex, then maybe. there is no shame in being a single mom, it's something to be proud of and respected.

I have not found that being a single parent has put men off dating me.

though I have found my character to often be off putting.

Really, I think me having kids is the least of my drawbacks

Not all aspies are the same on this. For me, it would totally depend on the gender of the woman's children. If any of them are male, then no - and I've already passed up a chance to be with a really fantastic woman, for the sole reason that I can't get along with males who aren't my own offspring. If all of the children are female, it wouldn't be a problem for me. I have experience with this situation as well; the daughters didn't bother me, it was the woman herself that I wasn't completely enamored by (she was the only single woman at my church who didn't have a son, otherwise I would've looked for someone else). And I think the woman that I'm currently courting has a daughter (although she's not living with her).

It depends on the behavior of the children. Some are okay and others are demons from Hell. My two second cousins are prime examples of the latter. My cousin once asked me to babysit them and I told her I would rather jam an iron spike through my skull. Funny thing is I really mean that, those kids are a nightmare when they are together. I'm surprised they haven't driven their grandmother to suicide yet.

But as long as the children are at least somewhat well behaved then I wouldn't mind dating their mommy.

Yes, I'd date a mom. Someone with enough patience for kids might have enough patience to deal with my imperfections, and she might be appreciative of my company and whatever I can do to help her, therefore I might have something to offer to the relationship. As an experienced parent she probably could train me to deal with caring for the kids, and all the things that go with that. Sudden screeching disturbs me, but I could wear earplugs, and touch/hugging etc. doesn't bother me.

A lot of it depends on how well behaved the kids are, and how she treats them. If she's abusive, screaming and yelling a lot, that's a major turnoff for me and the kids probably will have problems later, either caused or indicated by this.

it's always case by case, but at this age, I don't think so. Too many hassles. I'm not taking care of another guys spawn either.

I'm a single mom with a family on the spectrum in various places and I would date a single dad on the spectrum. It would take a while before I would see my children being entered into the picture unless I knew things were going to work out, but I wouldn't rule it out.

my character is boring and off putting, but like the above posters said, the single mom has to keep her kids and the biological dad out of the picture for a very long time.

Well, I've never dated anyway, but theoretically, I probably would not date a single mom in most cases. The reason is because I doubt I could handle the "father" role, step or otherwise. And just because the single parent accepts you doesn't mean that his/her children will.