How can I tell my girlfriend she is fat?

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Why don't you use e-books on a tablet?

1760 books bring too much dust and bugs.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 27 Nov 2017, 7:38 am, edited 1 time in total.

What? Don't you know that other people having preferences is discrimination!? /sarcasm

What sort of history fascinates you, Fluffysaurus? I like the 1381 Peasants’ Rebellion.

We're talking about being treated badly for not being an expert in absolutely everything, not talking about preferences.

How were you treated badly?

Dear heaven, how can you all think she doesn't already know??? Somebody once brought me a book "How To Lose 5 Pounds" like I don't already know - and then told *me* to return it to the library!

Now lookie here, all you oblivious people. She knows. She's possibly using the weight as a defence against ... uh ... you?

Oh, her fat is beginning to turn off your ardent attentions, is it? Can't you see what a relief that might be, how it might make fat necessary?

Talk it out together but get rid of assumptions. Fat is sometimes helpful, even essential. Get real, both of you.

^ It makes a difference if she realizes that, at some point (weight), she will become sexually repulsive to him. She may be thinking that "He will always desire me sexually no matter how obese I get" and this is delusional and she may keep overeating indefinitely thinking that she has nothing to lose. Remember, they are still young, so they are at their prime libido sexually.

So that alone should be a reason to make some effort to stop getting fatter. So yes, she has something to lose if she changes nothing and keeps getting more and more overweight.

That's like saying that you will always find your boyfriend sexually attractive no matter how alcoholic he gets, or no matter how much debts he gets, or no matter how bony he gets, or even....no matter how OBESE he gets (yes, even most women find obesity in men repulsive too, stop denying that). Love has its limits, physical attractiveness is important to non-asexual young people (Duh!).

So this goes for both men and women, both are sexual beings:
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On the internet, you will find plenty of women complaining that their men are no longer attractive because of physical neglect (or physical deterioration).

Back when I was young and pretty and slender, a hockey superstar humiliated me in public. He had the whole Forum looking at me, thinking it was funny that he had caught me ogling him, and he was ogling back big-time, and I had nowhere to hide. It went on till I thought I would die.

I woke in the middle of that night shovelling a huge bowl of freshly-made spaghetti into my mouth. Spaghetti that I must have cooked in my sleep, because I didn't wake till it was half eaten.

I gained 50 pounds and gained some peace.

OP should consider whether there might be a layer of rage under that fat. It's communication time, y'all. Maybe this is her way of breaking up. None of you have suggested that he ask if everything is okay with her.

Which hockey star? Was he with the Canadiens?

Sorry you had to go through that.

I love spaghetti too much myself. And food in general.

^ Yikes, KK, you of all people, didn't you get what I'm trying to say?
Nobody gets that fat can be a layer of self-defence.
Everybody thinks she will be surprised.
She might rush out and get more chocolate bars.

No, it wasn't a Canadien. It was Brad Park.

LOL.....I can be oblivious at times!

Brad Park played for the Rangers, then the Bruins. I remember him quite well.

Are you still a hockey fan?

He was sort of a funny-looking guy who was missing teeth LOL

I did know what you mean, I believe. Getting fat is an escape from having to be scrutinized, and sort of a statement saying: I am more than just my supposed "beauty."

But I was scrutinized BECAUSE I was fat. Never scrutinized because I was handsome.

But if I got rid of the books and the seven book cases, then there would be room for other people in my home. Besides I like the feel of the pages and the smell of the ink . If you pack them in tight enough only the top ones get dusty

I like the know that books are AVAILABLE to me, even if I don't read them.

Calling or saying so ones unintelligent, less intelligent, stupid, idiot moron etc isn’t preference it’s rude and mean. It’s them thinking they’re better then someone else for their ore knowledge in area, while reality is that person may know more about something else. I have no problem with women who are like I read lots of books and couldn’t be with someone who doesn’t read a lot. But if she calls non book readers stupids idiots and tells them to stay away cause she’s far more intelligent then them, that’s not ok.

So tired of being made to feel stupid by others.
Don’t exactly see you with a Harvard degree or one from another ivory college. In fact I bet no one here has one. So by their point of view we are all intelligent for lacking such a degree. Anyone intelligent would get a degree from one of those high class schools. But reality is a lot of rich people get degrees cause their parents paid for them. And they partied their way through college. Are those people really more intelligent then the poor lady work worked her way through a community college?

I like the Plantagenets (so the Peasant's Revolt is in there) most at the moment, all the way to the death of Richard III, and early 20th century Europe. But I admit it, I jump about a bit

People who make other people feel stupid do so because of their own insecurities. My Dad usest to tell my sister and me we were stupid, he wouldn't stop until we actually said it, 'yes I'm stupid'. It took me years to realise this was because he thought of himself as stupid. Parents often critisise the thing in their children that they most hate about themselves.

I no longer go to quizzes because I feel too desperate to get the questions right and prove I am not stupid. The cleverest people I know don't need to stuff it down other peoples throats, they're happy to let others shine occasionally. When I see someone making a point about how clever they are even, if its at someone else's expense, I pity them.