"Friends with benefits" is nonsense.

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26 Oct 2013, 2:36 pm

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Hey f**k you you stupid c**t.


Well I'd be happy to oblige, but I've already opted for the duck.

*quack quack*


go ahead and f**k ducks. Have fun!



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26 Oct 2013, 2:38 pm

Tell you what, right, read through this when you are calm.

I think you may have mistaken general points I made as being a dig at you. They were not. I was suggesting things, actually, to kind of help (don't laugh). Because, believe it or not, I'm usually pretty good at that in real life (not sure it's coming over in the cyberworld, thought) Then, I moved into the general, and you thought I was having a pop. I was surprised that you saw a silly comment about olives as me trying to force my view of anything onto anyone else.

Right. Cough cough, back on track towards whatever.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:38 pm

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I can see a lot of f***ing you going on. Now that's what I call a FWB.


Hey I was just kidding around about the f*****g.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:42 pm

octobertiger wrote:
Tell you what, right, read through this when you are calm.

I think you may have mistaken general points I made as being a dig at you. They were not. I was suggesting things, actually, to kind of help (don't laugh). Because, believe it or not, I'm usually pretty good at that in real life (not sure it's coming over in the cyberworld, thought) Then, I moved into the general, and you thought I was having a pop. I was surprised that you saw a silly comment about olives as me trying to force my view of anything onto anyone else.

Right. Cough cough, back on track towards whatever.


Its all good. No problem. I just get a little carried away sometimes. I hope you didn't get offended or anything by it. Sometimes I get into heated discussions and it gets out of hand.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:43 pm

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I can see a lot of f***ing you going on. Now that's what I call a FWB.


Hey I was just kidding around about the f***ing.


That's ok :)


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26 Oct 2013, 2:44 pm

I realize I was being kind of a jerk at the end here. Sorry. You know what I was wrong. I kind of read the post and immediately got all pissed before I realized that it was not what I though it was.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:45 pm

No, that's okay. That's what men are generally like when they have lack of sex

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And I REALLY hope you're laughing at that.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:51 pm

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No, that's okay. That's what men are generally like when they have lack of sex

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And I REALLY hope you're laughing at that.


lol. Yeah I just got dumped recently so add that on top and its not good.
And she got engaged the day after. Really strange stuff if you ask me. It was online so I am sure that mess should of been avoided. I should of known LDRs are BS.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:57 pm

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Now, just because she has the choice, doesn't mean she will do so.

This is a general difference between the male and the female - the choice factor (quality a different thing) - which seems prevalent here on the board.

When a woman says that she's not interested in friends with benefits, I would tend to believe her (although, as always, it depends on the 'friend').
When a man says that, especially when he has had a limited sex life, I would tend to think liar liar pants on fire.


What my my mind wants and what I really want are two different things. I have a little thing called restraint you should find out about it. Waiting for the best sexual experience ever with the right person. Nothing wrong with that. I sometimes desire FWB but I really do not think I could make that happen. Most women probably think I am inadeaquate. Very low confidence. I am not a player. I do not want ot be a player. Not my style. I need someone who will not judge me. I need to feel secure and not vulnerable. This comes with trusting somoene. And I will stick to my guns on this one. It is called INTEGRITY.


Who said - who said - my post was about you? When did I say it was about you?

And your comment about restraint - where is the evidence for that? Actually, no, I couldn't care less. Just because I don't pat you on the head, doesn't mean I'm against you, or the polar opposite of you. And if I was - so what!

I stand by my post. Most women who live in the real world would agree with me. You're boring me.

What is this "most women in the real world" mean. And I am boring. I guess I am not exciting for most women in the real world as well. hmm. this is interesting.

I happen to think that women are all different. Maybe the ones you come across agree with you. Women come in all varieties and lifestlyes.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:57 pm

punkguy378 wrote:
octobertiger wrote:
No, that's okay. That's what men are generally like when they have lack of sex

:P

And I REALLY hope you're laughing at that.


lol. Yeah I just got dumped recently so add that on top and its not good.
And she got engaged the day after
. Really strange stuff if you ask me. It was online so I am sure that mess should of been avoided. I should of known LDRs are BS.


that's called dodging a bullet. learn your lesson and move on to (hopefully) better tomorrow.



