why you are a virgin?

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Simple, I'm patient

I have no idea why I'm still a virgin. Maybe it's because I have trouble trying to reach out and connect to the opposite sex. I dunno, all I know is that I've been single my whole life and wish I wasn't.

I've never had any desire to insert my member into an orifice of another person. I can't tell you why. It's just the way my brain is wired. The thought doesn't bring pleasure to me.

Because I'm a basement-dwelling nerd.



(I don't have a basement BTW)

1. ain't gonna happen before i hit one year with my nutcase of a boyfriend (which is march 19, but still not gonna happen)
2. no possible way to get time alone
3. before my boyfriend, no guy ever showed any interest
4. me = scared crapless

Im not a virgin
as of last week lol.

but uhmm before that. well me and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year now , and i guess we needed to feel comfortable with each other and really trust each other.. we were going to when we had been going out 5 months but decided we werent ready. we had sex for the first time last week, and it was wonderful, although not as good as everyone has made it out to be.. but i suppose it does get better

xxxx

I'm sadly in the virginity boat because of it just hasn't happened yet. And I shouldn't feel entirely bad either. Look at Michael Moore. In his book Dude, Where's My Country, he comments on how it's

I am overweight by 25 LBS.

Do girls like overweight guys and vice-versa?

I am 14 years old.

Had a fairly bad panic disorder in high school, got over it, still a bit paranoid about having another attack.

I didn't choose the avatar with this in mind by the way.

Also

I am a virgin because I can't stand to have anyone be in my personal space. Plus I find the full body skin to skin contact a bit creepy.

I was the starter of this discussion “why you are a virgin?”for me, it is because lots of reasons, I never expect loose my virginity, never, because I am not a normal person it is like other aspect of my suffering life, love is a part of social life when I am not an accepted person how can I expect some one comes ,love me and become my partner!? Love and relationship frequently grow through social occasions when I am an isolated person and have rare social interaction and escape from being around people, having unattractive personality so the result is clear and predictable . I don’t think so not important thing happen in this case in my life.
This poem describe my condition well.
I long to reach you
so I stretch out my hand -
but I touch a thick glass wall -
and I don't understand.
I think that it's me -
something that I've done -
so I try double time,
to reach you - precious one.
But you're feelings are locked away -
behind that thick glass wall -
and you don't care - or even hear -
my heartache - and desperate call.
I haven't always understood
that you can't connect with me.
I thought you cruelly rejected
my deepest self - you see.
My deepest self that FEELS -
and expresses not in words -
an inflexion or a tone of voice
or body language that occurs.
My precious lonely husband -
behind glass you're locked away.
My eyes can see a smorgasbord -
but I'm starving every day.
93% of communication
is not spoken literal words -
body language and tone of voice,
is not just for the birds.
I feel like I'm starving
in the midst of a feast.
I feel abandoned and abused -
to say the very least.
I've tried to break the glass -
to reach you precious one.
But the more desperate that I get -
the more abusive you become.
I've raged in anger and disbelief -
that you couldn't open the door.
'Til I finally realised the glass is sealed -
and it's pointless to try any more.
In the meantime I must learn
to turn the other cheek -
through mockery and sarcastic words -
when revenge is what I seek.
and I must grow in love and patience
and forgiveness and long-suffering too -
through the long and empty hours -
of the silent unreachable you.
When I feel like I don't exist -
with loneliness way beyond bearing -
and anger rises to irrational heights
at this lack of nurture and caring.
With Asperger's Syndrome -
there are the valleys of silence,
until frustration leads you
to the mountains of violence.
Silence begins to climb the mountain
with arguments and debating -
leading to abuse and door-slamming -
then retreats to the silence - abating.
The cycle is very predictable -
because you're trapped in that glass wall -
and silence or violence is the only way -
you can express your FEELINGS at all.
On a factual logical level -
your mind is very clear.
And business associates would never guess
that your FEELINGS are trapped in fear.
Copyright � 24th July, 1998 Marguerite Long. E-mail: [email protected]