Deal-breakers for men?

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-She smokes
-She already has kids
-She dislikes video games in general
-She doesn't remotely share my taste in music
-She dislikes autistic men

Tim (aka the Slipperman)

There's characteristics that I really wouldn't want in a partner but I would be willing to overlook them under the rite circumstances so I wouldn't exactly call them dealbreakers but I'll list what comes to mind off the top of my head. Some of these are based on my relationship experience

~Drug &/or alcohol abuse
~Intolerant of different or nonreligious beliefs; I'm a Secular Humanist & I try to be respectful of others religious beliefs so being religious is fine as long as it's not pushed.
~Very independent; I'm dependent & too much of a clash can cause problems like a mother/son complex or her feeling resentful.
~Controlling
~Uncompromising
~Doesn't respect my intelligence; I don't feel highly intelligent(I'm not very book-smart; I'm dyslexic, I'm an Apie so I lack social intelligence too) but I do want my ideas & things to be considered because sometimes they are really good. She may be really smart but smart or not she shouldn't make me feel like an idiot.
~Needs or wants lots of alone time; I'm kind of clingy with my partner & I am a lot better than I used to be but I still need to spend abit of time with my partner even if we're doing separate things in the same room thou I do need some alone time too.
~Doesn't want to discuss or address problems.
~Isn't OK with me having the issues I have; puts me down, makes me feel like a loser, unaccepted or unsupported
~Sense of entitlement, full of herself, thinks she's all that.
~Promiscuous, cheats, dresses to tease
~Wants to be a reality TV star or idolizes Snookie

Deal breakers:

1. She is dead.

I think that is about it. I don't really deserve to say I have anymore than that, at the moment.

- Overly high-maintenance and/or can't stand going outside for fear of getting dirty.
- Doesn't enjoy "stupid" humor. My sense of humor is pretty freakin' stupid and immature most of the time.
- Overweight
- Lazy and/or stupid
- Formulates opinions on things with no basis in fact.
- Owns a cat. Cats are weird and I don't like them, and after living with one this year, I never want to spend significant amounts of time around one again.
- Extremely religious and/or political. I don't care if she has a different belief system than me... but please, PLEASE, don't even try to get me to believe in the same things as you.
- Has a strong aversion to profanity, drinking, and things exploding. All things I partake in on a regular basis and don't have any plans to stop doing.

Pretty much looking for someone who isn't going to try to change me, "fix" me, or expect me to be something I'm not. Unfortunately it seems like pretty much every NT guy is looking for the same type of girl as me and all the good ones are either taken or lesbians...

Deal breakers for me are:

- She smokes
- She want's to change me
- She shares none of my interests
- She is socially very active and drags me into everything

Not too much asked i hope!

Deal breaker:

Massive emotional 'pain body' resulting in almost continual dark or sombre mood.

I’d never date someone who would date me.

I couldn't date someone who was ultra-liberal or super clingy. Also must not hate video games, which for some reason, a lot of the dating site profiles I've read specifically state they would not date a gamer. Too bad :/

Also can't date a vegetarian, or someone who doesn't have career aspirations.

Other than that...

- clinginess

- wants to be treated "like a woman"

- expects gentlemanly behaviors

- too NT

- too aspie

- lack of self-care

- too narrow-minded

- too conservative

- ableism

- expects me to be able to drive well or criticizes me for getting lost, other aspects of my disability. Making fun is ok, but acting like it's my fault is not.