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26 Oct 2013, 2:58 pm

Sounds like you could have avoided something that was bad for you. Maybe it's someone else who had better beware.

I read your thread about it and felt for you.

Might sound callous to you right now, and premature, but when you can laugh at what has happened, and yourself, you know you're okay - in my opinion.

Anyways I will shut up now.



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26 Oct 2013, 3:00 pm

leafplant wrote:
punkguy378 wrote:
octobertiger wrote:
No, that's okay. That's what men are generally like when they have lack of sex

:P

And I REALLY hope you're laughing at that.


lol. Yeah I just got dumped recently so add that on top and its not good.
And she got engaged the day after
. Really strange stuff if you ask me. It was online so I am sure that mess should of been avoided. I should of known LDRs are BS.


that's called dodging a bullet. learn your lesson and move on to (hopefully) better tomorrow.


Love is starting to seem like BS. Plus she is actually a liar so that was good I got out of that. Engaged? She is known for trying to incite jealousy. Whatever she is nothing to me anymore. In fact I lost interest months ago. I shouldn't of tried to chase her after I knew she was a piece of work.



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26 Oct 2013, 3:04 pm

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Sounds like you could have avoided something that was bad for you. Maybe it's someone else who had better beware.

I read your thread about it and felt for you.

Might sound callous to you right now, and premature, but when you can laugh at what has happened, and yourself, you know you're okay - in my opinion.

Anyways I will shut up now.


:lol: Well I am not sure of anything really. She could of been telling the truth but i doubt it. I mean the guy she was referring she has been friends with him since she was 8 or something. She said there was nothing there now all of a sudden she is engaged to a guy she wouldn'tt because he has serious bipolar issues. You can kind of see this person is not very good at lying. She is too obvious and blatant about it.

But I caused plenty of problems myself which sort of led to her doing this to me. I was a total jerk a few times.

She was pretty hot too. Well at least in her pictures. But you never know for sure online. She had some pretty bizrre stories about her mother being a sociopath. Just some strange outlandish stuff that seems hard to believe. And she was the dream girl of any nerdy type. Loved chess and Magic (the card game). And she was very smart. She was sexy. Even got some nice pictures if you know what I mean :twisted:



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26 Oct 2013, 3:19 pm

leafplant wrote:
punkguy378 wrote:
octobertiger wrote:
No, that's okay. That's what men are generally like when they have lack of sex

:P

And I REALLY hope you're laughing at that.


lol. Yeah I just got dumped recently so add that on top and its not good.
And she got engaged the day after
. Really strange stuff if you ask me. It was online so I am sure that mess should of been avoided. I should of known LDRs are BS.


that's called dodging a bullet. learn your lesson and move on to (hopefully) better tomorrow.


I assume you mean she was full of crap. And she was trying to get out of it easier in a way it would appear I could not get her back.

We were totally into each other the first month. And after that it was just problem after problem mainly with my actions and I do not fault her because she kept giving me another chance hoping I would knock it off. I think it was this that caused lack of interest and even I started to lack interest in her. The ship sailed and it was gone for good.

Just wish she could of been a little more up front and not play stupid games at the end. What a shame.

Live and learn that things do not always go as planned. There are more to choose from and I am sure I can do better than her.



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26 Oct 2013, 3:23 pm

I think the fact that you are here and you are talking openly about your situation (and even laughing a little) Is testament to yourself.

I wish you well.

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27 Oct 2013, 8:49 am

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I'm jealous of you guys. It sounds fun thing to me but I'm not good having some sort of situations like that especially with people. I suck at communicating and stuff with girls. They think I am sexual pervert or an idiot. I have never asked for FWB at all.



I've never really heard of anyone asking someone to be a FWB. It just happens, then you talk about it after the fact.

I agree and disagree with the OP. I just think it depends on the people.

For me, FWBs were fun, but I never kept them up for long periods of time. Maybe the span of a couple of months and we went about our ways.
We were friends before the physical aspect came into play - since usually either I or they were in a relationship and when one of those would end, the messing around begun.

But I don't think my experiences were that typical, or maybe they were, I dunno. There were plenty of times we'd just hang out like normal friends and not do anything physical. Times when we'd hang out for the first couple of hours then it led to something.. and times when as soon as I opened the door to greet her, the panties were flying off.

I haven't had a FWB since I was 19 though.