How on Earth do you approach & talk to women?

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10 May 2012, 5:08 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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MXH wrote:

Vigilans wrote:

MXH wrote:

Vigilans wrote:

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Approach, one step at a time (left, right, left, right, etc); when close, stop. Say hello

If only it were that easy, apparently our boobs make it super difficult.

They have to overcome their fear of the bewbs and learn to accept them as individuals with hopes and dreams of their own

What makes it difficult is them being individuals and not caring much for meeting a new person. Atleast in my experience

Bewbs are always down to meet new people

but i dont even like boobs that much :cry:

that's okay, more for me

You're boobless?

Nope, I'm quite well endowed
I was talking about on other women

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10 May 2012, 5:15 pm

Delphiki wrote:

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So you can not meet other people through the gym, work, volunteering, etc.?

Why would I want to think a certain way about someone? espicially since I do not know you and will never meet you? I am just trying to make sense of your statement

nope.

i wouldnt know, but i see it often enough around here to know what it looks like. I already said im not talking about individual in the being different from everyone, but rather in the being singular. As in them not wanting someone around, or well atleast not me.

Don't those go hand in hand? (not at all saying people should not like you)

Theres a high possibility that im worthless enough that im not wanted around. Anyhow im done with approaching people. Theres only so much rejection one can take, ive exceeded that ammount

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10 May 2012, 6:01 pm

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but i dont even like boobs that much :cry:

MXH isn't a boob man, he's a butt man.

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10 May 2012, 6:04 pm

Kjas wrote:

MXH wrote:

but i dont even like boobs that much :cry:

MXH isn't a boob man, he's a butt man.

exactly

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10 May 2012, 6:16 pm

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Umm yeah, understand it was sarcasm. it was humor based on assault, fear of rape.

Quite a lot of humor is based on someone's sacred cows. This is the case regardless of whether the sacred cow is a good one or a bad one. How many jokes are about nuns or God or stuffy uptight people? Quite a lot of humor is rather over-the-top. Quite a lot of humor is offensive, on purpose.

Also, given the context of the thread, it looks like it's making fun of men who approach women without considering what would make the woman comfortable. That's how I read it anyway.

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Accusing a woman of being "humorless" for calling out this kind of thing is textbook.

I suggested, sarcastically, that someone whose posts frequently drip with sarcasm had never heard of sarcasm. If I were saying it directly, I would have called her out for ignoring the obvious element of sarcasm in what she was objecting to when she was so obviously familiar with sarcasm herself. Saying it plainly would have been less fun, though.

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10 May 2012, 6:22 pm

Ancalagon wrote:

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Umm yeah, understand it was sarcasm. it was humor based on assault, fear of rape.

Thats a very good point.

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10 May 2012, 6:23 pm

Kjas wrote:

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but i dont even like boobs that much :cry:

MXH isn't a boob man, he's a butt man.

Butts do have the advantage of not being located in front, directly beneath the face in the same distracting way that boobs are.

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10 May 2012, 6:25 pm

Ancalagon wrote:

Kjas wrote:

MXH wrote:

but i dont even like boobs that much :cry:

MXH isn't a boob man, he's a butt man.

Butts do have the advantage of not being located in front, directly beneath the face in the same distracting way that boobs are.

see, intelligent design

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10 May 2012, 6:31 pm

MXH wrote:

Ancalagon wrote:

Kjas wrote:

MXH wrote:

but i dont even like boobs that much :cry:

MXH isn't a boob man, he's a butt man.

Butts do have the advantage of not being located in front, directly beneath the face in the same distracting way that boobs are.

see, intelligent design

I'm still amused that I got it accidentally right for once.

They are still distracting! Well, they still distract me...

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10 May 2012, 7:18 pm

MXH wrote:

Delphiki wrote:

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Don't those go hand in hand? (not at all saying people should not like you)

Theres a high possibility that im worthless enough that im not wanted around. Anyhow im done with approaching people. Theres only so much rejection one can take, ive exceeded that ammount

Can you be objective about every time you were rejected? Was your target giving you any signs at all that they were interested[a smile,eye contact?] Perhaps you were dead in the water before you even approached some random woman .

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10 May 2012, 8:17 pm

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i don't really get why people think cold approaches should be some sort of goal. every single person i've ever dated or had sex with was familiar to me, or else i spoke to them extensively online.

It's a right pain in the hole when all the women that you want to have sex with (and that will have sex with you) are taken, amirite?

if that was the case i'd suspect a person is subconsciously selecting partners that are "taken", perhaps because it protects the person from having to take a leap.

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10 May 2012, 8:35 pm

I would hazard a guess that you speak to them as you would any other person of either gender?

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10 May 2012, 9:13 pm

MXH wrote:

Ancalagon wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

Umm yeah, understand it was sarcasm. it was humor based on assault, fear of rape.

Thats a very good point.

No surprise that you're down with rape humor. Don't really care about whether people think it's funny/like it/don't care/whatever.
It's not cute. Not something appropriate for this environment. and Not something someone should feel shy to complain about.

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I would hazard a guess that you speak to them as you would any other person of either gender?

You'd think that would be the case. Apparently women are more challenging for a variety of reasons including we don't know enough about motor oil, don't body build, & have breasts.

speaking of which

Ancalagon wrote:

Butts do have the advantage of not being located in front, directly beneath the face in the same distracting way that boobs are.

You're gonna have to get over that.

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10 May 2012, 9:21 pm

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

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I would hazard a guess that you speak to them as you would any other person of either gender?

You'd think that would be the case. Apparently women are more challenging for a variety of reasons including we don't know enough about motor oil, don't body build, & have breasts.

Breasts, while nice, aren't as fascinating as faces. I don't always understand what the facial quirks mean, but it doesn't make them any less interesting to watch..

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10 May 2012, 9:23 pm

rabbittss wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

rabbittss wrote:

I would hazard a guess that you speak to them as you would any other person of either gender?

You'd think that would be the case. Apparently women are more challenging for a variety of reasons including we don't know enough about motor oil, don't body build, & have breasts.

Breasts, while nice, aren't as fascinating as faces. I don't always understand what the facial quirks mean, but it doesn't make them any less interesting to watch..

I agree with you wholeheartedly on this issue.

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10 May 2012, 9:27 pm

rabbittss wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

rabbittss wrote:

I would hazard a guess that you speak to them as you would any other person of either gender?

You'd think that would be the case. Apparently women are more challenging for a variety of reasons including we don't know enough about motor oil, don't body build, & have breasts.

Breasts, while nice, aren't as fascinating as faces. I don't always understand what the facial quirks mean, but it doesn't make them any less interesting to watch..

I would say that if someone is wearing a shirt that shows a lot of cleavage it would be distracting. I would probably look more even though it is not my intention. It is actually quite bothersome when people have a really low cut shirt

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