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31 Aug 2012, 2:56 am

Wolfheart wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
--Asexual
--Saving herself until marriage
--thinks oral sex is evil
--not Christian or Jewish
--hates traveling
--doesn't want kids


Saving herself for marriage and doesn't want kids? This sounds unrealistic and very narrow, I think you would have more success if you opened yourself up more.

Well it sounds logical to me, if he is against marriage but wants kids. If he gets into a relationship with someone who won't sleep with him until they are married, but he will never marry her, then...well...no kids!

Even if Tim_Tex isn't against marriage, sex before marriage and having kids are two pretty important things that I think anyone would be wise to be picky about, if they have a strong opinion about them either way.



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31 Aug 2012, 5:27 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
--Asexual
--Saving herself until marriage
--thinks oral sex is evil
--not Christian or Jewish
--hates traveling
--doesn't want kids


Saving herself for marriage and doesn't want kids? This sounds unrealistic and very narrow, I think you would have more success if you opened yourself up more.

Well it sounds logical to me, if he is against marriage but wants kids. If he gets into a relationship with someone who won't sleep with him until they are married, but he will never marry her, then...well...no kids!

Even if Tim_Tex isn't against marriage, sex before marriage and having kids are two pretty important things that I think anyone would be wise to be picky about, if they have a strong opinion about them either way.


I am not against marriage, I just don't agree with marriage being a prerequisite for sex. And I do want to start a family someday.


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31 Aug 2012, 6:08 am

meems wrote:
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If you're only interested in sex from a person things will get boring pretty quickly

There has to be a meeting of minds or it's just soulless, mechanical sex


If you're only interested in sex, I don't think that's usually inspired by it being boring or mechanical. At least that's not what keeps me interested in sex.


What I meant was repeated sex with someone you aren't on the same wavelength with and can communicate well with outside of the sex, is soulless and empty - not worth doing in my opinion

We all know sex is a good thing but your level of connection with the other person has a major impact on how good it is

One-offs are ok for a mindless connection but not ongoing ones (from my own point of view)



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31 Aug 2012, 9:07 am

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I have three things I don't want

A boring girl
A clingly girl
A girl who is heroine chick skinny or bbw big.


How do you define boring?[/quote]


Us :wink:


I knew that was coming :roll:

Nt's bore me but when I see a person with Aspergers saying they don't want someone boring I'm interested in their definition of boring ie is it the NT definition or a different one?


It's a good question.

A boring girl would be a girl who wants to stay home all the time and has no sense of adventure and doesn't have much upstairs. Let's go try a new bar, or get on a jet ski and tear up the ocean, or go for a drive somewhere new, skydive, or take a class and learn something together. Basically someone who is intelligent and is adventerious.



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31 Aug 2012, 10:07 am

thewhitrbbit wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
aussiebloke wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
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I have three things I don't want

A boring girl
A clingly girl
A girl who is heroine chick skinny or bbw big.


How do you define boring?[/quote]


Us :wink:


I knew that was coming :roll:

Nt's bore me but when I see a person with Aspergers saying they don't want someone boring I'm interested in their definition of boring ie is it the NT definition or a different one?


It's a good question.

A boring girl would be a girl who wants to stay home all the time and has no sense of adventure and doesn't have much upstairs. Let's go try a new bar, or get on a jet ski and tear up the ocean, or go for a drive somewhere new, skydive, or take a class and learn something together. Basically someone who is intelligent and is adventerious.


I am intelligent and like staying at home. I don't like drinking to excess, I don't like adrenaline rush-type activities and I don't need loads of new things to be happening all the time in order to be entertained. I don't see this as being boring though - I'm just interested in more low key activities like reading, internet research and watching films and am generally more risk aversive.

Your definition of boring seems to be the standard NT one - it seems to mean you prefer being physically active.



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31 Aug 2012, 10:26 am

Tim_Tex wrote:
--Asexual
--Saving herself until marriage
--thinks oral sex is evil
--not Christian or Jewish
--hates traveling
--doesn't want kids


QFT. Allthough being muslim wouldn't be a red flag to me.



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31 Aug 2012, 11:07 am

nessa238 wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
aussiebloke wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
I have three things I don't want

A boring girl
A clingly girl
A girl who is heroine chick skinny or bbw big.


How do you define boring?



Us :wink:


I knew that was coming :roll:

Nt's bore me but when I see a person with Aspergers saying they don't want someone boring I'm interested in their definition of boring ie is it the NT definition or a different one?


It's a good question.

A boring girl would be a girl who wants to stay home all the time and has no sense of adventure and doesn't have much upstairs. Let's go try a new bar, or get on a jet ski and tear up the ocean, or go for a drive somewhere new, skydive, or take a class and learn something together. Basically someone who is intelligent and is adventerious.


I am intelligent and like staying at home. I don't like drinking to excess, I don't like adrenaline rush-type activities and I don't need loads of new things to be happening all the time in order to be entertained. I don't see this as being boring though - I'm just interested in more low key activities like reading, internet research and watching films and am generally more risk aversive.

Your definition of boring seems to be the standard NT one - it seems to mean you prefer being physically active.


