Anyone prefer or have FWB "relationships"?

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I would prefer FWB relationships as well but I can't even find those.

i think ideally i'd have 1 stable relationship.. but then i've had little experience so, anything would be welcome & i may have unrealistic ideas..
just looking for some lovin' methinks..

Most definitely. I make sure every one of my partners is free of STDs and has gone for testing.
I also follow a strict no condom, no sex policy.
This has discouraged a couple of them, but hey, I'd much rather be safe then sorry.

ah there goes the nice "romantic" image of free love :p lol nvm better safe than sorry indeed.
a Zappa fan? i've not heard it all but i love it, zappa fans now rarer than Aspies?

I can definitely relate to the third thing you said. Not too many people in my life, apart from my partners and closest friends, know that I engage in these types of activities. This is to prevent people from making assumptions about me, which I figure is easy to do in my situation because I'm female.

As well, I was in a sticky situation once where a good friend of mine came onto me in front of my other (former) friend...and she had a huge, almost obsessive crush on him. Of course, it made things very awkward between me and this girl, and it was that and other things that ruined our friendship. It was his fault though, and he didn't even like her, and to be completely honest, I didn't like her that much either. Now, even though we don't fool around anymore, the guy and I are still very close, so it luckily ended up working out.

It really depends on the situation. With most of my FWBs, we have confessed a mutual liking for each other far before any sexual interaction took place. For example, one of them is my friend's brother, who saw a picture of me online and thought I was hot. Once I learned a bit about him through my friend, I decided to chat online with him before we actually met to determine whether were personally compatible as well as sexually compatible. So, I think both partners have to assess whether there is a mutual attraction before any next steps are taken.

If one person is feeling frisky, but the other isn't, that's going to lead to some problems. I have had countless experiences of guys trying to initiate something sexual with me when I wasn't even attracted to them, and was just treating them friendly. In that case, I politely tell them that I'm not interested, and if they keep insisting, I move away. If they are friends of mine and I find out that they only see me in a sexual light, I simply drop them as friends, because that to me is just plain disrespectful.

That's an issue that should always be considered when thinking about this kind of "relationship". When I met my first FWB, I was experiencing a high level of depression and thus tended to be very clingy with the friends I had at the time, which weren't many.

As a result, I tried to get extremely close with my first FWB, and found the sexual interactions we had as shameful and empty because we weren't 'together'. It took me a little while to boost my confidence and gain the many friends that I have today, but I feel that once gaining an active life for myself wasn't an issue, I found having FWBs was much more enjoyable. Even though I'm close friends with my FWBs, I'm not emotioanlly atatched to them and that makes all of the difference.

A girl who I can chill with like a guy friend without that cheesy romance who can give me a BJ? Sign me up!

^^ LOL, that's exactly how I'd put it!

do such people even exist? &where?

They sure do...you just have to know where to look.
I've met mine mainly through friends...we got introduced during house parties and events we both attended.

I've also had a lot of success with them through the internet...and even met some platonic friends through dating sites.
I've gained an FWB-turned-relationship from Lavalife, one longtime FWB from Tagged, and my current dating partner
through Craigslist (though we tell everyone that we met in the coffee shop lineup)

i really do need to get out more lol
everyone seems to be "at it" except me..
i just wanna get down with the get down.. ?

I think for you, the net would be a great place to start. I never realized how many eligible young people there were in my areas until I actually got on those sites...there's a lot! I'm sure if you go to one of those sites and start searching, you will most definitely find what you're looking for.

i have a kinda useless browser.. on a PS3 as i have no PC & i really don't think i can keep up with more than 1 site at a time, aspie affection is confusing enough you know? to the point where i think i'd rather try to socialise & do the NT thing..
i dunno sorry.

I tried Aspie Affection and while it seems like a great concept, there really aren't that many users for people to pick and choose from that are in their area. I mean, I tried to search for a guy in my city and the only one I found was a guy who was in my AS group at school...kind of awkward. He's a nice guy, but I'm not attracted to him and his social skills are...minimal at best. But I'm sure he'll find someone!

i haven't been able to use it the past few days anyway & it hasn't been that helpful.. but everyone online seems to use MSN or something similar & i can't use those without a PC.
thanks for the advice, maybe i should move somewhere else or save up for a PC? lol