some aspie women get dates,other aspie women can't

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Him and a lot of other men in here hate me, I wouldn’t take it personally. It’s not really about you at all. It’s about me rubbing them up the wrong way and them hating me for it.

There’s only one love and dating member I have a problem with personality wise, and it’s not him.

I know some guys who will get downright hostile towards female gamers. This one incel/redpiller says things like "There are no gamer girls except for landwhales." or he'll say something like "I hate gamer girls. They make me see red. If they must play video games, let them only play vapid s**t like The Sims, Second Life, and Barbie's Horse Rescue!" but at the same time, he gets mad that being a gamer supposedly makes women see him as a "creep". Despite not wanting women in his "man space", he's extremely homophobic.

A lot of guys do indeed feel threatened by intelligent women. I know my father is but he'll complain about his mistresses' intelligence and how they won't leave him alone.

Well that's just ominous.

I never said you said anything bad about punk girls, that was just me commenting on you liking goth and punk girls.

Men here call women bossy all the time. I see it online too. It’s both a joke and meant to be serious. A lot of women in relationships it seems take charge and become the boss. Telling their men what they can and can’t do what they can spend their money on etc. women tend to become the finical party in relationships i dont know why. So guys joke about it with other guys. They’d never say it in front of their wife’s in fear of punishment.

I don’t thnk I’d talk about my gf that way, but I also would joke about our sex life or talk to guys about the sexual acts we did as bragging rights, so what do I know. I’m far from normal,guy. For what it’s worth I understand women talk about guys too, they apparently share their sexual stuff too. And complain about how stupid their guys are(last part I’ve overheard in person) I don’t get it. Why do people tell others about their sexual life? And it’s not asking advice which I could get, but it’s like yeah he ate me out so good last night or she let me d doggy style. Etc. I don’t get it. Seems violation of the relationship or do I want to hear about others sex life. I also don’t want to hear about how guys would bang a woman if they could. I find it offensive.

Same, actually. There has only been one guy that I've encountered here that I would truly say I don't like at all. I pretty much like everybody else to at least some degree, or am at least neutral towards them.

Boo!

I'd be willing to bet real money that he totally got owned by a girl in a multiplayer game one day and just never got over it. Guys like him are so insecure with themselves, but try to hide it by taking it out on the rest of the world because they're just immature and don't know how to deal with their own feelings.

Chances are if he's homophobic, he has at one point or another had an attraction to another guy. That kind of self-loathing is just really sad to me. It just makes me upset that people think less of a person because of what gender (or genders) they find attractive. Intolerance over something someone can't change is not cool, dudes.

I get called a "know-it-all" by a lot of guys in particular, but oh well. If the thought of being with a woman who's smarter than them is terrifying, then it just means neither of us is what the other person is looking for- which is fine.

I actually love intelligent women.

I don’t hate you. I don’t hate in general except for few people. Terrorist, dictators etc. people who take pleasure in harming others basically.

You’re hostile to me, and she says she agrees with that which means she also thinks I’m unintelligent I guess.

I liked you years ago. Wish we had nicer conversations. If she’s also going be hostile to me I need to treat her so and raise my defenses somas not to be as naive and trusting I was with her before. Despite th fact her name is similar to the Katie troll which makes me anxious. Up til now she seems nice.

Also If I did hate or dislike yiu I wouldn’t respond to you. There’s few people on this forum I don’t respond to and try to avoid reading their posts.

That's actually one of the things I don't agree with that I've seen her say: I don't think you're unintelligent. I personally try really hard to not insult someone's intellect if I can help it. I have an, "I like everybody until they specifically give me a reason not to" mindset towards people, so I would never be hostile unless I or someone else was specifically attacked (with the intent on hurting someone, not by accident).

You've actually been quite nice to me up until right now, so it's a bit sad to see that change in attitude towards me.

Also, no idea if this helps or not, but there is no variation of "Katie" in my name. "Kay" is part of my actual name. I certainly don't want to cause anyone anxiety, either.

That’s a common guy reaction to female gamers(phone games not included) it’s also a common reaction to female shooters, female sirsoft players. Usually follows by comments how pretty they are, flirting, sexual flirting, sexual jokes. Being super friendly with them in hopes of hooking up. Etc. guys gather around females online in male dominated places. We have one girl in my gaming clan, she gets all th above. I’ll admit she’s cute(personality I haven’t seen her) if she was older and near by she’d probably be close to my idea woman, she’s a bit sexually crude. Or rather I’m quite naive as everyone in the group says. For a 18 old woman she knows a lot of horrible sex acts and jokes about it. Anyways. Women make u 50% of gamers but a lot of that is phone games. Then pc. Then consoles where they usually don’t talk over chat to conceal they are female to avoids the above and “go make me a sandwich jokes”.
Some women complained guys in their tribe in ark made them do maid work. Sexist guys
I don’t treat the girl in my group any different then my guy friend. Well not true, she was more sensitive to certain messing around with each other me and my friend do on ark. So I’d get her stuff to make up for it(Dino’s on the game) some females mute all guys, I had s female friend who’s female friend wouldn’t talk to other guys(guess her bf gets jealous) so basically women gamers appear to be minority and rare hence guys reactions. Trust me most guys would love a gf who games or shoots or airsofts. There’s a few couple and family gamers I’ve met. My first clan was run by a husband and wife and their kids who play call of duty games. Current one is a dad who games and his daughter does too but not with us. A lot of guys would prefer that so they can share hobbies and their gf won’t be mad at them for gaming send threatening to leave them over it.

