Do you find love when you stop looking? Why?

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Catlover5
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30 Aug 2015, 9:17 pm

SpiderElla wrote:

you're sufficiently repulsive

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31 Aug 2015, 5:16 am

SpiderElla wrote:

Who else will point out that you're sufficiently repulsive that pretty much all women avoid you? That spending 99% of your time alone in a room is probably causing your problems?

Who will point out how repulsive you are....you really think any respectable man would want to get with an immature little girl who spends her time trying to hurt peoples feelings by trolling an autism forum?

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31 Aug 2015, 1:34 pm

Catlover5 wrote:

Hopefully soon a mod will ban their IP so they can't create any more accounts.

I'm sure that they've tried that already. And, speaking as an administrator of a different website, I could tell you how useless that is. But I won't. Almost every troll knows their way around IP blocks already, but no sense alerting those who don't. :wink:

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31 Aug 2015, 3:26 pm

Peacesells wrote:

If a friend tries to sabotage a girl's crush for his/her own selfish interest or slutshames her for actively pursuing a guy, they are not good friends and if the girl listens to them it's her fault.

That's so clever how you're trying to distill an adult relationship you know nothing about, into the plotline of a teenage sitcom, so you can automatically blame the female. It's like the book of Genesis meets Saved by the Bell.

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26 Mar 2016, 4:06 pm

Cockroach96 wrote:

Let's not be superstitious. There's no reason to believe that you'll find love if you avoid looking for it.
For NTs, looking for love increases the chances of finding it. On the other hand, Aspies have 0% chances of finding love, regardless if we search for it or not.
https://www.google.ro/search?q=google+p ... el6lXJM%3A

I am sorry, but this is absolutely not true. Just because a person has Asperger's not make them unlovable. Do not let a diagnosis define who you are. Yes, having Asperger's presents challenges that are not seen by the Neurotypical in the area of social interaction, but that does not mean that finding a special person to love and who loves you is impossible, just more difficult.

I have always found that this quote helps me in times like that: "The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant; it's what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are"

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26 Mar 2016, 4:47 pm

Outrider wrote:

All I can say is screw the game. 'The game' was what always worked against me, as every time I had to play it.

By 'the game' I mean traditional social/dating rules to pursue another person.

Funny enough I found the most success once I finally rejected it.

This is another point to bring up:

What have your experiences been with playing 'the game'?

You can still 'look for love' without playing the game, or is it really better to just take the conformist route.

If you're going to look for love should you really just play the game still?

In the past I might have been looking for love but didn't obey the game's rules but certainly bent them.

The game does not actually exist anymore, in my experience and through my observations I have determined that it is only enforced by people who want something other than the actual person (social status, reputation, money, a person to buy them drinks or things, sex, or a boyfriend/girlfriend of the sake of having one)

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26 Mar 2016, 4:51 pm

PillowSpider wrote:

I'd add that if you break up, STAY BROKEN UP. If you're meant to be, you'll weather the rough patch without actually breaking up. Had I actually had the discipline to abide by this rule when I was younger, I'd've saved myself a year of on-off stress x 2 (college boyfriend, grad school boyfriend).

You obviously just dated dick-bags. Who are you to tell people an absolute rule in a world of grey?

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