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30 Sep 2010, 4:43 pm

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How do you think I feel? I'm graduating from a 4-year IT program with a male:female ratio of about 20:1, and I'm probably going to end up in an IT job with similar proportions. And you, as a woman, don't have to worry that much about inadvertent "sexual harassment"... if anything, if I were you I'd be more worried about becoming a victim rather than an accused perpetrator. It's the men, especially the naturally creepy ones like me, that take the majority of false accusations.

Saaad faaace. *hugs*

Honestly, if I got to know you in real life, i would most likely date you. And I mean that... you seem like a genuine person, which is way more than I can say for a lot of women our age. Unfortunately, I'm just as skittish about online dating as you are.

But in any case, don't say you won't ever have a shot at it or that no guy would want to date you, because there's at least one person that would... :wink:

You two are like the perfect match.

Go and get her, tiger.

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30 Sep 2010, 5:30 pm

Boo! now you have made me laugh out loud on a public bus! (i thought i was the only one seeing a potential match there. this is moving along glacially slow though. those kids today! never making rash decisions or rushing into things. i'm ashamed of today's youth.)

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30 Sep 2010, 5:47 pm

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I think it's time for them to perform the mating dance.

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30 Sep 2010, 6:27 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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I think it's time for them to perform the mating dance.

It's like one of those romantic comedies where it's perfectly obvious to everybody in the audience that these two are meant for each other.

I hope you two are PM-ing each other, Toad and Erisad, even if it's just to complain about us making assumptions :lol:

That's a start.

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30 Sep 2010, 6:27 pm

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I was thinking the same thing but both of em have to want a relationship & Erisad is clearlly not interested in being with a guy who's similar to her

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30 Sep 2010, 8:58 pm

Yes because being miserable makes us a perfect match. Can't you see it won't work out? I can because it never does. I'm glad to know my life is such a joking matter. I'm not going to jump in the pants of someone I don't know. I'm tired of people telling me who I need to be with. It's my decision, dammit. f**k it, you guys don't get it at all. :wall:

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30 Sep 2010, 9:09 pm

awww sorry Erisad. didn't want to upset you. we just want you both to be happy, and why not get to know someone safely on WP? as long as you seek advice here, we will seek to help you however we can!

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30 Sep 2010, 9:25 pm

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awww sorry Erisad. didn't want to upset you. we just want you both to be happy, and why not get to know someone safely on WP? as long as you seek advice here, we will seek to help you however we can!

Safely? As soon as I trade AIM addresses, I get pressured by the Aspie in question into doing things for him. One wanted to marry me after two chats, one wanted to visit my house immediately, one asked for me to share pics (even after saying he doesn't care about looks), and I'm tired of it. They act like the white knights when everyone else can see their posts but as soon as it's just us, they are just after sex just like everyone else.

Seek to help? Lately I feel like I've been getting attacked or mocked by other users. Not from you but in other threads people have basically said I'm a terrible person for saying what I thought. >.<

I just know that it won't work out with Toad. It never does. Right now I'm in one of those moods where I wish I wouldn't wake up. :cry:

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30 Sep 2010, 9:29 pm

Erisad wrote:

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awww sorry Erisad. didn't want to upset you. we just want you both to be happy, and why not get to know someone safely on WP? as long as you seek advice here, we will seek to help you however we can!

yeah, lots of people online and in person are insane. at least online they can be blocked. harder to do that in real life.

nobody wants you to get hurt. but we don't want you to stop trying.

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30 Sep 2010, 9:34 pm

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awww sorry Erisad. didn't want to upset you. we just want you both to be happy, and why not get to know someone safely on WP? as long as you seek advice here, we will seek to help you however we can!

yeah, lots of people online and in person are insane. at least online they can be blocked. harder to do that in real life.

nobody wants you to get hurt. but we don't want you to stop trying.

I want to stop trying. Everything is going downhill and I just want it all to stop. :cry:

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30 Sep 2010, 9:51 pm

Erisad has a point.

I don't think people should think "aspergers" goes with "decent person" or "not a jerk".

Be careful too. I got my email spammed by an aspie male saying he hopes i get beaten up and raped because I didn't want to date him.

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30 Sep 2010, 9:57 pm

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...I don't think Toad would do that. There may be others on this site who wish that upon me for other reasons but that's beside the point.

There are some people who have AS who I'm a bit irked with right now actually. Apparently wanting to give someone a congratulatory handshake/hug is a cause to panic and run away. She says she has sensory issues but has no problem randomly massaging other people without asking. Seems a bit hypocritical. Not to mention she's really pushy. She kept massaging and laying on another girl (playfully) when her boyfriend kept asking her to stop. He gets first dibs to feel his gf and she just doesn't get that. I know these are probably stupid reasons to be annoyed with someone but I'm tired of her using her AS as an excuse to not try to control her behavior. She's 18, not 5. :/

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30 Sep 2010, 9:57 pm

true that there are jerks and crazy people everywhere. caution is always good.... if bad stuff happens to people on WP, i hope they report it to the mods. at least there is that option here.

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30 Sep 2010, 10:00 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

true that there are jerks and crazy people everywhere. caution is always good.... if bad stuff happens to people on WP, i hope they report it to the mods. at least there is that option here.

I'm pretty sure there have been several users banned at my expense already, even though I didn't report them. :shrug:

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30 Sep 2010, 10:05 pm

I really was trying to be helpful Erisad. NOT everyone online is a jerk or a bad person. People offline can be real creeps to but there are some good people there but they can be very difficult to find sometimes. I don't blame you for giving up for rite now. Maybe you can focus on other things in your life & things might get better

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30 Sep 2010, 10:07 pm

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nick007, you have been unfailingly supportive, it's true.

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