Sweetleaf
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15 Dec 2011, 4:20 pm
B3astM4n wrote:
DetestableInsect wrote:
B3astM4n wrote:
Whether your goals are realistic or not, you NEED to try and you NEED to fail sometimes. Yeah, it blows but (And I'm not going to go with the whole, you learn from your mistakes thing here) you need it for personal growth. It's like rich kids who have beamers, live in a big houses, parents pay for everything, then suddenly they got cut off and need to get a job. I never had that, had to work and earn everything, be it better skills, money, whatever. Then I meet guys my age who have that rich kid situation and they don't know jack sh**. 25 years old, NT's, and they can't budget, save money, lazy workers, hell I could go on for pages about the stuff they can't do or don't know. All because they never had to try, and they never failed because someone was always there to pick up the pieces or bail them out.
You need to fail once in awhile, it's good for you.
You need to fail once in awhile, it's good for you.
Good speech to give at the soup kitchen during holidays
It's also the speech that saved me from turning into some unemployed, pill popping, never leave the basement mess. Well, at least you're fluent in sarcasm. That's a good start.
It further convinces me that's exactly where I could be headed....more or less. The people who fail sometimes are lucky, its when you fail all the time when things really seem hopeless.
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15 Dec 2011, 4:24 pm
15 Dec 2011, 4:33 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Surfman wrote:
then why visit a forum if you dont need others?
or are not programmed
to relate with others....
Maybe its more difficult, or comes less naturally
The aspie tendency to prattle on and on is a obvious attempt to relate, its just we are really bad at it
or are not programmed
to relate with others....
Maybe its more difficult, or comes less naturally
The aspie tendency to prattle on and on is a obvious attempt to relate, its just we are really bad at it
all good points, very well stated.
Holy sh**! I actually agree with you on something!
don't worry, it'll pass like a flu.Or diarrhoea
15 Dec 2011, 4:33 pm
15 Dec 2011, 5:59 pm
15 Dec 2011, 6:15 pm
15 Dec 2011, 6:58 pm
mv wrote:
By the way, for most (all) of you quoting me on here: I've struggled with depression for longer than you have been ALIVE. I know exactly what it's like. I'm trying to be encouraging.
I know exactly what it's like to be absolutely, completely alone in the world. Hell, I know what it's like to be all that and *still* have nonnegotiable responsibilities to other people and other things.
I know exactly what it's like to have to struggle to put one foot out of bed. And I know what it's like to do all that without the sounding board of the internet, by the way.
I know exactly what it's like to be absolutely, completely alone in the world. Hell, I know what it's like to be all that and *still* have nonnegotiable responsibilities to other people and other things.
I know exactly what it's like to have to struggle to put one foot out of bed. And I know what it's like to do all that without the sounding board of the internet, by the way.
I'm a little surprised by this. When you were so depressed, how would you have reacted if people told you the things you tell others?
You may not intend it, but your posts often come off as combative and unsympathetic. I assume you want to help, as well as expound your view, but maybe a bit more tact would smooth communication a bit.
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar and all that...
15 Dec 2011, 7:56 pm
DetestableInsect wrote:
I'm a little surprised by this. When you were so depressed, how would you have reacted if people told you the things you tell others?
They did. And there were no pharmaceuticals back then, or Aspergers diagnoses.
DetestableInsect wrote:
You may not intend it, but your posts often come off as combative and unsympathetic. I assume you want to help, as well as expound your view, but maybe a bit more tact would smooth communication a bit.
Yes, and yours come off as pandering and enabling. I prefer me.
DetestableInsect wrote:
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar and all that...
Don't care. Disgusted and frustrated with people who won't even try. Done with this thread.
Oh, and Sweetleaf, that's a good question. When I was paralyzed with depression and anxiety but had nonnegotiable things to do, I would focus on the tiniest part of it, the most basic, most nonnegotiable part. "If I don't get up and go to my job, my children don't eat." "If I don't study for this test, even if I don't understand it and can't stand doing *anything* right now, I flunk out of school and then I'm homeless."
15 Dec 2011, 8:23 pm
mv wrote:
Oh, and Sweetleaf, that's a good question. When I was paralyzed with depression and anxiety but had nonnegotiable things to do, I would focus on the tiniest part of it, the most basic, most nonnegotiable part. "If I don't get up and go to my job, my children don't eat." "If I don't study for this test, even if I don't understand it and can't stand doing *anything* right now, I flunk out of school and then I'm homeless."
Well I guess you are a strong person who is disgusted with the weak. That's fine.
You were motivated by not wanting to be homeless? Poverty would be a great reason to commit suicide! I'd put my kids up for adoption to avoid any responsibility.
We just have different points of view. No big deal, no need to be mad.
Society has medication for us now. I advocate it because it works for me. No guarantees though. There's never a guarantee.
15 Dec 2011, 8:57 pm
DetestableInsect wrote:
mv wrote:
Oh, and Sweetleaf, that's a good question. When I was paralyzed with depression and anxiety but had nonnegotiable things to do, I would focus on the tiniest part of it, the most basic, most nonnegotiable part. "If I don't get up and go to my job, my children don't eat." "If I don't study for this test, even if I don't understand it and can't stand doing *anything* right now, I flunk out of school and then I'm homeless."
