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15 Jan 2010, 10:33 pm
gypsyRN wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
gypsyRN wrote:
Indiana has super cheap cost of living, compared to most of the US. I live in a nice neighborhood and there are 2 bedroom apartments for $525.
There are quite a few colleges here too. Maybe you can move!
You're both good looking people. Good luck with it, but try not to put yourself into a situation you can't get out of. I'm 10 years older than you are, and I've certainly made my share of terrible decisions when it comes to looking for love. Finally though, this Aspie found herself an ADHDer, and we understand and tolerate each other...and just have a lot of FUN!
You know that actually sounds like a pretty good idea There are quite a few colleges here too. Maybe you can move!
You're both good looking people. Good luck with it, but try not to put yourself into a situation you can't get out of. I'm 10 years older than you are, and I've certainly made my share of terrible decisions when it comes to looking for love. Finally though, this Aspie found herself an ADHDer, and we understand and tolerate each other...and just have a lot of FUN!
with my disability benefits i get $339/month. I'd just need to find a roomie to split the cost & i'd be able to afford it. I'd be surviving off the cheapest top ramen with how little money i'd have left over until i were able to findt a job there though which would suck hardcore.
Oh, and incidentally my girlfriend does have ADHD
.Fun times ahead?
Where in Indiana does she live? In Indianapolis the job situation is better than it is in a lot of smaller towns. There is also a non-profit here called DAMAR Services...they have raised a lot of awareness regarding disabilities and the employability of those with disabilities.
In regards to "fun times"...we have a lot of fun together. We tolerate each others quirks far better than anyone in either of our pasts has...but it is a challenge. He has a hard time keeping a job because he often can't meet deadlines. I have a hard time getting a job because I'm just about the world's worst interviewer (can't make small talk, have trouble making eye contact appear natural, etc.). I'm highly analytical and one of my "stupid aspie tricks" is related to categorizing and spatial recognition. So, we'll end up in arguments about the dumbest stuff...like him insisting the couch will fit someplace that it clearly won't, or doing a crappy job of packing the car, or putting the dishes away in the wrong place. It's a challenge, but it's a worthwhile challenge.
And I think you're right about her being more comfortable meeting people online first. A date is basically like an interview. And we are really crappy interviewers! So, if we get to know someone a little bit prior to meeting face to face, it eases up the interview-tensions meeting a new person produces...you know...a first impression that we're a total weirdo or super shy.
haha and by fun times i meant in regards to the ADHD since you seemed to make a point of that
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I'm not so sure TheRange see's it that way though. He seems to think that anyone good-looking are all lumped into one category of people who would never even contemplate dating online because naturally being so hot, even with Aspergers, they'd easily find someone compatible that they're comfortable with locally
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Though on another note, i'm a really crappy interviewer too
I'm also a crappy interviewer thoughh btw.
15 Jan 2010, 10:44 pm
15 Jan 2010, 10:47 pm
Celtic_Frost wrote:
There needs to be douchebaggery on here until we get the real answer. And so far, the OP hasn't said anything about calling her or her doing a specialized picture. Not to mention showing only one picture of her and she isn't a member of WP as far as I know.
This is a troll thread. The OP is probably laughing at all of you right now.
actually i did mention calling her. This is a troll thread. The OP is probably laughing at all of you right now.
15 Jan 2010, 10:50 pm
bdhkhsfgk wrote:
The OP has been around here today, so I'm sure he sees what were writing now and doesn't want to respond to it.
actually i've only just logged on just now as far as today goes. I wasn't even online yesterday 
. So i have no idea what you're talking about haha.
15 Jan 2010, 10:54 pm
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16 Jan 2010, 2:42 am
therange wrote:
Our problem is your reluctance to constructive criticism. You still haven't answered the question a poster had...have you chatted with her on webcam or on phone video cam?
Also, you aren't as bad looking as a lot of the guys on here...why do you personally feel the need to communicate with someone as an internet girlfriend, even if she is some hot girl with Aspergers and is 100 percent telling the truth? If you told your real life friends that you had an internet girlfriend, you'd be the laughing stock of the group. Or try telling the next girl in real life you meet about her. Also, like someone said, even if she is real and 100 percent truthful about who she is, don't you think she has plenty of real life guy attention?
Like someone said though, it's not our job or our business to place our values on you. But I don't know what you're looking for in this post...acceptance, attention, or whatever, but as you can see, most people here have lived longer than you and aren't as gullible.
Oh, i can take constructive criticism. However at this point i'm beginning to think your version of accepting constructive criticism is to break it off with her, because the more i post about her, the more you seem to think i'm just being difficult. Also, you aren't as bad looking as a lot of the guys on here...why do you personally feel the need to communicate with someone as an internet girlfriend, even if she is some hot girl with Aspergers and is 100 percent telling the truth? If you told your real life friends that you had an internet girlfriend, you'd be the laughing stock of the group. Or try telling the next girl in real life you meet about her. Also, like someone said, even if she is real and 100 percent truthful about who she is, don't you think she has plenty of real life guy attention?
Like someone said though, it's not our job or our business to place our values on you. But I don't know what you're looking for in this post...acceptance, attention, or whatever, but as you can see, most people here have lived longer than you and aren't as gullible.
And i have talked to her on the phone, yes.
Also i have told other people about her, how it's long distance, & that i'm dating her.
I've told: my friends, my family, etc
& so far all i've gotten are interested questions about what kind of a person she is and congratulations, particularly from my lady friends
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Pretty far from being a laughing-stock, actually.
16 Jan 2010, 2:44 am
Spokane_Girl wrote:
I've had three online relationships but I never took them seriously because I knew I'd never meet them. One of them found a girlfriend in real life and two o them stopped coming online.
I am also good looking and I still never had a bf. I had to find them all online and you know what, we met in real life. I met my first one on myspace and my second one on a kinky site and my husband on an adult forum.
For some reason I couldn't get a date in real life, I had to use the internet to get men. I think my shyness and AS took a toll in this for why I couldn't get a guy in real life.
I am also good looking and I still never had a bf. I had to find them all online and you know what, we met in real life. I met my first one on myspace and my second one on a kinky site and my husband on an adult forum.
For some reason I couldn't get a date in real life, I had to use the internet to get men. I think my shyness and AS took a toll in this for why I couldn't get a guy in real life.
oh, nicee
Ehhh, we actually don't talk much online.
We text back and forth alot on our cell phones mostly.
16 Jan 2010, 5:59 am
