Which type would be more suitable for me given my looks?

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I agree with Aristophanes.

Most people choose how they look, and choose to present themselves how they want to come across - you can guess a lot about most people by how they look.

Even people who 'don't care about fashion/how they look' will come across this way - someone who doesn't care about their hygiene will more than likely have poor hygiene.

Someone who doesn't care about fashion and just throws whatever clothes on, will most likely look like someone who doesn't care about fashion (unless they are exceptionally lucky and just happened to pick extremely fashionable and stylish clothing without going to an expensive shop to get them or even researching what's trendy right now).

Yes, it's shallow.

Yes, it's judging a book by its cover.

But most people do it.

And, even then, actual books usually try to have an attractive cover to draw in an audience, movies usually have attractive trailers to gain people's interest and attention.

Usually, my assumptions are correct, unfortunately.

I usually do try to get to know others and assume their personality isn't exactly what they look like, but it most often is.

Now, in my experiences, many males aren't attracted to models and actually like averageness.

Too many times I've seen them say they dislike makeup or simply prefer without, or, while they don't want an absolute mophead, they'd be okay if they went out with her and she didn't spend 50 minutes in the morning to look good.

To the women here, has your boyfriends of the past EVER found you unattractive when you've just woken up in the morning, messy hair, no makeup, wearing your unflaterring PJs with your shirt that you used as a tissue?

I think more men than you realize find women attractive when the'yre like this, as it signifies you're comfortable being around them and being more natural and human.

At the same time though, us men are driven just as wild when we see her walk down the stairs in a beautiful dress, stunning hair, maybe some natural makeup that highlights her features, some perfume or jus deodorant, etc.

I think perhaps it's when we're in love and/or in an LTR when we become comfortable with women when they're apathetic about their looks.

Random strangers, however, it's best to look as good as possible, but no, you don't have to try and look like a model.

And, men are just as indoctrined by women from birth to support certain ideals regarding looks.

Men also have insecurities, body issues, etc. due to the unrealistic standards the media has set for men to live up to just as much as women.

"I'm getting off on another topic here, but do you realize that's why more women get anorexia and bulimia because women are conditioned to worry about their looks at a young age?"

With the increasing trend of young males being interested in bodybuilding and lifting weights, men have increasing rates of bigorexia, a new eating disorder the opposite of anorexia - strong men seeing skinny, weak man in the mirror.

Males also have the typical existing eating disorders. https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org ... -disorders

25% of Anorexia and bulimia cases are men, BED cases are 36%.

"They don't have beauty pageants for little boys - it's girls."

Adult men have bodybuilding competitions, which focuses completely on the visual body they have created and posing technique.

Women have bodybuilding competitions as well, but guess which one existed first and which one is still more common and popular? That's right, men's.

Men also played in competitive sports and in the olympics and such first, just yet more social conditioning for men to be sporty, active and strong.

"Barbie dolls for girls making us think we're supposed to have an hour glass figure, long hair and big boobs."

Men being exposed to big ripped men in the media and thinking they must work hard to strive this ideal (and it's just as hard to lift weights and eat healthy as it is for women to achieve a model look).

Vin Diesal, Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson, every WWE wrestler, etc.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/entry/ ... =australia

"Now men are saying that's high - maintenance and we are stuck on ourselves,"

And in my experiences many (millenial) women say they find a male who's too muscular 'disgusting' and 'gross' and don't find it attractive at all.

They want a slightly muscular male who is 'thin-but-fit' and find excess muscle unattractive.

"but at the same time they are ogling the next "model" type that passes them on the street."

But at the same time many women seem to swoon over men who are extremely muscular and unrealistically unattainable, like Vin Diesel.

"Reading threads like this one depresses me because honestly I'm tired of competing against other women."

We males don't like competing against other men either. It's a real piss-up competition.

"Because of the way society has placed such an importance on a woman's looks, I'm actually depressed at times because I think that I can't measure up."

This isn't a problem limited to women though. The reason you may think so is because there's simply less media coverage on it, and men are expected to be 'masculine' and 'tough' and not show emotion.

Yes, women's looks do have more emphasis by society, I'll agree with that one.

"I can't have beautiful nails because I'm allergic to the nail polishes and fake nails, I'm too scared to get fake boobs even though some of the nurses I've worked with have them, all of my long hair is mine and it's a pain in the ass to keep up while other women just go buy extensions.I keep exercising hoping that one day I'll look like those women on Turbo Fire."

