What is your ideal man/woman?

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1) Shy, awkward.

2) Very polite and understanding.

3) Someone who is genuinely caring and compassionate, and selfless.

4) Someone who is willing to make the first move with me.

5) Someone who loves me for me and can tolerate my flaws.

6) Someone who is honest.

7) Someone with a sense of humor.

Someone with a passionate love of technology.

9) Someone who's not very sexual.

10) Glasses and clean-shaven, but obviously that's not required.

You've confused me with these three. How can they possibly fit together?

Someone who is shy and awkward is going to be leery of rejection so they are very unlikely to make the first move. Someone who makes the first move is going to be sexual. Someone must be very sexual to let that overrule their shyness to be able to make the first move. You might want to reconsider some of your ideal concepts, just for the sake of logical possibility.

I think the hetero chicks here need to watch Sports Night (it's an older show - not too old but, ya know, not yesterday - and it's on Netflix Instant Play right now) and swoon over Jeremy (played by Joshua Malina). This character is the posterchild for sexy aspie male nerd.

Damn! Mom just canceled our Netflix subscription. >.<

Poor Erisad. For the Netflix-challenged, here's a sample taste:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JsQBpG-3TQY[/youtube]

Aww, he's so adorable. He looks like my high school german teacher who I adored. ^.^

I'm shy and awkward and I usually make the first move.

I'm borderline asexual too.

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It does not surprise me why most of you are single your expectations are way way to high.


How about some one who accepts you just the way you are and wont cheat or beat you up , it would mean your doing better than close to 90% of the population me thinks ?

I don't recall anyone asking for someone who rejects them, beats them up and cheats on them? Are we reading the same thread?

This thread is for your ideal partner. Not your partner you end up with. Ideal is an ideal, not real.

But the teeth thing is really the only thing I stand by.

I found my ideal woman a few years ago, and she rejected me because according to her, I "couldn't communicate", all because I asked for advice--one time--regarding taking things to the next level. How does asking for advice constitute an ability to communicate?

You really need to get over that. It was years ago. Have you spoken to a councillor?

Yes I have, but I can't get her out of my head. And the whole "not communicating" thing was based on things she assumed about me. And while I occasionally struggle with certain things, I have improved since then, but she thought any improvement was an attempt to intentionally deceive her.

I did everything I felt was right in trying to keep things going, I was assertive, I told her how I really felt, but it didn't work. I gave up my dreams of starting a family for her (she didn't want kids and I do).

It doesn't appear that she's good enough for you, Tim. I think it'd be best if you raised your standards to someone with similar life goals who won't hold you back. (Something tells me you've been told all this before.)

Have you ever crushed on anyone else since then? You need to change your thinking to think that she wasn't perfect for you, despite the fact you keep telling yourself she was. That's the problem here. Have you tried hypnosis?

If I raised my standards, I would never meet anyone.