I’m nice to nice to everyone. I like making people happy. I like helping people. It’s why I do nice things for people if I can.
I wasn’t intending to be mean just stating I’d have to be more careful with you I guess.

Despite my complaining, I atleast use to be a nice cheerful guy. But I’ve been rejected a lot and I mean a lot and mis treats by women. To be honest me happy is bad anyways. I get playful and hyper active as my adhd comes out more when I’m happy. Women don’t like it they find it annoying. Some said it was cute but they lied about other stuff like finding me attractive and loving me, so they probably lied about that too.

Katkay was one of her many names, she’s currently on her as Kara....... but she’s atleast less trolling for now but still makes a little pokes sometimes. She really badly attacked me and some other guys who are mostly gone now

Too bad you didn’t meet me years ago.

This is kind of an observation on my part (and by no means a rule or something applicable to everyone), but I think some girl gamers who are particularly crude are trying a little too hard to "fit in" to what they think gamer guys are like. I kind of just want to say to them something like, "Oh, honey... You're trying way too hard. Just be you!". Also, don't feel bad for being naive about stuff like that: there are some girls in their later 20s who find that really refreshing.

Gaming families are the best. My older brother and I used to game a lot more when I was little. I think at some point, I'm going to get some Steam games so that we can play co-op again like in the good ol' days. Although he and I are meeting later today to binge-watch Game of Thrones, so I'm excited about that. It's not quite gaming, but it's still super fun.

Why wouldn’t you?
I like women regardless of their intelligence. Prersonality and commmon interests matter to me. Really like playful silly women. Makes me super crush on them.

She’s named her Dino’s, used tampon, blue wa***le, stinky pinkie, amongst others, painted them similarly too. I tolerate it cause I like her and like having people to game with but I don’t find it funny. The guys in the clan find it hilarious. I don’t have any idea what those are except the tampon(poor cat) I give mine actual names, like captain otter, teddy and my dragon is toothless. My wolf is Dakota.
Why do they find it refreshing?

My sister is a 3ds nitndo gamer and she plays sims. I played some when I was younger but don’t enjoy it much anymore. When I pc game it’s rts or Minecraft.
What do you game one? Oh pc. I thought about saving for s good pc but i dont know, depends if the friend still wants to play with me after boot camp.
My brother and me use to game together, now he can’t and only likes to talk about weed. I haven’t talked to him in years now, nothing in common anymore. Similarly with my friends. They don’t lik games anymore they grew up, I didn’t I should give up gaming I guess and be an adult. A lot of women it seems don’t like gamer guys and say they childish and boys.

"Katkay" sounds like the username of a massive Katy Perry fan. Nothing wrong with that, it just seems a bit funny to me.

Do you know the old adage "you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince/princess?". The girls who rejected you simply because of ADHD excitement are totally frogs. They aren't the kind of women you'd want to be with, anyhow. I'd say you dodged a few bullets.

I know a lot about mistreatment and liars. Several months ago, I was engaged to and lived with someone (our wedding date was actually supposed to be a week ago). One day, he abandoned me: lured me out of our place while his family cleaned out his things. Before he got me out of the apartment, he was shaking and acting really erratic, saying things that didn't make any sense. My mom came up to make sure I was okay because his behavior was terrifying and she was actually a little worried for my life. After he left to "have a drive to clear his head", I walked through the front door to see that all of his things were gone. He then called my MOTHER to break up with me: the coward didn't even have the guts to talk directly to me. She had to actually hand the phone over to me because he was a spineless little weasel.

I actually have PTSD from this incident. I have nightmares about him, about my old friends, and about reliving that experience over and over again. I actually have to sleep with noise playing constantly so my nightmares aren't so vivid that they feel real. The last thing I want is to wake up screaming.

But now that the dust has settled, I feel like I dodged a massive bullet. If he'd lied to me and had the nerve to do something so vile to another person, he wasn't right for me. The way he treated me and went about doing what he did had NOTHING to do with me.

My point is, the scars are going to be there. People are going to hurt you and the emotional damage may affect you for the rest of your life, but the abuse and lies you get in a relationship are not your fault: they're the ones who chose to do that.