In Australia, at least, I've noticed recent trends in the last few years.

Males are very metrosexual and care significantly about their looks. Many (young) Aussie blokes today are using moisturizers on their faces and skin to get clear skin, many are even shaving a lot of their body hair including legs and chest. They use colognes and spend a lot of money on combs and hair gels to have stylish hairstyles.

They're improving in hygiene, which is a good thing, but it simply means yet more unrealistic standards to live up to.

I don't like shaving any part of my body hair, especially my beard (sadly going out of style).

I hate our male fashion here - so cheap and ugly. The males wear knee-high black/grey socks, ugly flat shoes like this . http://www.styletread.com.au/original-c ... oC6eHw_wcB

Ignore the price on the website, the ones here are cheap $2 and it's only expesnive on there if you are ordering them from overseas.

They tend to wear cargo shorts a little too shorter than they should be (slightly above the knees), and V-neck shirts that are usually pink or light reddish-pink. or light blue or white. And don't forget the little pocket on the front left part of the chest they don't actually use.

And have a stylish haircut they've put various gels and combs into.

It is the most cheapest, effeminate and f*ggoty look Ive ever seen in young men, and my mother completely agrees with me (yes, she agrees it's f*ggoty. As in she actualy said herself it's how they look).

Don't care if I offend anyone, I'm bisexual and admit they look like a bunch of pansies.

That, or they have the hipster look, or they simply look like junkies from the ghetto (baseball cap, ugly 'swag' look).

"I don't think men know just how hard women have it and threads like this one just make things worse. Women are just seen as objects - as usual."

Yes..Very common for women to be mistreated in this way.

Boo: Yeah, good idea. Forgot how long this was. I'll condense it. Longest post I've ever made, actually....it didn't work.

SHORT EDITION

Males also suffer from body image issues, including anorexia and bulimia, and they have their own one - bigorexia, which is the opposite of anorexia, meaning they may be strong but see themselves as skinny and weak, and go to extreme lengths to be strong.

Males are forced by the media to accept models as attractive.

Most males, at least when in an LTR, will actually find you as a woman attractive even if you have messy hair, just woke up in the morning in your unflattering PJs, etc.

But we also like it just as much when you're going down the stairs with perfect hair, natural makeup that complements your features, a beautiful dress and nice smile.

In my experiences many males aren't all that attracted to models and actually desire averageness.

I as a male experience many of the things women do, e.g. body image issues, pressure to live up to unrealistic standards of attactiveness, etc.

In my experiences many women seem to claim excess muscle is unattractive, yet turn around and highly value men such as Dwayne 'the rock' Johnson and Vin Diesal.

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Outrider....

You need to make your posts smaller.... much smaller.

No one has the time to read all your China-walls of texts.

I COULD BUILD THE GREAT WALLS OF TEXT WITH MY BARE HANDS!! ! DON'T STOP ME!!

Soon enough I'll make the pyramid of text!!

Drat, Wp doesn't allow me...

Next up is the Eiffel tower, but that's for another day.

SHORT EDITION

Males also suffer from body image issues, including anorexia and bulimia, and they have their own one - bigorexia, which is the opposite of anorexia, meaning they may be strong but see themselves as skinny and weak, and go to extreme lengths to be strong.

Males are forced by the media to accept models as attractive.

Most males, at least when in an LTR, will actually find you as a woman attractive even if you have messy hair, just woke up in the morning in your unflattering PJs, etc.

But we also like it just as much when you're going down the stairs with perfect hair, natural makeup that complements your features, a beautiful dress and nice smile.

In my experiences many males aren't all that attracted to models and actually desire averageness.

I as a male experience many of the things women do, e.g. body image issues, pressure to live up to unrealistic standards of attactiveness, etc.

In my experiences many women seem to claim excess muscle is unattractive, yet turn around and highly value men such as Dwayne 'the rock' Johnson and Vin Diesal.

I personally hate young Australian men fashion and it looks pansy and f*ggoty.

Anorexia can hardly be a result of just wanting to please men. I doubt many men like hugging, kissing or caressing a skeleton, not to mention having sex with it.

Arguments are soldiers. They're stationed in castles made of letters, watch their enemies from turrets on top of walls of text and shoot through the embrasures between words.