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- physically hurts you to demonstrate his power and instill fear

- takes the car when he's drunk, totals it, and (worst of all) comes home unscathed

- behaves worse when you are pregnant due to his need to be the center of attention at all times/is jealous of the baby

- deprives you of sleep as a means of control

- intentionally triggers you

- everything has to be his way

- uses food money to buy drugs and alcohol

- is obsessed with serial killers even reading the books that they read

- makes you engage in dangerous or illegal activity

- does everything he can to make it seem like there's no way out

- favorite movie is Joe Dirt

- drives over the curb onto your front lawn when drunk
- calls you bad words when drunk and denies it later
- points out other good looking women on a rating scale
- makes you write an essay about why you should have kids
- jokes about hurting animals, or actually does
- mocks you or any other person / group
- makes racist or sexist statements and says it's "normal"

I just saw a TV commercial for a nose hair trimmer that said, "Don't let nose hair be a red flag". So I'm gonna ask, Is nose hair a red flag for anyone here

^ You may laugh but as you get older, nose hair gets wild, so do eyebrows and wait till your ears grow an internal beard.

- lies about their age

- lying in general

- has an extreme case of selective hearing

^ True that!

My social awareness was appalling due to my autism, being homeschooled, extreme shyness, vulnerability at the time, and only ever socializing with fellow cult members.

This seems to be fairly common for people with disabilities & various other so-called problems & issues Their partner gets into the relationship expecting they will change in major specific ways.

People do change as they go through life & have relationships & it's important for couples to support each other & try to be a positive influence for each other. That said, it's also very important to accept each other as you currently are. Starting a relationship with the requirement that your partner must change will almost always lead to major disappointment for one or both of you.

That thing where they say they love you but when you ask them any simple factual question about yourself, they don't know the answer because they really have no idea who you are, what you like, or what experiences you've had. It's all filtered through their love-ometer so you can be some sort of "muse" to inspire them even though you're really just generic, and everything they say to you has already been said to scores of other people. In fact, they seem indignant when you ask them to know anything about you because hey, they have a poor memory and why don't you respect that?

- Blaming entire groups of people for the actions of one (racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia)
- Feeling entitled to do this and promote it on public media