Why its too late for me

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I have disclosed many things. 2-3 years ago I nearly had 6 pack abs. Today? But squishy and need to harden up and get strong again.

I’ve Also disclosed that my skin was completely destroyed by a medical misdiagnosis. It’s been slowly healing for more than 4 years now. It’s still not healed, so the true extent of permanent scaring isn’t yet known. When it’s healed enough to continue with tattoos, I’ll get a lot more ink over the years to distract from scars and present art instead.

I also have very inelastic skin, resulting in stretch marks from being fat and others from gaining muscle. Such is life. I’m far from some picture perfect model - but - I do okay by making an effort to be physically fit. (Which I haven’t been and am not at the moment, kinda average due to Covid slacking & drinking 6 packs instead of working on building one.)

You have national healthcare. I don't.

What does that have to do with anything I’ve posted?

to fix his aforementioned abdominal rectus condition, that his insurance won't touch.

Ok.

That still has nothing to do with anything I've posted, though.

You talk about treating your symptoms. You have access to national healthcare for that treatment. Living in the US, I don't have access to affordable healthcare to treat my symptoms.

This is similar to what I say about people who achieve financial success: I'm not denying that you worked hard to get where you are now. But you are overlooking the role luck plays in putting you in the right place at the right time with the right resources to have access to the right opportunities.

It is clear to me that you do not know who I am or what my story is. My GP agreed with my self diagnosis; that "This is Asperger's Syndrome," but immediately followed with: "..but what do you expect me to do? There is no medicine for this."

I KNEW that my symptoms weren't always as bad as they'd gotten.. and that if something could make them worse, then something could make them better - I just had to figure out what it was. I read books, websites, learned some key things from a Herbalist & his father, a Naturopathic Doctor, and then pieced together my own medicinal diet and treatment protocol and did it myself with miraculous success.

Access to British Columbia's Provincial Health Insurance played exactly Zero role in the process besides the $0 visit to my GP for him to confirm my own self diagnosis and tell me there was nothing he could do because there wasn't anything he could prescribe for me. Can't tell me there's nothing that can be done for me - or - I suppose you can but it just fuels me to figure it out and do it for myself.

When I began treating my own symptoms I had a roof over my head (lived in my friend's construction site while his home was under renovation) and food to eat (generous friends!) & had a total income of $150 cdn/month, which I invested 100% of that into things that would make me healthier - ensuring I got the best possible economical value per dollar spent on medicinal foods/herbs/oils/supplements etc. Then as I slowly improved my health and could get a paying job, I was able to accelerate my ability to pay for the simple things I needed. I just had to stick with it for a couple years and then do regular maintenance to maintain a better balance and carry on living the second life I've worked for & earned. $$ wise I started being All In with my $150/month, and then increased my food/supplement budget as income allowed, reinvesting in myself & my health every spare dollar I earned - even when I wasn't earning much more than minimum wage - improving my health was simply my highest priority.

Here I am a decade or so later and life is.. different. New car paid for, old motorcycle paid for, $ in the bank, WAY more friends than I can even be bothered to spend time with blah blah etc etc. Living in a high functioning ASD hell seems like such a distant past that it was a second lifetime ago. The baseline of my new normal is such a better quality of life that I take a lot of things for granted daily, and it's in moments like these where I recall my struggles that I even remember how hard my life was back then.

Even most people who have financial success ALSO have a bunch of financial failures along the path to success. But they persist in saving, investing, taking calculated risks and trying again and again - diversifying their holdings and improving their odds of success. It's exceedingly rare that someone builds wealth and never loses along the way. It's just that when they do lose some money, even if it's all of their money, they don't give up - they keep going.. try again and just keep at it until eventually they're relatively more successful than they were before.

How you do anything is how you do everything.. you're either going to do the work and change things, never ever give up.. Or you're not & you quit/give up and never achieve whatever you set out to. Either path, the choice is ours to make in everything we do. Either we do the work to get the results we want, or we don't and don't get them. For me, it was extra hard because as far as I know/knew at the time, no one had done what I set out to do when I did it - but that still didn't stop me from trying. And for my problem solving persistence.. success! I've been sharing all of this in full transparency here on these forums for the last decade. Very few people are interested in doing the self work required to improve themselves and there's sweet F all I can do about that. But at least I've documented and shared the process for anyone interested in learning what worked for me and may for them.

Agreed.
You do the best you can with the best tools you have at the time.
There is no even playing field in life.

Google can't help fix a hernia.

Never claimed it could.

But one does not need to fix a hernia before eating a healthier diet & partaking in simple exercise. Just don’t lift weights or perform motions that one should not do with such a hernia.

Sure, I can exercise more. I can visit the websites and I'm sure I can find many of these books in one of my local libraries. But I do not know any Naturopathic doctors, Herbalists, or their parents. And I do not possess the financial means to afford a specialized diet.

You are the same age as me, and you said you accomplished all this a decade ago. And even if I am able to achieve everything you did, there still would be nothing left for me at this point in my life.

I’ve shared pretty much everything I learned and did transparently for free on these forums. No need to read what I did or meet my Herbalist friend or his Naturopathic Doctor father to glean the same info from them that I did.

Who cares when I did it exactly ? How is that relevant ? When I did it it was the same time for me as it is for you at the moment: Now.

I told you what my financial means were when I began. My entire income was $150/month. Granted, I had shelter & food provided in exchange for what labour I could manage, so that $150/mo was entirely disposable income. But if I only had $20 I’d have started with that. Where there’s a will there’s a way.

It’s entirely your choice to do or not do anything, and the results of your choices will be what they are. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Thanks, Goldfish.

I know I have reservations, but I do want to let you know that appreciate your advice.

At this point in my life, I have diastasis recti, an umbilical hernia, abnormally low T-levels, and erctile dysfunction.

Even if I could find a partner, I am physically incapable of having sex.

Sex is really overrated, to be frank.

There are plenty of women who would not mind it if they are never "penetrated" by a man-----even if they have romantic feelings for men.

Irrelevant. Its important to me.