Has anyone never had a GF/BF before?

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You name it, I haven't done it. I am only eighteen, so on here it isn't that big of a deal. But compared to the majority of typical people my age, it is.

I always hear girls around my age group going on about how they'll never find anybody right for them and then I think about myself and what kind of lover I'd be if I ever did have someone who felt like that.

i was goin out with this girl when i lived in whitby but then we both moved away from each other so we broke up

I have only ever succeeded in having long term relationships with men that I'm not wholly attracted to. The ones i like are usually, like what one of the other members talked about on the first page, like they're really attracted (I am good looking, smart, independent; until I have to deal with intimacy ) until they start to get to know my 'aspieness'..


So, I've had some but they've been either shallow or fleeting, usually one or the other!!

What I do about this is I build the places where I'm comfortable, practice friendship that is only friendship ( I reckon it builds some intimacy skills safely) and practice small steps outside my comfort zone.
For me, it's good for me to acknowledge it if I feel an attraction for someone, and at some point stop and ask myself what it is that I'm feeling and what it is I feel attracted to about them.
When I get confused and overwhelmed, I find it really hard to know what I want, whether it's to have time alone or to keep spending time with the other person.
If this happens, I usually practice detaching and not going ahead with them, so that I can clarify the way I feel. I think that this seems to help me come across as clearer and give clearer messages.

When I see or meet people with the qualities I really like, and/or am attracted to, I just appreciate that and practice interacting, like I've already said.

Until I was about 30, I had never gone on a date to the movies, and I was 31 before I went on a date to the movies and let the guy put his arm around me/maintain a physical contact.

It seems to be working - gradually I'm getting comfortable with the things that I would ultimately like if/when I have another relationship..

I have never had a GF,been on a date or kissed a girl.

I had 1 gf, and a handful of partners. Most of them weren't attractive at all by my standards, the ones I really want are just a little more shallow, so I keep trying.

I'm 25, while I have kissed a girl and had sex (once, at age 19), I've never had a true girlfriend. My social inadequacies make it very difficult. I'm the only one of my siblings who is still single.

I've never had a girlfriend and never want one. I was asked out by a girl two years ago but I had a sensory overload at that moment and flat out said no. I could tell I said it in a way that would be considered offensive. Oh well...

I've also never had sex and never want it.

I suppose I fall into the part of the Autism spectrum which consists of people who truly want to be left alone. It's a good thing, I truly cannot care about others in a romantic way, it's a relief really.

I am now 20 never had a girlfriend and don`t even have female friends.

I've never had a gf before but that might change. My best friend pointed out that a girl might be interested in me.

Same here, except i'm 28 and don't even have male friends.

I haven't tried much. I've only approached one girl and got rejected repeatedly. But I have reasons to be hopeful about the future

Let me see . . . since the age of 17 (currently 29), Ive attempted to date 3 times, two of which resulted in an outing of sorts, and one felt like she tried to move too fast. I dont know what my issue is with attempting to ask . . . course a girl insulting me to my face for no apparent reason might have been the cause (happened to middle school). As i stated in another thread, i wouldnt be able to tell if a woman did have any interest in me even if she hit me upside the head. Admittedly, there will be someone who catches my eye, but i do what i can to shrug it off, "Chances are she is already seeing someone," i tell myself and i move on. I guess its the uncertainty i despise . . . the yay/nay response is out of my hands, so 50% chance baseline. Not my kind of odds . . . so, unless some lady actually approaches me, I dont feel any inclination to find out. Too defensive for my own good perhaps, but I will NOT tolerate being hurt by others. If that means i have to wall myself in, so be it . . . there's enough uncertainty in life without someone making it worse. At the same time, the social need for companionship is depressing the hell out of me . . . <ends rant> >< Gotta stop replying to this topic/subject in the forums.

I'm 19, never had a GF nor sex.

never had a gf before

None of the above.

girls in this situation have it way easier, there will always be some desperate creep out there who will want you, as for us guys, we're trapped in a pit.