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Hehe, I'm boring so I don't need it

yes but if I was with someone just like me I'd be bored hence I want someone who relates to me but who is more lively
and original in their ideas

I don't mean entertaining in wacky, loud, annoying way, just someone who can be witty and make me laugh

I don't want someone boring - I wouldn't date any of you.

Lol

Don't opposites attract though?

Surely you'd be competing for the audience if you were with another entertaining type?

i think opposites help to better diversify a person, and to open them up to new experiences. On the other hand, opposites can also have a damaging effect on people. For shy guys like myself, having an extroverted gf who is understanding, can really help me break out of my shy. I can help her as well by showing her that shy guys aren't so bad...and keeping her out of trouble. If you have people with bad personality traits, like lacking promptness, being indolent, or lacking intelligence, that stuff can rub off on you negatively.

I have minimum standards ;p.

I think this is a situation where both sides have standards, and neither side meets them.

According to my sociology teacher that's a misnomer.. people who share similar cultures and most importantly education and socio-economic background tend to attract.. Opposites are more like flashes in the pan..

What if you are so individual that you rarely ever meet anyone like yourself as you have deliberately not taken on the ways of being of any particular group?

Then you will tend to look for another individual, unique type and be drawn to people who have characteristics you don't have yourself

I think it's world-view and morality that people like to find common ground with far more than socio-economic background and education.

Cruel people will find common ground and kind people will find common ground in other words.

Well that's sort of the thing though isn't it? Socio-economic Background and Education INFORM worldview perhaps to an even greater extant than your parents do. Since those factors determine, if you're religious, what institution you visit, or if you're even religious.. They determine WHAT schools you go to, good, bad, public, private, home, etc. It also tends to influence your early exposure to politics.. If you're poorer and white, in the US, you're more likely to be exposed to extreme right politics.. and if you're poor and black, you're more likely to be exposed to leftist politics. If you'd middle class and white you have about a 50/50 shot of being exposed to one or the other.. usually depending on where you live.

Now obviously Sociology is not the study of the individual component, if you want that, you want Psychology. Sociology is just studying the macro level interactions of individuals... and on a macro level "Like tends to stick with like".. meaning for me.. due to having grown up in poverty.. I'm a very frugal sort of person and know how to make ends meet.. so I'd be a really bad match for a woman who wanted to spend thousands a month on shoes and purses... but I'd be a great match for a lady who liked to go thrift stores and cook at home.

^^^yes, but the sociological information is only reliable as trends for a population, not as predictors for an individual's dating choices.

That's true, Individuals may act out of character for the norm.. But I still think it makes the most sense.

I certainly would never even consider dating some one who's political opinions or fiscal opinions didn't allign with my own.. couples get into enough arguments over stupid s**t like movies and what music to listen to in the car.. let alone politics and money and religion.


Though speaking of.. I've found that marking "Other" or leaving the "Religion" field blank on OKCupid is a really good way to get completely ignored in the south east.. Even though there are some self identifying non religious people.. not being a protestant christian in the south seems to be an extremely limiting factor when it comes to finding a mate.