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jemir1234
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27 May 2009, 6:21 pm

willa wrote:

And, the proportion of people who look at relationships from an aesthetic point of view is larger than it should be. You'll notice though, as you get older, it isnt as bad. Dont judge life based on high school life lessons.
Here's a lesson, get by in high school with good grades and dont worry about anything else, but as soon as its over, forget it all, becuase it's useless.

Yup, i have a over a 4.1 GPA and I'm in IB, i take college classes in high school as a junior. I'll be a senior next your. I also exceeded on my standardized teting, so I'm no dummy. I'm not arrogant either, I'm just a realist, i see things exactly how they are.

I believe you dude, maybe things will be better> wait .THINGS are going to be better, i just took my realism and moved it down on the spectrum to optimism lol.

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27 May 2009, 6:28 pm

jemir1234 wrote:

i just took my realism and moved it down on the spectrum to optimism lol.

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27 May 2009, 6:28 pm

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Jemir-I'm sorry, I was being goofy and you seem to be in a more serious mood. My comment was supposed to be tongue in cheek -"puppy" is a term women use for adorable but completely irresponsible men- You seem to be feeling a lot of frustration re: romantic relationships. I can feel your anger across cyberspace so it may be simply that you are scaring them away. Sometimes the harder you try for something the farther it slips away. I've come to the conclusion that I've spent a lot of time wishing I had something without really considering whether I could handle the strain of a constant social relationship- kinda makes me glad I'm already old and decrepit. :roll:

This is what I think- find someone who makes you laugh.

Oh okay. yeah i am in a serious mood, but not taht serious, i call it a more realistic mood. But thanks for clearing things up. im not mad at you. maybe i am frustrated about relationships, but its cool

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27 May 2009, 6:33 pm

Good!
Women do dig confidence and optimism.

Thats what high school is about, getting good grades. Its all about getting into college and paying as little as possible for it. College chicks do dig brains. But also remember, college is just another 4 years that will lead to hopefully 50+ years. So keep your concentration on grades and getting into college (and realistically it doesnt matter where you get your degree from, there are 2 catagories, Ivy League, and the rest, so dont go gung ho to go to some big state school that will cost you 3 times as much as what ever 4 year local school you have, your employer isnt going to spend too much time going over where you got a degree, just that you have one, unless you're going for engineering or something, but your standard BA really dont matter)

This will all lead you to the next phase of life and put more money in your pocket. Which is the next lesson you need to learn, post college women stop caring about looks because they start caring about your bank account more =P

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27 May 2009, 6:38 pm

jemir1234 wrote:

You're right I forgot to add that stuff in there. yea, an attractive aspie woman would be straight up, and not do social BS. Aspie guys, and NT guys dont liek social BS. and if a girl is attractive, and doesnt do social BS then we will be all over her. Thats one reason so many gusy like older attractive women.

But how many girls did you approach or approach you, that you liked that was unattractive and didnt do social BS?

There have been a couple that I've taken interest in (though not enough to make a move since I wasn't around them long enough to get to know them)... in my personal experience, an otherwise ugly (by comparison) woman starts looking more and more attractive over time if there's personal compatibility... I once fell in love with a woman, and rated her a 8 (out of 10). We later became a bit estranged, and I was rating her as low as a 5. But then the most amazing thing happened: I fell in love with her again, and all of a sudden she was looking a 9... and it wasn't because she was changing appearances, it was because my own feelings for her influenced a purely subjective value... the only time pure physical attractiveness matters is in purely physical relationships...

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27 May 2009, 6:51 pm

College was a totally disappointing experience for me as far as finding dates goes. Hardly got as much as a sniff of interest from any girl. So I'd be hopeful but not expectant.

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27 May 2009, 7:41 pm

Hey Willa-
woof!

:wink:

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27 May 2009, 8:58 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

That's interesting Toad, I've also similar experiences. Hard to describe because it wasn't just about the personality.

It's also strange whenever I might dream about that person whom I didn't find particularly attractive....by that I mean in the mainstream sort of sense. My thought process after having dreamed about them is like out of that movie Love Potion #9. I can't stop thinking or obsessing over them. From a logical perspective it seems creepy and irrational which is why I don't normally share it with that said subject or anyone else for that matter. I wondered if anyone else ever had this happen....probably not....