Do you feel unattractive?

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I think that some parts of me are attractive, other parts not as much. I think I have nice hair, legs, hands ... but don't much care for my bum, my lips. Etc., etc.

I've realized over time that I largely base those perceptions on the reactions I get from men ... those parts of me that they notice the most, I figure, must be the attractive parts. I find it very hard to tell, on my own. Which is funny because I have definite ideas about what I find attractive in other women. It's just me that I have a hard time knowing about.

A logical extension of this idea is that I tend to emphasize those parts of me that I think men are the most interested in. I spend a lot of time making sure my hair looks good, for instance, and I tend to dress in a way that lets me show lots of leg.

This has become so ingrained that I scarcely notice it anymore.

Well my tormentors at school constantly told me I'm physically "ugly" I don't know when I look in the mirror I see a average looking bloke.

Even more confusing I went to a gay bar (alone) last night and I had a younger sexy gay man try to come on to me , and a 65 year old man (regular their) he really really laid it on. I told him dude that's nice though I'm freaking 33 and I still don't know if I'm bi,asexual, straight or gay, he told me why don't you come to my place and find out. Quite funny actually these gay guys are building up my confidence! (when /if I ever work out what I am)

Gay bars are cool they play good music and their are usually no meat head knuckle draggers their.

Inzane says:

I've got the 'stoner' effect.

LOL thats the 1st thing I noticed about you.

Apart from that yes your a good looking dude.

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Sunflower says:


think I might have already answered this, but I know I am not unattractive to others - but to my own standards I am to myself, if that makes any sense.


You seem like a cutie (physically) in my mind I have you pictured as being quite short.

Tim Tex says:

I can't find people with the same interests because many of them are artsy hipsters with left-wing political views and don't want to date Republican-voting Christians like me (and according to my mom, very few women--even NT ones--have the same interests as me anyway). I can't find fellow Republican-voting Christians because they shun me for having the interests that I do.

I'm said person (lefty type)

Your one serious oddball Tim!

May be gay guys like quite venerable type men, yin/yang and all that??

It's rather amusing since I was 1/2 pissed I told said gay guys "everything" eg my Mom lives with me in the home that I own and she has the big bed room (just like Seymour Skinner on the Simpson's) gay guys said it was "cute" and nice that I look after her, same situation with NT"s at a office party constantly tormented asked if I * my Mom, well I wish I could go back and say I love to * Mothers that's why I * yours!

I think I need to make friends with gay people their rather amusing.

Silly me of cause it's yin/yang I'm the AS male stereotype and said gay guys where the gay stereotype (think Elton John in a good mood)

I think that some parts of me are attractive, other parts not as much. I think I have nice hair, legs, hands ... but don't much care for my bum, my lips. Etc., etc.

You have nice eyes yes?

I find everything about me ugly, inside and out. I have real trouble understanding how anyone could love me, or like me for that matter, and because of it, I sometimes get paranoid that my friends aren't really my friends, but just people who find me so pathetic that they hang with me out of pity.

no

no

Well I did have a chuckle to myself, 65 year olds best (gay) friend started to get a little snarly and told me "can't you see my friend is cracking on to you" smiled and said nope. Also gay guy told me about the gay musical his in and last night their he was on TV promoting said show.

Any how not a tease so will not go to that bar again and the thought of having casual sex makes me want to vomit. The hugs where nice though

More like plain and ordinary. I was going to post a pic of myself in my avatar, but the shot is horrible, the photo is poor quality, and to be pretty blunt I just look like #$% in it.



Nobody has liked me for very long thus far, so of course NOT.

do i feel unattractive?

mentality yes
body yes
feeling .... yup

Yes and all 3 counts

yup that's the blunt of it

Strangely enough, despite being hopeless with women (even then, hopeless is putting it mildly), I see myself as an attractive man. I am very fit for a 43yo, I keep my weight down and work on my physique. I belive I am good looking - at least I don't mind seeing myself in the mirror. I know I am highly intelligent and interesting if spoken to on my level and therein lies the problem: I do not communicate the way most NT's do and as a result, cannot project a positive impression of myself to others.