For guys who are having zero replies on okcupid....

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This is true. There have always been some girls into comics and gaming but the influx of genuine interest from other women and increase in feminine energy in those spaces has been super nice. It's starting to be a lot easier/nicer to be a girl with those interests and it's great.

It's nice to be able to be around girls who aren't busy making fun of you for your interests too.

The girl who expressed desire to invite me to her place for a dinner (took my number and said she gonna call me...so i am waiting) is into games like Assassin's Creed and God of War.

I tried Internet dating sites for years, I found a few interesting girls on there, (most of the ones who responded had low self esteem) some even became long time friends but for the most part, the sites are horrible.

I still find talking to girls in an environment they feel comfortable and relaxed and in the real world, is always the best way. The main thing I find girls want to see in a guy is Confidence (Be happy with who you are, take initiative), Goals, Have a job or studying (Sad but true), Self Sufficient (That goes along with if you have a set of wheels, well at least Aussie chicks generally feel this is a requirement) and that you can make her laugh, someone to connect with. Mind you this is all for naught if she doesn't find you attractive (Shallow? no way, just human nature. This is both guys and girls).

I'm sure I missed out a few things but that is just my general experience and from what I have learnt over the years thus far. But hey, maybe Online dating works for other people, I just don't think it beats the original approach of actually walking up with a bit of courage, maybe after a few beers and talking to her.

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Yeah, but why should even a 5 give them a chance?

ohh look, its another positive contributor to the discussion. Why dont you stand next to aussiebloke so i can smack you both in one blow

I'm unclear as to why people have any desire to get with numbers. I mean, I like math and all but for dating purposes I generally prefer people.

Woo violence! There's hope for you yet!

not for you though. seriously, go troll another forum.

because people that dont live in mamby pamby land understand that theres people with more 'value' and less 'value' out there. Relationship wise for ease of comparison its put on a 1-10 scale. 1 being worthless, 10 being very valuable. Reasons for ratings can vary.

In all seriousness, though, for the most part people with severe social retardation (and let's face it, non-neurotypicality *IS* social retardation) have pretty much an automatic -5 to -8 penalty on that "scale". The smarter they are, typically the worse the penalty.

People do like and just agree with these folk so they leave us alone.

ialdabaoth and aussiebloke, yes, you two are right, aspie guys suck and not good bf materials.

Yet, like all guys, they still have dicks and need to f**k, hence why my thread can be useful to them.

Wooo more negativity based rash arguments!

No, you're so wrong its not even funny. you're so wrong i dont even know if i should bother fixing it or just keep laughing. Ive met 1 confirmed aspie in my life. Ive lived with her for months now. WITH social retardation she is still a 9-10 in most peoples books. Yes she does have the advantage of being a very pretty woman. but your scaling is driven not by what is realistic but rather your own negative views. Considering that as i said scaling varies on many things including the person doing the scaling. Social interactions do count toward the scale as its a scale of value. Value meaning socio-economic value of a person.

Why should my needs matter in the least to the rest of the world? Why do creatures like me deserve to have our needs met?

if thats how you view yourself fine, by all means go into your corner of self pity. But dont drag everyone else with you when only you have set those walls for yourself. Misery loves company.

The rules work VERY differently for girls than for guys. A girl can easily be a 9-10 no matter what her social acuity is. And I'm pretty sure that this thread is actually about guys, since (for the same reasons) girls - especially "9-10" girls - don't actually NEED any of this advice.