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Captain_Brain
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08 Nov 2004, 12:14 am

I had a thought today:
Can I ask all women who read this send a reply with a list of single words that they'd describe a man they'd like to really be with.
Eg

Mean
Pathetic
Angry
Alcoholic

(Maybe not those words, but descriptive words describing how you'd like your man to be)

Thanks for all the posts



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27 Nov 2004, 9:11 pm

even if you feel alone, i'm sure you have some friends. go to bars w/ them so that even if you don't meet a woman, you won't be alone but you'll still have a pretty good time. if you do meet someone, then that's awesome!! ! but i don't know much about meeting people in bars as i'm an underage countryish girl :)



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09 Dec 2004, 6:50 pm

I am really stuck, i'm trying to improve my image. I got a new Acura Integra that alot of girls go nuts over. I am going to inherit a decent real-estate operation that my dad has. I'm training for heavy industrial mechanics which is a job that sees salaries that are higher than many executives.

I have alot of new found confidence in my life but the girl thing is just stuck in the crap pile. I used to be deathly shy and have gotten over it. I am always scared of rejection and I am in a position to be rejected really bad.

One thing I will say is that the bars are likely not your answer. If I go to a bar it is to sit, maybe dance and listen to music. I can barely concentrate to talk in that environment. It's so easy for some people but it overloads me.
I'm sure some people here can see that point.



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09 Dec 2004, 7:29 pm

Absolute_Zero wrote:
I am really stuck, i'm trying to improve my image. I got a new Acura Integra that alot of girls go nuts over. I am going to inherit a decent real-estate operation that my dad has. I'm training for heavy industrial mechanics which is a job that sees salaries that are higher than many executives.

I have alot of new found confidence in my life but the girl thing is just stuck in the crap pile. I used to be deathly shy and have gotten over it. I am always scared of rejection and I am in a position to be rejected really bad.

One thing I will say is that the bars are likely not your answer. If I go to a bar it is to sit, maybe dance and listen to music. I can barely concentrate to talk in that environment. It's so easy for some people but it overloads me.
I'm sure some people here can see that point.


You sound just like me. :(


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18 Dec 2004, 8:20 pm

Meh, personnally I kind of gave up on it.

I'm concentrating on my own life and I have enough things I want to achieve in life and improve in myself to keep me busy.

If I ever meet someone, then great, and if I don't, then I don't.



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05 Feb 2005, 9:19 pm

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A man with a stable and high paying job is very appealing to most single women. Many women place the importance of a man's job above his physical also attractiveness. I think women find being a conoisseur of wine attractive, but I am not quite sure. I would assume that knowing about wines implies sophistication and goes along with being wealthy.


those type of women only wants his money



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09 Feb 2005, 10:11 pm

sephardic-male wrote:
NanoTy wrote:
A man with a stable and high paying job is very appealing to most single women. Many women place the importance of a man's job above his physical also attractiveness. I think women find being a conoisseur of wine attractive, but I am not quite sure. I would assume that knowing about wines implies sophistication and goes along with being wealthy.


those type of women only wants his money


I disagree. Authority and boldness can be found attractive, and the ability to bea a leader, capable of a high powered job.

If some old yokel won the lotto, women won't nessicarily like him - I know I wouldn't. Just because someone is high powered doesn't mean you're after their money.



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09 Feb 2005, 10:16 pm

Captain_Brain wrote:
Should I go out by myself to the bars? God I hate being alone. :cry: I need a woman. I really really do eh. Successful guys out there? Spare a brother a tip please. It's hard eh. :(


don't feel bad capt, i used to go by myself to bars, clubs, and the like when i used to do that kind of thing..but it got boring going solo, so now i just stay home watch tv, listen to the radio or something..oh the weekends i've wasted!



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20 Mar 2005, 10:23 pm

Man I'd really like to be with

Caring
Can put up with my non-stop talking
Humble
Patient
Intelligent
Laid Back

I don't mind shyness...Actually, I find it cute.



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20 Mar 2005, 10:35 pm

Captain_Brain wrote:
I had a thought today:
Can I ask all women who read this send a reply with a list of single words that they'd describe a man they'd like to really be with.


Kind
Patient
interested
interesting
loving
caring
Christian
Intelligent

Also, some major things for me are that he would want children, and would want his children homeschooled



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09 May 2005, 3:37 am

If you don't want to be a lonely guy, don't act like one. The biggest mistake I see my peers make, when they approach any female, is that they telegraph their insecurity before they even say a word.

Jerry Newport



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09 May 2005, 5:33 am

Quote:
they telegraph their insecurity before they even say a word


Jerry can you elaborate on that?



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09 May 2005, 8:28 am

It just means that alot of 'lonely people' have a deep down lack of confidence that women can read like a book. Subliminally, most women want to feel protected, secure and safe with a mate. If you don't generate an image that implies that you are safe, secure and confident then it's pretty hard to get a date.



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09 May 2005, 7:09 pm

Absolute_Zero wrote:
It just means that alot of 'lonely people' have a deep down lack of confidence that women can read like a book. Subliminally, most women want to feel protected, secure and safe with a mate. If you don't generate an image that implies that you are safe, secure and confident then it's pretty hard to get a date.


Couldn't have said it any better. Too many of our people act as if somebody they just met is way too important on the social scale than she really is. Like they will jump out a window if rejected. It's in the body language and other stuff they do before a word is said. Tip: If you see somebody you would like to meet and maybe date, don't stare at her for an hour beforehand.

Jerry Newport



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09 May 2005, 8:27 pm

TheWhale wrote:
Absolute_Zero wrote:
It just means that alot of 'lonely people' have a deep down lack of confidence that women can read like a book. Subliminally, most women want to feel protected, secure and safe with a mate. If you don't generate an image that implies that you are safe, secure and confident then it's pretty hard to get a date.


Couldn't have said it any better. Too many of our people act as if somebody they just met is way too important on the social scale than she really is. Like they will jump out a window if rejected. It's in the body language and other stuff they do before a word is said. Tip: If you see somebody you would like to meet and maybe date, don't stare at her for an hour beforehand.


I agree, but this is true with girls as well. Take a look at how Alie was able to get a boyfriend right after she was feeling very good about herself because of the good responses to her post here: http://wrongplanet.net/modules.php?name ... sc&start=0


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10 May 2005, 6:41 am

Yes. No woman wants a wussy guy that they feel they have to baby.

What a turn off.

And Alex, feeling good about yourself is a different thing entirley.