Why do girls hate shy guys?

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Oh, he's just a mad little boy who is twisting facts because he's throwing a hissy fit. Don't pay him any attention, I'm certainly not. Here is the scoop on what he said.

1. No job. That's no job outside the home. I'm a housewife. I have been married 26 years and I used to work before I was married and before our first child was born. I did work some, part time after he was born and during the first Gulf War when construction was at a standstill here (DH does construction) I went to work and supported us. I had four small kids at home, someone needed to be home with them and so that was me. We both agreed that being a housewife and stay at home mom was important so that's what I did. Now that they are all older teens and grown I'd love to go back to work but I live in the middle of nowhere and there are absolutely no jobs in this town. The closest city is 45 minutes or so away and I do not have a vehicle, so I'm still a housewife. However that means I clean a 4 bedroom, 3 bathroom, livingroom, diningroom, den, eat in kitchen, laundry room house every day, sweep the floors (no carpet) mop, make the beds, take out the garbage, dust, do at least two loads of laundry and hang it out to dry and bring it in, iron it and put it away, cook at least two meals from scratch (three during the summer including lunch) bake bread every other day, and keep a pitcher of tea made and in the fridge. Plus, I handle the bills, the mail, appointments, paperwork, reminders, etc. So no, I don't have a job.

2. "Beat people up and go to jail" - During the time my husband was going through those problems and he hit me, I hit him back and yes I did kick his ass. Yes, I went to jail over that because the cops take the one who looks least hurt to jail in a domestic violence situation down here and I don't mark up easy. So, I fought back and got put in jail for it, I was not roaming around the city at night wearing a Members Only jacket and carrying a baseball bat like that silly kid's trying to make it sound like.

3. "Cheated on partners in the past" - When my husband and I were about to split up I started seeing somebody behind his back, yes. And it has happened again off and on since then because I have feelings for him. DH knows about it, he's cheated on me before, so it's not like he doesn't deserve payback. One partner, with one person, Ole Twist Words over there is trying to make it sound like I'm running around on every guy I ever was with, with anything in pants. Again, ignore him. He doesn't know what he's talking about and he doesn't really matter anyway.

He's offended because he would have to make an effort. Of course that effort should begin with not being so damn nasty and actually showering and brushing his teeth, but he won't do that. It's not his AS that keeps him from getting a girl, it's him in general. He will never get a girlfriend, I can tell you that. But I honestly don't feel sorry for him, I don't think he should have one - girls deserve better than that. And you aren't offending me at all. You did nothing wrong. He isn't offending me either, he doesn't matter enough to offend.

Just to set the record straight, my first husband did. My second husband couldn't fight his way out of a paper bag because he doesn't know how and has never been in a fight before, and he didn't even hurt me although he tried. I kicked his ass. That kid knows it too, he just likes to change things around when he says them to make him sound better. He's ridiculous. I'd suggest that you do to him what the girls do to him Fnord, ignore him completely because he's not worth your time. He's not worth anybody's time actually, except maybe a highly paid psychiatrist, because that's what he probably needs - delusions and all.

I voted "other" , as in "This poll is hopelessly skewed / as long as they're good people, shy guys are fine with me."

Being shy? There is a point were you have to grow some aspie guts and go talk to a girl! Also don't pretend to forget to pursue compliments from random women by running away. If you talk to a girl once and a while, it sure is a heck of a lot better than hiding. Also check them out a little bit, and let them know they are good looking!

but many women consider such attentions VERY UNWELCOME if you don't immediately strike them as potential hookup material [no money, no looks, no social status, no animal magnetism, no social smarts].

I talk to girls all the time.

The biggest problem with being a shy guy is you only meet extra friendly girls or should I say girls who throw themselves at everyone.

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that never happened to me.

Maybe I'm a reclusive extrovert then, I get the opposite effect. When I was far away from home, 200 miles away at college, I made friends quite easily, I want to go back for the social part in fact, it was like tasting caffeine for the first time, so awesome. I finally had cool friends who cared about me and wanted to see me succeed. I don't mind all this social interaction, I just has a hard arse time getting started with social stuff, once I go, I do quite well.

Awww!

I can tell for sure that no girl ever looked at me like that.

The last time a girl (a stranger) looked at me that way, she way trying to hit me up for free drinks for her and her friends.

What?! Who the hay said such a thing?! I love guys who are shy! Shyness is cute if you ask me. Yeah, they will be a bit difficult to communicate with at first, but they become more open after a while.

I got the feeling that the male gendered majority of this board sees only the kim kardashian types as actual women.