How to use OKCupid (from an actual success story.)

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Well, my profile showed I am atheist at time and later just 'blank', I have my reasons to not promote my atheism in public. , and it's darkly humor and all interests are shown. All have assumed I am nonreligious of some sort.

Isn't 'blank' kind of the same as Athiesm anyway?

Hyperbole is hyperbole.

I hate hyperboles. Yet I do have hyper balls, wait...that didn't sound so right.

It's a test of intelligence.

It was meant to be a play on words for a terror group in your region

Well, how's this, my escaped-from-the-Aliens-movie-props-department friend:

If your profile said:
Religion:
with that blank space, then couldn't one conclude that there's reference to an actual space there, therefore you are a scientologist
--or--
A true space is a vacumn, so you worship a flying vacumncleaner (as in Spaceballs)

Yeah, that must be it.

Did I pass the test?

^:lmao:

I'm calm

Ok, Lost.

Just for you, I went around and asked the girls I knew who were dating guys without jobs why they are dating them. What they believe the guys in question have that brings value, and what they respect about them.

1) One of the first things one mentioned was that even when he was studying, and even when he had no job, he would still find a way to scrape enough money together to send to his mother and his little sister every month. Even when on occasions that meant not eating meat for a month or longer just to be able to do that. She respects and admires him for loving and for trying to take care of his family even though he can't be there with them, even when his own situation is hard and he has to sacrifice to do it. Especially considering he is only 21 and most guys are more likely to live off their mothers at that age than send them money.

2) One of the girls already has a son from another man, and he is exceptionally good with her son. He has an amazing way of relating to kids in general (before that, he was with an older women who had 3 and got along equally as well with them). He is a very good father and is extremely involved on a day to day level with him. She went so far as to say that hanging out with both of them is actually enjoyable and relaxing because he is able to make it so (single mothers who have dated will be able to tell you how rare this is). She can trust to leave them alone together at any time and know both will usually be happy about it. She respects and admires that a lot about him, and knows he will make an exceptional father one day when he does decide to have a child of his own.

3) The last girl I asked said it was not one singular defining trait, but rather a bunch of things mixed up together. Like the fact that he is very affectionate and loving. He knows how to cook well and therefore does so a lot, in fact he does it most of the time. He keeps his place clean and organised almost all the time. He has a pet and takes very good care of it. He is also great with animals in general, including hers. He doesn't have much money, but manages it very well - he's also happy to pay when he does have money to afford it. He doesn't have a problem with equality like some guys do and it doesn't threaten him - he's cool with both of them doing what they can to contribute in the areas they have resources. He tries to do the right thing. He never lies to her. He's not jealous. Basically there is no drama in their relationship because they don't let anything come between them. He's very responsible, happy, and easy going. The combination makes him a great partner, and she respects him for those things and believes that he brings value.

And since you wanted normal NT women, all of these answers are from NT women, all of who are quite pretty. There is an aspie girl dating one but I excluded her answer since you would discount it anyway because she is aspie.

^ Did they met these when they were jobless.

Young students don't count btw.

Yes. Some have had jobs or studied in between, but are now jobless again and have been for 3 months or longer. So it's not a short time frame.

"Some had jobs" makes a whole different story for the argument.

The age of the girls play a role too, single moms usually have different priorities as well, for example would she have chosen this man if he wasn't being a father figure for her son? or if she didn't have a son.

In other words, they all met, dating and courted when they didn't have jobs for quite a few months (3 or more months). Some got casual work for a few months, and one did a one month course. All have been out of jobs and not studying for at least the last 3 months. I didn't mention the other one with the AS girl who was a student when they meet, and now is unemployed - since lost considers AS womens opinions irrelevant to what he wants..

I think she would of considering she 19 (which isn't that old) and is now pregnant with his kid (unplanned). Certainly in their case it wouldn't have changed anything.

Now that's interesting from Aussie women:
http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relati ... 6626951452

O.o


Edit: but meh, it's from an infidelity site, those women are seeking for an affair, not a partner. Totally irrelevant for our discussion.

They certainly think that an unemployed guy would be easier to be accessed for sex

Remember, it also depends on the type of culture and where you are living, if you are living in a country with arranged marriages or dating based on traditional values, you might find having a respectable job and a stable income to be an important factor.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIxEQcb0Tfc[/youtube]

None of the guys on this show seem to work and still manage to get girls, maybe it's just a UK thing. I've never had an actual job longer than a month and I have a girlfriend and dated fine before that so I don't think the job thing is that important.

^^ Well my country certainly is in the " country with arranged marriages or/and dating based on traditional values" category.

My own problem isn't the job part tho.