Well I guess you are a strong person who is disgusted with the weak. That's fine.
You were motivated by not wanting to be homeless? Poverty would be a great reason to commit suicide! I'd put my kids up for adoption to avoid any responsibility.
We just have different points of view. No big deal, no need to be mad.
Society has medication for us now. I advocate it because it works for me. No guarantees though. There's never a guarantee.
It's fine, I've come across plenty of people of her type. Jaded and mean. No doubt she would treat a person like me as a lesser than. There are other people like that around here too. I don't even feel bad for thinking the stuff I thought about her anymore.
It doesn't really matter, as I'm going to keep posting here, regardless of what anyone says.
15 Dec 2011, 9:33 pm
His right you know you I said it once on "nice guys finishing last" and I'll say it again apparently it matters 
, just stick to porn most of you know it makes sense or perhaps you don't and it doesn't ?
Porn/fake vagina you can pick them up for $A 120 -$ 150 thats one fancy dinner with a women who wont give you anything in return) make sure you wash it out and let it dry out OK otherwise it will give you all sorts of strange diseases ,just like a women I would imagine.
15 Dec 2011, 9:54 pm
MR20 wrote:
DetestableInsect wrote:
mv wrote:
Oh, and Sweetleaf, that's a good question. When I was paralyzed with depression and anxiety but had nonnegotiable things to do, I would focus on the tiniest part of it, the most basic, most nonnegotiable part. "If I don't get up and go to my job, my children don't eat." "If I don't study for this test, even if I don't understand it and can't stand doing *anything* right now, I flunk out of school and then I'm homeless."
Well I guess you are a strong person who is disgusted with the weak. That's fine.
You were motivated by not wanting to be homeless? Poverty would be a great reason to commit suicide! I'd put my kids up for adoption to avoid any responsibility.
We just have different points of view. No big deal, no need to be mad.
Society has medication for us now. I advocate it because it works for me. No guarantees though. There's never a guarantee.
It's fine, I've come across plenty of people of her type. Jaded and mean. No doubt she would treat a person like me as a lesser than. There are other people like that around here too. I don't even feel bad for thinking the stuff I thought about her anymore.
It doesn't really matter, as I'm going to keep posting here, regardless of what anyone says.
she is one of the nicest people i have met on the site. what a load of rubbish saying she seems jaded or mean - i doubt you are that unaware of her posts. and DetestableInsect doesn't have a clue about her either. i see that he is back insulting people on the site who actually genuinely care. nice one.
15 Dec 2011, 10:02 pm
aussiebloke wrote:
His right you know you I said it once on "nice guys finishing last" and I'll say it again apparently it matters , just stick to porn most of you know it makes sense or perhaps you don't and it doesn't ?
Porn/fake vagina you can pick them up for $A 120 -$ 150 thats one fancy dinner with a women who wont give you anything in return) make sure you wash it out and let it dry out OK otherwise it will give you all sorts of strange diseases ,just like a women I would imagine.
, just stick to porn most of you know it makes sense or perhaps you don't and it doesn't ?Porn/fake vagina you can pick them up for $A 120 -$ 150 thats one fancy dinner with a women who wont give you anything in return) make sure you wash it out and let it dry out OK otherwise it will give you all sorts of strange diseases ,just like a women I would imagine.
do you consider yourself a nice guy? i don't know you in real life, only your posts, and it is worth noting that not so many of your posts are positive or kind or encouraging compared to how many are harsh or mean or judgmental. i would like to know your criteria for "nice guy".
15 Dec 2011, 10:13 pm
aussiebloke wrote:
(Porn/fake vagina you can pick them up for $A 120 -$ 150 thats one fancy dinner with a women who wont give you anything in return)
I do like the sound of that dinner
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15 Dec 2011, 10:14 pm
15 Dec 2011, 10:21 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
aussiebloke wrote:
His right you know you I said it once on "nice guys finishing last" and I'll say it again apparently it matters , just stick to porn most of you know it makes sense or perhaps you don't and it doesn't ?
Porn/fake vagina you can pick them up for $A 120 -$ 150 thats one fancy dinner with a women who wont give you anything in return) make sure you wash it out and let it dry out OK otherwise it will give you all sorts of strange diseases ,just like a women I would imagine.
, just stick to porn most of you know it makes sense or perhaps you don't and it doesn't ?Porn/fake vagina you can pick them up for $A 120 -$ 150 thats one fancy dinner with a women who wont give you anything in return) make sure you wash it out and let it dry out OK otherwise it will give you all sorts of strange diseases ,just like a women I would imagine.
do you consider yourself a nice guy? i don't know you in real life, only your posts, and it is worth noting that not so many of your posts are positive or kind or encouraging compared to how many are harsh or mean or judgmental. i would like to know your criteria for "nice guy".
I'm nice to my pets and my mother and I put in a few $ here and their for the poor (I'm a low income earner so can not afford more)
Is that nice ?
I just dont see people as worth it why should I spend my time and money keeping some one amused when I know as a aspie nothing meaningful can come out of it ?
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