I do, I've always been into baseball and such. I would say a lot changed when I overcame my fear of Rollercoasters.

I think ultimately it's about knowing who you are and what you need to be happy.



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31 Aug 2012, 11:13 am

thewhitrbbit wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
aussiebloke wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
I have three things I don't want

A boring girl
A clingly girl
A girl who is heroine chick skinny or bbw big.


How do you define boring?



Us :wink:


I knew that was coming :roll:

Nt's bore me but when I see a person with Aspergers saying they don't want someone boring I'm interested in their definition of boring ie is it the NT definition or a different one?


It's a good question.

A boring girl would be a girl who wants to stay home all the time and has no sense of adventure and doesn't have much upstairs. Let's go try a new bar, or get on a jet ski and tear up the ocean, or go for a drive somewhere new, skydive, or take a class and learn something together. Basically someone who is intelligent and is adventerious.


I am intelligent and like staying at home. I don't like drinking to excess, I don't like adrenaline rush-type activities and I don't need loads of new things to be happening all the time in order to be entertained. I don't see this as being boring though - I'm just interested in more low key activities like reading, internet research and watching films and am generally more risk aversive.

Your definition of boring seems to be the standard NT one - it seems to mean you prefer being physically active.


I do, I've always been into baseball and such. I would say a lot changed when I overcame my fear of Rollercoasters.

I think ultimately it's about knowing who you are and what you need to be happy.


I agree.



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31 Aug 2012, 11:32 am

Mindslave wrote:
My list is pretty brief:

A woman who doesn't force me to be responsible for her happiness. I can't make anyone happy. Nobody can.
A woman who is terrified of 'becoming a housewife'. Look, if you want to get married and live in a house, you're gonna be a housewife. Not all housewives get beaten, and many housewives are intelligent and are allowed to form a sentence. Cooking is NOT degrading. And not all women cook. My grandmother was a great woman and she didn't do the cooking. If you don't want to be a housewife, then don't get married! And if you don't want to get married, then why all the demands? The more serious the relationship, the more leeway you have to make demands.
A woman who can handle honest emotion, so I DON'T HAVE to lie to her. I don't want to feed her paranoia for the rest of my life.

I could list other things, but none of them are particularly important, and most of them fit into one of the three above 'categories'. Technically, the third one fits into the first one, but I put it down anyway.


How about the woman gets a part time job and pays the maid to be the housewife :D And she can do her shopping during the day in the mall.



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02 Sep 2012, 11:51 am

-I don't want someone who claims to be egalitarian yet she's the most sexist one ever
-I don't want a woman who cries if someone calls women females even if equally calls men males- because oh...this person believes that her species (and her gender of this species in specific) is much far more superior than any other species on earth, yuck.
-I don't want someone who goes boohoo over a thread when someone else hits a nerve (and go psycho because obviously they forgot to take their morning dose of pills), yuck.

tldr I don't date man-hater b*****s ;p



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02 Sep 2012, 1:13 pm

^^^ A bit harshly-worded.... but accurate.

Some of these gals demand someone they can make their *subordinate*.



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02 Sep 2012, 1:19 pm

BlueMax wrote:
^^^ A bit harshly-worded.... but accurate.

Some of these gals demand someone they can make their *subordinate*.


You haven't noticed that WP.net women by large are undatable? In the cost benefit analysis most of them come off as "Not offering enough to balance out with the list of demands" I suspect the elevated sense of self-value comes from being mainly on a forum where men outnumber women and where a large number of desperate men gas them up, to the point where they forget that they're like 3s and 4s at best.



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02 Sep 2012, 1:24 pm

I've dated some man-haters! I've also dated some female misogynists.

They're pretty much two different sides of the same coin.



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02 Sep 2012, 1:27 pm

^^^ Ouch, man. You may have a point but that's a pill that's NOT going to go down easy! ;)


The only advice I hate to share is that the longer your list of requirements is, and the tougher each demand is, and the less flexible you are in regards to them... your chances of finding someone to FIT that list dwindles exponentially.

Simply put... lots of inflexible demands, veeerrrrry few potentials remain to choose from. Then you're still left with whether you find them attractive and vice versa!



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02 Sep 2012, 1:28 pm

TM wrote:
BlueMax wrote:
^^^ A bit harshly-worded.... but accurate.

Some of these gals demand someone they can make their *subordinate*.


You haven't noticed that WP.net women by large are undatable? In the cost benefit analysis most of them come off as "Not offering enough to balance out with the list of demands" I suspect the elevated sense of self-value comes from being mainly on a forum where men outnumber women and where a large number of desperate men gas them up, to the point where they forget that they're like 3s and 4s at best.


You seem rather bitter about something! ;)



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02 Sep 2012, 1:39 pm

meems wrote:
You seem rather bitter about something! ;)


Not at all, heck, my statement wasn't even antagonistic or hostile, merely an observation.

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^^^ Ouch, man. You may have a point but that's a pill that's NOT going to go down easy! ;)


From what I've read, few of them do either, its one of the reasons for the 3 and 4 rating.